Can sexual compatibility be one sided experience? /u/lazydaisy033 Sex

I F21 have been together with my boyfriend M23 for about 6 months, and we’ve been sleeping together for about 2 months.

I lost my virginity to him. Before that I was sexually with two other guys (handjobs and oral)

I am never able to orgasm. It’s been a topic in our relationship. He was the one who initiated, that we should fix it. I tried to guide him, but no matter what he does it is never even remotely enough, than I just want it to be over so we progress further. I must say I enjoy the sex alone. It’s nice but physically it is not doing much to me, I’d say I just enjoy looking at him enjoying it. It’s also fun for me to do. But I’m always left physically unsatisfied.

I am able to orgasm on my own, and I orgasm before two times (oral) with a previous guy who was a guy I met while backpacking in Portugal – so I think the thrill of it made it easier for me. I wonder if it’s connected to this somehow – my boyfriend is very golden retriever, secure attachment, very healthy and good guy…The guy was such a fuck boy, toxic, someone I would never want to be in a relationship with now. But it was a type I used to be attracted to.

My boyfriend says we have really great sexual compatibility. I don’t know if it’s because the experience for him is painted over by the orgasm and that’s why I’m so far away from agreeing with the statement he made.

So can be sexual compatibility one sided? Or we are compatible, I just can’t orgasm for whatever reason, and that is making me think otherwise…

And also, what I can do about this situation?

I F21 have been together with my boyfriend M23 for about 6 months, and we’ve been sleeping together for about 2 months.

I lost my virginity to him. Before that I was sexually with two other guys (handjobs and oral)

I am never able to orgasm. It’s been a topic in our relationship. He was the one who initiated, that we should fix it. I tried to guide him, but no matter what he does it is never even remotely enough, than I just want it to be over so we progress further. I must say I enjoy the sex alone. It’s nice but physically it is not doing much to me, I’d say I just enjoy looking at him enjoying it. It’s also fun for me to do. But I’m always left physically unsatisfied.

I am able to orgasm on my own, and I orgasm before two times (oral) with a previous guy who was a guy I met while backpacking in Portugal – so I think the thrill of it made it easier for me. I wonder if it’s connected to this somehow – my boyfriend is very golden retriever, secure attachment, very healthy and good guy…The guy was such a fuck boy, toxic, someone I would never want to be in a relationship with now. But it was a type I used to be attracted to.

My boyfriend says we have really great sexual compatibility. I don’t know if it’s because the experience for him is painted over by the orgasm and that’s why I’m so far away from agreeing with the statement he made.

So can be sexual compatibility one sided? Or we are compatible, I just can’t orgasm for whatever reason, and that is making me think otherwise…

And also, what I can do about this situation?