I (M29) and my gf (F29) have been together for 3 years now and had a FWB relationship prior to that for 6 months.
Our biggest issue imo throughout our relationship has been my view on our sex like. She doesn’t have any issue with it and is very satisfied with it, mainly because I have a highly drive than her which means her needs are well met. We’ve had conversations that I’ve initiated where I bring up the issues I’m having and she does a very good job addressing them. The biggest one, and this is one of the few things she has trouble addressing, is her not initiating the sex enough. For the first year and a half I was initiating 99% percent of the time, and I didn’t have a problem with it until I “noticed it”. I noticed it and thought to myself, how long can we go without it before she brings it up, tldr 3 weeks later I break.
She states, “I assume you were tied since you’ve been so busy at work”. I confront her about her lack of initiation and the issue is addressed but a few months later we’re having the same conversation again and then a few months later again. She really did try, and I commend her for it, every time was better than the last but I’ve gotten to the point where I kinda shut down emotionally when it happens. There’s been a few nights where I just lay in bed next to her wide awake after there’s been clear signs that I wanted to do something, giving her the opportunity to initiate. (And these have been after days were we spent the day “flirting/teasing” each other)
Anyways I’m writing this while she’s next to me dead asleep. We spent the entire day together, flirted and teased each other throughout. She whispered in my ear the things she would do to me once we got in bed and when we did she was out in a matter of minutes. I have this sinking feeling in my chest and I don’t know if I have the right to feel this way. I can’t stop my head from the thoughts it’s having, does she desire me? Can I be in this relationship long(er) term if this is a recurring issue? Is this really that important of an issue? Am I overreacting? Does she care if I’m feeling this way about? Am I just being a little bitch because my gf doesn’t wanna have sex with me tonight?
Am I wrong to think and feel this way?
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r/sex I (M29) and my gf (F29) have been together for 3 years now and had a FWB relationship prior to that for 6 months. Our biggest issue imo throughout our relationship has been my view on our sex like. She doesn’t have any issue with it and is very satisfied with it, mainly because I have a highly drive than her which means her needs are well met. We’ve had conversations that I’ve initiated where I bring up the issues I’m having and she does a very good job addressing them. The biggest one, and this is one of the few things she has trouble addressing, is her not initiating the sex enough. For the first year and a half I was initiating 99% percent of the time, and I didn’t have a problem with it until I “noticed it”. I noticed it and thought to myself, how long can we go without it before she brings it up, tldr 3 weeks later I break. She states, “I assume you were tied since you’ve been so busy at work”. I confront her about her lack of initiation and the issue is addressed but a few months later we’re having the same conversation again and then a few months later again. She really did try, and I commend her for it, every time was better than the last but I’ve gotten to the point where I kinda shut down emotionally when it happens. There’s been a few nights where I just lay in bed next to her wide awake after there’s been clear signs that I wanted to do something, giving her the opportunity to initiate. (And these have been after days were we spent the day “flirting/teasing” each other) Anyways I’m writing this while she’s next to me dead asleep. We spent the entire day together, flirted and teased each other throughout. She whispered in my ear the things she would do to me once we got in bed and when we did she was out in a matter of minutes. I have this sinking feeling in my chest and I don’t know if I have the right to feel this way. I can’t stop my head from the thoughts it’s having, does she desire me? Can I be in this relationship long(er) term if this is a recurring issue? Is this really that important of an issue? Am I overreacting? Does she care if I’m feeling this way about? Am I just being a little bitch because my gf doesn’t wanna have sex with me tonight? Am I wrong to think and feel this way? submitted by /u/moaningpervert [link] [comments]
I (M29) and my gf (F29) have been together for 3 years now and had a FWB relationship prior to that for 6 months.
Our biggest issue imo throughout our relationship has been my view on our sex like. She doesn’t have any issue with it and is very satisfied with it, mainly because I have a highly drive than her which means her needs are well met. We’ve had conversations that I’ve initiated where I bring up the issues I’m having and she does a very good job addressing them. The biggest one, and this is one of the few things she has trouble addressing, is her not initiating the sex enough. For the first year and a half I was initiating 99% percent of the time, and I didn’t have a problem with it until I “noticed it”. I noticed it and thought to myself, how long can we go without it before she brings it up, tldr 3 weeks later I break.
She states, “I assume you were tied since you’ve been so busy at work”. I confront her about her lack of initiation and the issue is addressed but a few months later we’re having the same conversation again and then a few months later again. She really did try, and I commend her for it, every time was better than the last but I’ve gotten to the point where I kinda shut down emotionally when it happens. There’s been a few nights where I just lay in bed next to her wide awake after there’s been clear signs that I wanted to do something, giving her the opportunity to initiate. (And these have been after days were we spent the day “flirting/teasing” each other)
Anyways I’m writing this while she’s next to me dead asleep. We spent the entire day together, flirted and teased each other throughout. She whispered in my ear the things she would do to me once we got in bed and when we did she was out in a matter of minutes. I have this sinking feeling in my chest and I don’t know if I have the right to feel this way. I can’t stop my head from the thoughts it’s having, does she desire me? Can I be in this relationship long(er) term if this is a recurring issue? Is this really that important of an issue? Am I overreacting? Does she care if I’m feeling this way about? Am I just being a little bitch because my gf doesn’t wanna have sex with me tonight?
Am I wrong to think and feel this way?
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