Before you jump to the comments, I’m not here for a lecture on condom use. I’m well aware I haven’t made the best choices so far, but I suffer from pretty severe social anxiety, and will often neglect my own wants and needs to avoid conflict with people. I also don’t need any opinions on whether or not I should leave. I just need to figure out how to handle this situation.
So, up until this point, my partner and I haven’t been using condoms. This is partly because he hates them, and even though I’d prefer it, I didn’t want to start an argument with him. Also, I have an IUD, and I trusted him enough not to give me an STI. A lot of that trust has been lost recently, because he’s gotten back into contact with his ex, and has started hanging out with her. He said that he wouldn’t be speaking to her anymore, and went back on that. He also says that he’s not going to sleep with her, but now it’s kind of hard to trust that. Now not to be mean to the ex, but I know for a fact that she sleeps around a lot. Statistically, I would assume she’s more likely to have an STI. Like I said, I’m really worried that he’s going to hook up with her, and then pass whatever she’s had to me. Because of this concern, next time I see him, I’d like to ask my boyfriend to wear a condom. I’m worried it’s going to start a whole fight, because I haven’t asked him to do so in the past, and so he might accuse me that I don’t trust him anymore. (That is the case, to some degree, but that’s not a discussion I’m ready to have yet.) How do I navigate this situation?
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r/sex Before you jump to the comments, I’m not here for a lecture on condom use. I’m well aware I haven’t made the best choices so far, but I suffer from pretty severe social anxiety, and will often neglect my own wants and needs to avoid conflict with people. I also don’t need any opinions on whether or not I should leave. I just need to figure out how to handle this situation. So, up until this point, my partner and I haven’t been using condoms. This is partly because he hates them, and even though I’d prefer it, I didn’t want to start an argument with him. Also, I have an IUD, and I trusted him enough not to give me an STI. A lot of that trust has been lost recently, because he’s gotten back into contact with his ex, and has started hanging out with her. He said that he wouldn’t be speaking to her anymore, and went back on that. He also says that he’s not going to sleep with her, but now it’s kind of hard to trust that. Now not to be mean to the ex, but I know for a fact that she sleeps around a lot. Statistically, I would assume she’s more likely to have an STI. Like I said, I’m really worried that he’s going to hook up with her, and then pass whatever she’s had to me. Because of this concern, next time I see him, I’d like to ask my boyfriend to wear a condom. I’m worried it’s going to start a whole fight, because I haven’t asked him to do so in the past, and so he might accuse me that I don’t trust him anymore. (That is the case, to some degree, but that’s not a discussion I’m ready to have yet.) How do I navigate this situation? submitted by /u/M1dn1ght_21 [link] [comments]
Before you jump to the comments, I’m not here for a lecture on condom use. I’m well aware I haven’t made the best choices so far, but I suffer from pretty severe social anxiety, and will often neglect my own wants and needs to avoid conflict with people. I also don’t need any opinions on whether or not I should leave. I just need to figure out how to handle this situation.
So, up until this point, my partner and I haven’t been using condoms. This is partly because he hates them, and even though I’d prefer it, I didn’t want to start an argument with him. Also, I have an IUD, and I trusted him enough not to give me an STI. A lot of that trust has been lost recently, because he’s gotten back into contact with his ex, and has started hanging out with her. He said that he wouldn’t be speaking to her anymore, and went back on that. He also says that he’s not going to sleep with her, but now it’s kind of hard to trust that. Now not to be mean to the ex, but I know for a fact that she sleeps around a lot. Statistically, I would assume she’s more likely to have an STI. Like I said, I’m really worried that he’s going to hook up with her, and then pass whatever she’s had to me. Because of this concern, next time I see him, I’d like to ask my boyfriend to wear a condom. I’m worried it’s going to start a whole fight, because I haven’t asked him to do so in the past, and so he might accuse me that I don’t trust him anymore. (That is the case, to some degree, but that’s not a discussion I’m ready to have yet.) How do I navigate this situation?
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