Disagreement with religious player /u/Foul_Grace DnD: Roll for Initiative!

So I have never DM-ed before but I’ve prepared a one-shot adventure for a group of my friends. One of them is deeply religious and agreed to play, but requested that I don’t have multiple gods in my universe as he would feel like he’s commiting a sin by playing. That frustrated me and I responded sort of angrily saying that that’s stupid, that it’s just a game and that just because I’m playing a wizard doesn’t mean I believe they’re real or that I’m an actual wizard. (Maybe I wouldn’t have immediately gotten angry if it wasn’t for the fact that he has acted similarly in the past where he didn’t want to do or participate in things because of his faith. I’ve always respected his beliefs and I haven’t complained about anything to him until now)

Anyway, in a short exchange I told him that I wasn’t planning on having gods in my world as it’s based on a fantasy version of an actual historical period and location in the real world, and that everyone in universe just believes what they believe and that’s it. (It’s just a one-shot so it’s not even that important) But I added that i was upset because if I had wanted to have a pantheon of gods in the game, he wouldn’t want to play and I’d be forced to change my idea.

He said Thanks, that’s all I wanted. And that’s where the convo ended.

After that I was reading the new 2024 dungeon masters guide and in it they talk about how everyone at the table should be comfortable and having fun, and to allow that you should avoid topics which anyone at the table is sensitive to. They really stress this point and give lots of advice on how to accomodate any special need that a player might have, and that if someone wasn’t comfortable with a topic or a certain thing gave them anxiety or any bad effect, you should remove it from your game no questions asked. They call that a hard limit in the book.

When I read that I started thinking that maybe I acted selfishly and made a mistake by reacting how I did towards my friend. That I should have just respected his wish and accomodated for it and that’s that. I mean I did accomodate for it, but I was kind of a jerk about it.

What do you think about this situation and how both of us acted?

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​r/DnD So I have never DM-ed before but I’ve prepared a one-shot adventure for a group of my friends. One of them is deeply religious and agreed to play, but requested that I don’t have multiple gods in my universe as he would feel like he’s commiting a sin by playing. That frustrated me and I responded sort of angrily saying that that’s stupid, that it’s just a game and that just because I’m playing a wizard doesn’t mean I believe they’re real or that I’m an actual wizard. (Maybe I wouldn’t have immediately gotten angry if it wasn’t for the fact that he has acted similarly in the past where he didn’t want to do or participate in things because of his faith. I’ve always respected his beliefs and I haven’t complained about anything to him until now) Anyway, in a short exchange I told him that I wasn’t planning on having gods in my world as it’s based on a fantasy version of an actual historical period and location in the real world, and that everyone in universe just believes what they believe and that’s it. (It’s just a one-shot so it’s not even that important) But I added that i was upset because if I had wanted to have a pantheon of gods in the game, he wouldn’t want to play and I’d be forced to change my idea. He said Thanks, that’s all I wanted. And that’s where the convo ended. After that I was reading the new 2024 dungeon masters guide and in it they talk about how everyone at the table should be comfortable and having fun, and to allow that you should avoid topics which anyone at the table is sensitive to. They really stress this point and give lots of advice on how to accomodate any special need that a player might have, and that if someone wasn’t comfortable with a topic or a certain thing gave them anxiety or any bad effect, you should remove it from your game no questions asked. They call that a hard limit in the book. When I read that I started thinking that maybe I acted selfishly and made a mistake by reacting how I did towards my friend. That I should have just respected his wish and accomodated for it and that’s that. I mean I did accomodate for it, but I was kind of a jerk about it. What do you think about this situation and how both of us acted? submitted by /u/Foul_Grace [link] [comments] 

So I have never DM-ed before but I’ve prepared a one-shot adventure for a group of my friends. One of them is deeply religious and agreed to play, but requested that I don’t have multiple gods in my universe as he would feel like he’s commiting a sin by playing. That frustrated me and I responded sort of angrily saying that that’s stupid, that it’s just a game and that just because I’m playing a wizard doesn’t mean I believe they’re real or that I’m an actual wizard. (Maybe I wouldn’t have immediately gotten angry if it wasn’t for the fact that he has acted similarly in the past where he didn’t want to do or participate in things because of his faith. I’ve always respected his beliefs and I haven’t complained about anything to him until now)

Anyway, in a short exchange I told him that I wasn’t planning on having gods in my world as it’s based on a fantasy version of an actual historical period and location in the real world, and that everyone in universe just believes what they believe and that’s it. (It’s just a one-shot so it’s not even that important) But I added that i was upset because if I had wanted to have a pantheon of gods in the game, he wouldn’t want to play and I’d be forced to change my idea.

He said Thanks, that’s all I wanted. And that’s where the convo ended.

After that I was reading the new 2024 dungeon masters guide and in it they talk about how everyone at the table should be comfortable and having fun, and to allow that you should avoid topics which anyone at the table is sensitive to. They really stress this point and give lots of advice on how to accomodate any special need that a player might have, and that if someone wasn’t comfortable with a topic or a certain thing gave them anxiety or any bad effect, you should remove it from your game no questions asked. They call that a hard limit in the book.

When I read that I started thinking that maybe I acted selfishly and made a mistake by reacting how I did towards my friend. That I should have just respected his wish and accomodated for it and that’s that. I mean I did accomodate for it, but I was kind of a jerk about it.

What do you think about this situation and how both of us acted?

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