My (27F) boyfriend (33M) and I have been together for a couple of months. When we first got together we were having sex almost everyday/a few times a week at minimum. Right now we’re only having sex once a week/fortnight.
I get really horny and end up initiating a lot by being flirty and touching him but he turns me down by saying he’s too tired/not in the mood/feeling too hot. I understand where he’s coming from but it’s hard not to feel rejected when it keeps happening…. makes me kick myself for being too horny/needy but i really can’t help it. Also a part of me feels like there might be an underlying reason, because there have been times where I have been really exhausted/hot but I still want sex with him just because I enjoy it and I still feel like it’d be worth it (I have never said no when he initiates.) Sometimes I wonder if we’re having sex less because he’s not as attracted to me anymore, or because sex with me is too boring?
He’s very vanilla, and I give him bjs once in awhile, but he’s never tried eating me and i haven’t cum when we’ve had sex. Foreplay, and sex in general, is pretty short too. Once he cums we’re done and sex is over….. I like cuddles and making out even without sex, and physical affection is really important to me, but even that’s getting more rare because it’s summer and he gets too hot. I love him, but it sometimes feels like my physical needs are not being met and I’m starting to feel frustrated. I want to talk to him about if but I feel like I’m just asking for more and idk how to go about it without feeling bad or guilty.
tldr; why do people have sex with their partners less after awhile? i know it’s gonna be different for everyone and my best bet is to ask him properly, but i want to have a general idea before broaching the topic with him.
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r/sex My (27F) boyfriend (33M) and I have been together for a couple of months. When we first got together we were having sex almost everyday/a few times a week at minimum. Right now we’re only having sex once a week/fortnight. I get really horny and end up initiating a lot by being flirty and touching him but he turns me down by saying he’s too tired/not in the mood/feeling too hot. I understand where he’s coming from but it’s hard not to feel rejected when it keeps happening…. makes me kick myself for being too horny/needy but i really can’t help it. Also a part of me feels like there might be an underlying reason, because there have been times where I have been really exhausted/hot but I still want sex with him just because I enjoy it and I still feel like it’d be worth it (I have never said no when he initiates.) Sometimes I wonder if we’re having sex less because he’s not as attracted to me anymore, or because sex with me is too boring? He’s very vanilla, and I give him bjs once in awhile, but he’s never tried eating me and i haven’t cum when we’ve had sex. Foreplay, and sex in general, is pretty short too. Once he cums we’re done and sex is over….. I like cuddles and making out even without sex, and physical affection is really important to me, but even that’s getting more rare because it’s summer and he gets too hot. I love him, but it sometimes feels like my physical needs are not being met and I’m starting to feel frustrated. I want to talk to him about if but I feel like I’m just asking for more and idk how to go about it without feeling bad or guilty. tldr; why do people have sex with their partners less after awhile? i know it’s gonna be different for everyone and my best bet is to ask him properly, but i want to have a general idea before broaching the topic with him. submitted by /u/Inevitable_Cat_909 [link] [comments]
My (27F) boyfriend (33M) and I have been together for a couple of months. When we first got together we were having sex almost everyday/a few times a week at minimum. Right now we’re only having sex once a week/fortnight.
I get really horny and end up initiating a lot by being flirty and touching him but he turns me down by saying he’s too tired/not in the mood/feeling too hot. I understand where he’s coming from but it’s hard not to feel rejected when it keeps happening…. makes me kick myself for being too horny/needy but i really can’t help it. Also a part of me feels like there might be an underlying reason, because there have been times where I have been really exhausted/hot but I still want sex with him just because I enjoy it and I still feel like it’d be worth it (I have never said no when he initiates.) Sometimes I wonder if we’re having sex less because he’s not as attracted to me anymore, or because sex with me is too boring?
He’s very vanilla, and I give him bjs once in awhile, but he’s never tried eating me and i haven’t cum when we’ve had sex. Foreplay, and sex in general, is pretty short too. Once he cums we’re done and sex is over….. I like cuddles and making out even without sex, and physical affection is really important to me, but even that’s getting more rare because it’s summer and he gets too hot. I love him, but it sometimes feels like my physical needs are not being met and I’m starting to feel frustrated. I want to talk to him about if but I feel like I’m just asking for more and idk how to go about it without feeling bad or guilty.
tldr; why do people have sex with their partners less after awhile? i know it’s gonna be different for everyone and my best bet is to ask him properly, but i want to have a general idea before broaching the topic with him.
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