BDSM and previous domestic abuse /u/brittiam Sex

So I hooked up with guy and after the first time we had sex we began talking about our past relationship history. He told me he does not party anymore because one night him and his fiancé at the time were drinking and at the end of the night he ended up shoving her. He did not provide anymore details on this incident other than he is sober now and won’t date anyone who does drink. We’ve only had sex once and it was a little uncomfortable for me and with this new information it gives me a little bit of pause going forward. We talked beforehand about him being kinky and how kinky I was. He told me he liked gagging and tying up and I said I was cool with that. We did both things but one time when I was going down on him he started to just face fuck me without letting me know and when I stood up he walked behind me and pulled my hair causing me to kind of trip… it was a weird feeling for me. He also had trouble getting inside me and I normally have a hard time getting wet and we had never been with each other before so I figured it would take a little bit… but he kept trying and then accidentally put it in my butt which was really painful. He stopped as soon as I said to stop… Idk thinking back on this encounter if I can just admit it was a very awkward encounter with two people who didn’t know each other’s bodies… or if it was something else. Any advice would be appreciated because I don’t have much experience in this area.

So I hooked up with guy and after the first time we had sex we began talking about our past relationship history. He told me he does not party anymore because one night him and his fiancé at the time were drinking and at the end of the night he ended up shoving her. He did not provide anymore details on this incident other than he is sober now and won’t date anyone who does drink. We’ve only had sex once and it was a little uncomfortable for me and with this new information it gives me a little bit of pause going forward. We talked beforehand about him being kinky and how kinky I was. He told me he liked gagging and tying up and I said I was cool with that. We did both things but one time when I was going down on him he started to just face fuck me without letting me know and when I stood up he walked behind me and pulled my hair causing me to kind of trip… it was a weird feeling for me. He also had trouble getting inside me and I normally have a hard time getting wet and we had never been with each other before so I figured it would take a little bit… but he kept trying and then accidentally put it in my butt which was really painful. He stopped as soon as I said to stop… Idk thinking back on this encounter if I can just admit it was a very awkward encounter with two people who didn’t know each other’s bodies… or if it was something else. Any advice would be appreciated because I don’t have much experience in this area.