24M never wants to have sex with me /u/herbal_witch2202 Sex

Hello!

So me and my partner are having issues relating to sex. He’s 24 and I’m 25. We’ve been living together for about four months. This man’s sex drive is nonexistent. Like, i think I could walk around naked and he would think nothing. I imitate everything and he turns me down majority of the time unless he’s drunk. I’ve tried to talk to him and he basically just brushes it off as his libido is lower, which I understand but that frustrates me because I feel like he does nothing to help. Like I’ve explained to him that this isn’t a small issue, that this is a major need of mine that is being completely ignored and it’s almost like because he doesn’t understand it, it’s not a problem. Specifically tonight he said “if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t care”. The lack of sex is frustrating but I’m more so frustrated with him not putting effort in. He’s gotten his testosterone levels checked and everything’s fine but he basically refuses to talk to his doctor about it for some reason. He chalks it up to the fact that they’re not going to do anything past checking levels, but to me a 24 year old who’s in the honeymoon stage and has no sex drive cannot be normal. Idk. He seems very pessimistic about it all and idk how to get through to him. I basically told him tonight that I cannot keep having this same conversation and that this will lead to us breaking up. Like the lack of intimacy is driving me insane. His brother died a year ago so I’m thinking that he’s gong through a depression which I understand. I’ve really tried to be here for him. But he told me straight up that he thinks it’s a libido issue and not depression.

Idk I just genuinely don’t know what to do. He just seems like he doesn’t give a shit. Sex is something that I need in a relationship and my needs aren’t being met. I don’t think it’s fair for him to ask me to change something about myself but he won’t even make an effort to sleep with his partner.

Any advice is helpful

Hello!

So me and my partner are having issues relating to sex. He’s 24 and I’m 25. We’ve been living together for about four months. This man’s sex drive is nonexistent. Like, i think I could walk around naked and he would think nothing. I imitate everything and he turns me down majority of the time unless he’s drunk. I’ve tried to talk to him and he basically just brushes it off as his libido is lower, which I understand but that frustrates me because I feel like he does nothing to help. Like I’ve explained to him that this isn’t a small issue, that this is a major need of mine that is being completely ignored and it’s almost like because he doesn’t understand it, it’s not a problem. Specifically tonight he said “if I were in your shoes I wouldn’t care”. The lack of sex is frustrating but I’m more so frustrated with him not putting effort in. He’s gotten his testosterone levels checked and everything’s fine but he basically refuses to talk to his doctor about it for some reason. He chalks it up to the fact that they’re not going to do anything past checking levels, but to me a 24 year old who’s in the honeymoon stage and has no sex drive cannot be normal. Idk. He seems very pessimistic about it all and idk how to get through to him. I basically told him tonight that I cannot keep having this same conversation and that this will lead to us breaking up. Like the lack of intimacy is driving me insane. His brother died a year ago so I’m thinking that he’s gong through a depression which I understand. I’ve really tried to be here for him. But he told me straight up that he thinks it’s a libido issue and not depression.

Idk I just genuinely don’t know what to do. He just seems like he doesn’t give a shit. Sex is something that I need in a relationship and my needs aren’t being met. I don’t think it’s fair for him to ask me to change something about myself but he won’t even make an effort to sleep with his partner.

Any advice is helpful