We’ve been together for a few months and have had sex three times. I’m going to try to give context. The first time he couldn’t stay erect. He said it was because he wasn’t used to condoms. (His last relationship was rocky, sometimes physically abusive toward him, lasted nine years, and she cheated on him.) The second time, I went down on him then went on top and we both got off. The third time, he was the aggressor and things were pretty strange. He started off on top and kissing me on the mouth but not really anywhere else. There was a little bit of rudimentary foreplay with a finger below the belt that was ok. But once he was inside me, he was just pistoning his hips like I wasn’t there. He didn’t even have his head turned toward me. Like we’re in the Victorian era and sex is only for baby-making, not pleasure seeking. I was so confused at the unsexiness of it all (and this is where I need insight and advice): just moving his hips, head turned away, silent, apologizing because he’s squishing me or because I’m “probably getting bored”, etc. I asked if I could get on top this last time, and so I did my thing. He climaxed and I climinied.
My question is two part: 1. What could be the reason for the obvious disconnection during sex? and 2. How do I correct course quickly to make sure our sex life matches the chemistry we have outside the bedroom? I would hate to friendzone, but physical intimacy is that important to me.
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r/sex We’ve been together for a few months and have had sex three times. I’m going to try to give context. The first time he couldn’t stay erect. He said it was because he wasn’t used to condoms. (His last relationship was rocky, sometimes physically abusive toward him, lasted nine years, and she cheated on him.) The second time, I went down on him then went on top and we both got off. The third time, he was the aggressor and things were pretty strange. He started off on top and kissing me on the mouth but not really anywhere else. There was a little bit of rudimentary foreplay with a finger below the belt that was ok. But once he was inside me, he was just pistoning his hips like I wasn’t there. He didn’t even have his head turned toward me. Like we’re in the Victorian era and sex is only for baby-making, not pleasure seeking. I was so confused at the unsexiness of it all (and this is where I need insight and advice): just moving his hips, head turned away, silent, apologizing because he’s squishing me or because I’m “probably getting bored”, etc. I asked if I could get on top this last time, and so I did my thing. He climaxed and I climinied. My question is two part: 1. What could be the reason for the obvious disconnection during sex? and 2. How do I correct course quickly to make sure our sex life matches the chemistry we have outside the bedroom? I would hate to friendzone, but physical intimacy is that important to me. submitted by /u/ScarcityMain5119 [link] [comments]
We’ve been together for a few months and have had sex three times. I’m going to try to give context. The first time he couldn’t stay erect. He said it was because he wasn’t used to condoms. (His last relationship was rocky, sometimes physically abusive toward him, lasted nine years, and she cheated on him.) The second time, I went down on him then went on top and we both got off. The third time, he was the aggressor and things were pretty strange. He started off on top and kissing me on the mouth but not really anywhere else. There was a little bit of rudimentary foreplay with a finger below the belt that was ok. But once he was inside me, he was just pistoning his hips like I wasn’t there. He didn’t even have his head turned toward me. Like we’re in the Victorian era and sex is only for baby-making, not pleasure seeking. I was so confused at the unsexiness of it all (and this is where I need insight and advice): just moving his hips, head turned away, silent, apologizing because he’s squishing me or because I’m “probably getting bored”, etc. I asked if I could get on top this last time, and so I did my thing. He climaxed and I climinied.
My question is two part: 1. What could be the reason for the obvious disconnection during sex? and 2. How do I correct course quickly to make sure our sex life matches the chemistry we have outside the bedroom? I would hate to friendzone, but physical intimacy is that important to me.
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