Can not control orgasm. How do I fuck? /u/MrWannaBeGreat Sex

I (24M) have never been able to have full control of my orgasms. I remember my first time I had sex I nutted extremely fast, and I don’t think it’s ever gotten better. There have been times where I did last longer, and both me and my girl were pleased but it’s only a drop in the bucket compared to how many times I haven’t been able to. With my current girl when we first started having sex together I made her cum every time from penetration sex. But then I started orgasming way too fast again.

I’ve only ever lasted longer than 5 minutes like 2 times in my entire life.

This is becoming a dampener on my relationship and my girl is becoming more and more disappointed with my poor performance.

Yes I can make her cum relatively easy with just giving her head, but she doesn’t take that long to cum from penetration so I know she prefers orgasming from penetration and so I can tell she’s genuinely dissatisfied with me in the sex department. So much that one time we had a pretty large argument and one of the reasons were because we “aren’t sexually compatible”. If I could just be able to give her penetration sex for 5 minutes I guarantee she’d be able to cum every time.

So Gentlemen (or ladies if you have any input please I need the help) how do you fuck?

Start slow? Go fast and hard ? Are you focusing on breathing ? I really care about this person and I honestly don’t think that she’ll leave me, but then she’ll just be disappointed and unsatisfied staying with me so I HAVE to fix this.

Yes I have tried to wear a condom (it did not help), and I want to try the whole cum and then foreplay till I’m hard again, but she doesn’t take not like that because : She says I get her so close and then I cum and then I want to foreplay and she’s just extremely disappointed and it kills the mood. I think it kills the mood for her because obviously she doesn’t take long to make orgasm at all, so she’s not used to that at all.

Please help

I (24M) have never been able to have full control of my orgasms. I remember my first time I had sex I nutted extremely fast, and I don’t think it’s ever gotten better. There have been times where I did last longer, and both me and my girl were pleased but it’s only a drop in the bucket compared to how many times I haven’t been able to. With my current girl when we first started having sex together I made her cum every time from penetration sex. But then I started orgasming way too fast again.

I’ve only ever lasted longer than 5 minutes like 2 times in my entire life.

This is becoming a dampener on my relationship and my girl is becoming more and more disappointed with my poor performance.

Yes I can make her cum relatively easy with just giving her head, but she doesn’t take that long to cum from penetration so I know she prefers orgasming from penetration and so I can tell she’s genuinely dissatisfied with me in the sex department. So much that one time we had a pretty large argument and one of the reasons were because we “aren’t sexually compatible”. If I could just be able to give her penetration sex for 5 minutes I guarantee she’d be able to cum every time.

So Gentlemen (or ladies if you have any input please I need the help) how do you fuck?

Start slow? Go fast and hard ? Are you focusing on breathing ? I really care about this person and I honestly don’t think that she’ll leave me, but then she’ll just be disappointed and unsatisfied staying with me so I HAVE to fix this.

Yes I have tried to wear a condom (it did not help), and I want to try the whole cum and then foreplay till I’m hard again, but she doesn’t take not like that because : She says I get her so close and then I cum and then I want to foreplay and she’s just extremely disappointed and it kills the mood. I think it kills the mood for her because obviously she doesn’t take long to make orgasm at all, so she’s not used to that at all.

Please help