I 31m and my partner 35 f had sex the other day and I’m honestly discouraged. I’m demisexual and can only be aroused when with someone that I have a deep emotional connection to. This isn’t an issue as I trust and adore my partner. She treats me so well and I really care about her very much.
The issue is: over text, talking about sex etc – I enjoy dirty talk and have a great time envisioning what it will be like.
I find her attractive/sexy and have no trouble becoming around during foreplay etc.
Once we are actually having sex – it’s just kind of boring. .I was able to get her off. She gave oral (which is one of my favorite things) but I wasn’t able to climax. I said it was because of nerves (which is probably mostly true), but the reality was – I just felt kind of “meh” about having sex. I love fantasizing about it, I love dirty talk and sexting and imaging sex – but the actual act of sex just feels like a chore.
What should I do?
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r/sex I 31m and my partner 35 f had sex the other day and I’m honestly discouraged. I’m demisexual and can only be aroused when with someone that I have a deep emotional connection to. This isn’t an issue as I trust and adore my partner. She treats me so well and I really care about her very much. The issue is: over text, talking about sex etc – I enjoy dirty talk and have a great time envisioning what it will be like. I find her attractive/sexy and have no trouble becoming around during foreplay etc. Once we are actually having sex – it’s just kind of boring. .I was able to get her off. She gave oral (which is one of my favorite things) but I wasn’t able to climax. I said it was because of nerves (which is probably mostly true), but the reality was – I just felt kind of “meh” about having sex. I love fantasizing about it, I love dirty talk and sexting and imaging sex – but the actual act of sex just feels like a chore. What should I do? submitted by /u/PipeDazzling [link] [comments]
I 31m and my partner 35 f had sex the other day and I’m honestly discouraged. I’m demisexual and can only be aroused when with someone that I have a deep emotional connection to. This isn’t an issue as I trust and adore my partner. She treats me so well and I really care about her very much.
The issue is: over text, talking about sex etc – I enjoy dirty talk and have a great time envisioning what it will be like.
I find her attractive/sexy and have no trouble becoming around during foreplay etc.
Once we are actually having sex – it’s just kind of boring. .I was able to get her off. She gave oral (which is one of my favorite things) but I wasn’t able to climax. I said it was because of nerves (which is probably mostly true), but the reality was – I just felt kind of “meh” about having sex. I love fantasizing about it, I love dirty talk and sexting and imaging sex – but the actual act of sex just feels like a chore.
What should I do?
submitted by /u/PipeDazzling
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