First time posting, anything on Reddit. Wife (41F) and I (45M) have been together now for 19+ years, married for going on 15. Sex used to be hot and heavy, we’ve gone from anything from 5x a week, to 5x a day, add in 4 kids and busy schedules, and now if it happens once a week, she feels that I should be grateful. We’ve had many discussions on how this is an important part of our relationship, and how I miss the intimacy that we used to have, and it just isn’t on her radar of things that are a priority in her life. So, with this, comes the other issues, communication breaks down, due to not feeling loved at certain times, my self esteem goes to shit some days, due to the lack of feeling wanted, and it always gets met with a “that’s just in your head”. It hit me recently that since my daughter was born, 10 years ago, she hasn’t let me touch her breasts in a sexual way, or anyway. 10 years. Tells me that she just isn’t feeling it, 90% of the time, her shirt won’t even come off. Vanilla, robotic sex is the best I can hope for, I’ve expressed my feelings on this repeatedly, to no avail. I constantly get “it will come” but never does. My wife is a beautiful, fit, mother of 4, she takes extremely good care of herself, has zero body issues, healthy, etc. Sex just seems to be the sticking point in our relationship, and I’m driving myself crazy figuring it out. I take her on trips, we regularly have date nights, buy her flowers for no reason, communicate well about anything, all the markers of what should make a great relationship, other than a busy schedule with the kids, there should be no hangups.
Help me figure this out, I want to be able to hold my wife, without thinking it’s just because she knows it’s been a week, and she “should do it” I don’t want to be in a sexless marriage, but I feel there is nothing that “turns her on” to want to jump me like she used to.
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r/sex First time posting, anything on Reddit. Wife (41F) and I (45M) have been together now for 19+ years, married for going on 15. Sex used to be hot and heavy, we’ve gone from anything from 5x a week, to 5x a day, add in 4 kids and busy schedules, and now if it happens once a week, she feels that I should be grateful. We’ve had many discussions on how this is an important part of our relationship, and how I miss the intimacy that we used to have, and it just isn’t on her radar of things that are a priority in her life. So, with this, comes the other issues, communication breaks down, due to not feeling loved at certain times, my self esteem goes to shit some days, due to the lack of feeling wanted, and it always gets met with a “that’s just in your head”. It hit me recently that since my daughter was born, 10 years ago, she hasn’t let me touch her breasts in a sexual way, or anyway. 10 years. Tells me that she just isn’t feeling it, 90% of the time, her shirt won’t even come off. Vanilla, robotic sex is the best I can hope for, I’ve expressed my feelings on this repeatedly, to no avail. I constantly get “it will come” but never does. My wife is a beautiful, fit, mother of 4, she takes extremely good care of herself, has zero body issues, healthy, etc. Sex just seems to be the sticking point in our relationship, and I’m driving myself crazy figuring it out. I take her on trips, we regularly have date nights, buy her flowers for no reason, communicate well about anything, all the markers of what should make a great relationship, other than a busy schedule with the kids, there should be no hangups. Help me figure this out, I want to be able to hold my wife, without thinking it’s just because she knows it’s been a week, and she “should do it” I don’t want to be in a sexless marriage, but I feel there is nothing that “turns her on” to want to jump me like she used to. submitted by /u/Bakerman47 [link] [comments]
First time posting, anything on Reddit. Wife (41F) and I (45M) have been together now for 19+ years, married for going on 15. Sex used to be hot and heavy, we’ve gone from anything from 5x a week, to 5x a day, add in 4 kids and busy schedules, and now if it happens once a week, she feels that I should be grateful. We’ve had many discussions on how this is an important part of our relationship, and how I miss the intimacy that we used to have, and it just isn’t on her radar of things that are a priority in her life. So, with this, comes the other issues, communication breaks down, due to not feeling loved at certain times, my self esteem goes to shit some days, due to the lack of feeling wanted, and it always gets met with a “that’s just in your head”. It hit me recently that since my daughter was born, 10 years ago, she hasn’t let me touch her breasts in a sexual way, or anyway. 10 years. Tells me that she just isn’t feeling it, 90% of the time, her shirt won’t even come off. Vanilla, robotic sex is the best I can hope for, I’ve expressed my feelings on this repeatedly, to no avail. I constantly get “it will come” but never does. My wife is a beautiful, fit, mother of 4, she takes extremely good care of herself, has zero body issues, healthy, etc. Sex just seems to be the sticking point in our relationship, and I’m driving myself crazy figuring it out. I take her on trips, we regularly have date nights, buy her flowers for no reason, communicate well about anything, all the markers of what should make a great relationship, other than a busy schedule with the kids, there should be no hangups.
Help me figure this out, I want to be able to hold my wife, without thinking it’s just because she knows it’s been a week, and she “should do it” I don’t want to be in a sexless marriage, but I feel there is nothing that “turns her on” to want to jump me like she used to.
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