About six months ago I (25m) went to a coffee shop with my study group from college and two women from another class joined us.
I became friends with one of those women and we talked pretty much every day, but a month ago she told me out of the blue that when she met me she thought I was gay… When I asked her why she told me she found me a bit “dry”, not mean, but uninterested. She’s very pretty and I’ve seen men ask for her number or Insta immediately after meeting her, same with her friend (the other woman who joined my group).
I clarified that I’m not gay (she knew of course after talking for 6 months), and laughed about it. But it made me think a lot about who I find attractive… I got to the conclusion that I only find people really attractive if I actually know them.
It’s not that I’m blind, I can see a woman or man and think they’re beautiful but it does nothing to me. It’s like a fact. “They’re beautiful” would be the same as “They’re eyes are green.”
Even when masturbating, porn does nothing, I might find some actress pretty but it doesn’t turn me on. I would prefer thinking about someone I find attractive and is a friend, neighbor, someone who works with me, etc.
My relationships don’t change at all, with most of them I wouldn’t actually have sex or even date them.
Lately I find myself masturbating to Instagram photos of women I know, specially the one I’ve been talking about, I even downloaded some of those pictures.
I know it’s just fantasy and private, but I weirded myself out.
I wouldn’t tell them this, of course, but I’m getting ashamed that I can’t just watch porn like a normal person.
I don’t even know what to ask… How can I stop being ashamed of myself? Maybe that’s a start.
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r/sex About six months ago I (25m) went to a coffee shop with my study group from college and two women from another class joined us. I became friends with one of those women and we talked pretty much every day, but a month ago she told me out of the blue that when she met me she thought I was gay… When I asked her why she told me she found me a bit “dry”, not mean, but uninterested. She’s very pretty and I’ve seen men ask for her number or Insta immediately after meeting her, same with her friend (the other woman who joined my group). I clarified that I’m not gay (she knew of course after talking for 6 months), and laughed about it. But it made me think a lot about who I find attractive… I got to the conclusion that I only find people really attractive if I actually know them. It’s not that I’m blind, I can see a woman or man and think they’re beautiful but it does nothing to me. It’s like a fact. “They’re beautiful” would be the same as “They’re eyes are green.” Even when masturbating, porn does nothing, I might find some actress pretty but it doesn’t turn me on. I would prefer thinking about someone I find attractive and is a friend, neighbor, someone who works with me, etc. My relationships don’t change at all, with most of them I wouldn’t actually have sex or even date them. Lately I find myself masturbating to Instagram photos of women I know, specially the one I’ve been talking about, I even downloaded some of those pictures. I know it’s just fantasy and private, but I weirded myself out. I wouldn’t tell them this, of course, but I’m getting ashamed that I can’t just watch porn like a normal person. I don’t even know what to ask… How can I stop being ashamed of myself? Maybe that’s a start. submitted by /u/Electrical_Brain1642 [link] [comments]
About six months ago I (25m) went to a coffee shop with my study group from college and two women from another class joined us.
I became friends with one of those women and we talked pretty much every day, but a month ago she told me out of the blue that when she met me she thought I was gay… When I asked her why she told me she found me a bit “dry”, not mean, but uninterested. She’s very pretty and I’ve seen men ask for her number or Insta immediately after meeting her, same with her friend (the other woman who joined my group).
I clarified that I’m not gay (she knew of course after talking for 6 months), and laughed about it. But it made me think a lot about who I find attractive… I got to the conclusion that I only find people really attractive if I actually know them.
It’s not that I’m blind, I can see a woman or man and think they’re beautiful but it does nothing to me. It’s like a fact. “They’re beautiful” would be the same as “They’re eyes are green.”
Even when masturbating, porn does nothing, I might find some actress pretty but it doesn’t turn me on. I would prefer thinking about someone I find attractive and is a friend, neighbor, someone who works with me, etc.
My relationships don’t change at all, with most of them I wouldn’t actually have sex or even date them.
Lately I find myself masturbating to Instagram photos of women I know, specially the one I’ve been talking about, I even downloaded some of those pictures.
I know it’s just fantasy and private, but I weirded myself out.
I wouldn’t tell them this, of course, but I’m getting ashamed that I can’t just watch porn like a normal person.
I don’t even know what to ask… How can I stop being ashamed of myself? Maybe that’s a start.
submitted by /u/Electrical_Brain1642
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