Less and less sex than before /u/Lias___ Sex

Hi! Me M(19) and my girlfriend (19) have been together for 2.5 years. In the beginning our sex life was pretty okay, we both had sex together for the first time. At that time we had sex 1-2 times a week. For about a year now we’ve been having sex a maximum of once a month and I usually have to initiate it.

When I talk to her about it, she says that it’s not that important for her in a relationship. I don’t think it’s essential either and I’m not interested in the climax but in the time and the feelings you show each other.

She takes the mini pill, which can of course affect her libido. But somehow I don’t understand why you never or only rarely feel like it. And I don’t really want to live without it.

Do you have any suggestions as to what can be done to increase it a little? I’ve already talked to her a lot but I can’t really come up with a useful solution.

Thank you in advance!

Hi! Me M(19) and my girlfriend (19) have been together for 2.5 years. In the beginning our sex life was pretty okay, we both had sex together for the first time. At that time we had sex 1-2 times a week. For about a year now we’ve been having sex a maximum of once a month and I usually have to initiate it.

When I talk to her about it, she says that it’s not that important for her in a relationship. I don’t think it’s essential either and I’m not interested in the climax but in the time and the feelings you show each other.

She takes the mini pill, which can of course affect her libido. But somehow I don’t understand why you never or only rarely feel like it. And I don’t really want to live without it.

Do you have any suggestions as to what can be done to increase it a little? I’ve already talked to her a lot but I can’t really come up with a useful solution.

Thank you in advance!