My girlfriend wants to only do one sexual act? /u/Dry-Introduction4252 Sex

I know I clearly need to have a conversation with her but I don’t know how to approach the situation. We are both women for context, and all she wants to do is rub our coochies together. After the first time I did it she didn’t want me to stop. I love doing it but I need more than just doing that every time as I’m doing all the work. Yes, it’s great for me too but sometimes I just want to be taken care of. She is completely silent the entire time, and orgasms under me. I’m assuming she’s not lying because of how she moves under me, and how often she begs for it again and again and speaks about it. She often makes comments as well that is she good enough for me, saying she is not giving me anything during sex basically, so she’s completely aware.

She is not into foreplay, penetration, oral sex, etc. She says I do all of these things great but she’s not interested in that. I also feel some type of way because she allowed me to do all these things when we weren’t exclusive and now that we are it’s all been removed. Now she says things like if you are good today I’ll let you get on top of me as if it’s an award. I also believe it may be a self esteem thing for her as I notice low self esteem in other areas. I’m a huge giver and would love to give her all those things even if I didn’t get back much in return, I just love to please. I’m just the type of person if she has a long day, I ask her if she would like me to help her release stress with my mouth. She says no or I can scissor/trib her or not get anything at all.

When I ask her to do things she goes back to saying we can trib/scissor, or I can go to bed with nothing. I even asked if she would get on top and do it to me, and she says it’s too much for her or would strain her body.

Sex seems to be me on top doing all the work constantly, it’s at a point she just puts lube on and says get on top. She uses the strap/penetrates me roughly once every other month, and oral sex maybe once every three months.

I’ve tried everything I even tried putting her hand down there on me while we are in the bed and she will just move it. If she does get turned on she says I can just get on top of her or begs for me to get on top.

I know I clearly need to have a conversation with her but I don’t know how to approach the situation. We are both women for context, and all she wants to do is rub our coochies together. After the first time I did it she didn’t want me to stop. I love doing it but I need more than just doing that every time as I’m doing all the work. Yes, it’s great for me too but sometimes I just want to be taken care of. She is completely silent the entire time, and orgasms under me. I’m assuming she’s not lying because of how she moves under me, and how often she begs for it again and again and speaks about it. She often makes comments as well that is she good enough for me, saying she is not giving me anything during sex basically, so she’s completely aware.

She is not into foreplay, penetration, oral sex, etc. She says I do all of these things great but she’s not interested in that. I also feel some type of way because she allowed me to do all these things when we weren’t exclusive and now that we are it’s all been removed. Now she says things like if you are good today I’ll let you get on top of me as if it’s an award. I also believe it may be a self esteem thing for her as I notice low self esteem in other areas. I’m a huge giver and would love to give her all those things even if I didn’t get back much in return, I just love to please. I’m just the type of person if she has a long day, I ask her if she would like me to help her release stress with my mouth. She says no or I can scissor/trib her or not get anything at all.

When I ask her to do things she goes back to saying we can trib/scissor, or I can go to bed with nothing. I even asked if she would get on top and do it to me, and she says it’s too much for her or would strain her body.

Sex seems to be me on top doing all the work constantly, it’s at a point she just puts lube on and says get on top. She uses the strap/penetrates me roughly once every other month, and oral sex maybe once every three months.

I’ve tried everything I even tried putting her hand down there on me while we are in the bed and she will just move it. If she does get turned on she says I can just get on top of her or begs for me to get on top.