If I enjoy thinking about sex, and feel sexual attraction, but don’t like actually having sex, what does that mean? Is that an issue of sexuality, psychology, or physiology? /u/Visible-Papaya-6285 Sex

I have sexual desires and feel sexual attraction, I would love to please my partner and the thought of it makes me really excited but I am rarely as turned on as he is or have as much sex drive as he does. I thought maybe it’s because he’s a man but my girl friends also seem to be super horny sometimes too which I am not.. I haven’t had sex in quite a long time and have only ever had one partner, but in my past relationship I did it almost purely for him and not for my own pleasure, atop that it hurt so much, especially during insertion. My greatest fear since I can remember is being sexually assaulted as it has happened before, but whenever my partner and I are talking about having sex that’s never what I’m thinking about so I’ve never thought of my fears being the issue. Is there something wrong with me? Is my libido something I can fix?

I have sexual desires and feel sexual attraction, I would love to please my partner and the thought of it makes me really excited but I am rarely as turned on as he is or have as much sex drive as he does. I thought maybe it’s because he’s a man but my girl friends also seem to be super horny sometimes too which I am not.. I haven’t had sex in quite a long time and have only ever had one partner, but in my past relationship I did it almost purely for him and not for my own pleasure, atop that it hurt so much, especially during insertion. My greatest fear since I can remember is being sexually assaulted as it has happened before, but whenever my partner and I are talking about having sex that’s never what I’m thinking about so I’ve never thought of my fears being the issue. Is there something wrong with me? Is my libido something I can fix?