My boyfriend won’t have sex with me /u/Extension_Tale_1015 Sex

I (33F) don’t know what to do anymore. He (35M) has recently lost his investments, and is taking it as well as he can. He has a new part-time gig that he wants to scale into a larger business. He seems inspired when he speaks about his ideas and shows me his Freeform projects about his business. I’m always invested in his progress and I’m so proud of him.

He is the oldest in his family, with one younger brother. He’s become accustomed to taking care of everyone and used to being the provider and protector. I understand that this blow to his finances doesn’t allow him to provide in the way that makes him feel useful, so I try to make him feel useful and ask him for his help whenever I can. (Opening things, solving problems, etc)

I am trying so hard to be a good partner for him and all I want from him is his love, desire and affection. But he’s wrapped in his hobbies so much that he neglects me. And I don’t want him to stop enjoying his things, but he didn’t even kiss or hug me today. It’s 1pm. He woke up to a fully cooked breakfast and it went cold because he immediately opening his laptop to watch football and watch his fantasy numbers.

I grabbed his hand when he walked over to the couch to indicate that I’d like him to just look at me for a second and kiss me, but he said “hold on a sec” and sat down, opened his laptop, and began to watch a YouTube video.

He now has taken his laptop outside on the balcony and is watching the game there. Which I would not have a problem with if he had even just acknowledged my existence this morning. He knows how much I value his time and attention. He knows how much I want his touch and affection in the morning.

And it’s been weeks since we’ve had sex. We used to go at it like crazy. Over time he just stopped. We’ve had struggles with his energy levels bc he only enjoys sex when he’s thrusting, so I can’t give him a break and ride him or he’ll lose his erection. So sex is this arduous task for him, and he just doesn’t want to fuck me anymore. When we do have sex, he can only cum when he has me facing away from him. Last night as we laid on the couch, he got kinda hard and I felt him pressing against me. I grabbed his hand and he let go of me, and told me to watch the movie, and I felt his erection fade.

I am aching for him daily and he just doesn’t want me. I stay clean, smell good, do my hair and he doesn’t notice. I keep the house clean. I ask him questions about his interests, I even help him sort his MTG cards sometimes and enjoy the art of the cards. I just don’t know what else to do.

tl;dr – my boyfriend says fucking me is too tiring but won’t stay hard if I’m on top. He’s rejecting my advances and not noticing when I try to connect with him.

I (33F) don’t know what to do anymore. He (35M) has recently lost his investments, and is taking it as well as he can. He has a new part-time gig that he wants to scale into a larger business. He seems inspired when he speaks about his ideas and shows me his Freeform projects about his business. I’m always invested in his progress and I’m so proud of him.

He is the oldest in his family, with one younger brother. He’s become accustomed to taking care of everyone and used to being the provider and protector. I understand that this blow to his finances doesn’t allow him to provide in the way that makes him feel useful, so I try to make him feel useful and ask him for his help whenever I can. (Opening things, solving problems, etc)

I am trying so hard to be a good partner for him and all I want from him is his love, desire and affection. But he’s wrapped in his hobbies so much that he neglects me. And I don’t want him to stop enjoying his things, but he didn’t even kiss or hug me today. It’s 1pm. He woke up to a fully cooked breakfast and it went cold because he immediately opening his laptop to watch football and watch his fantasy numbers.

I grabbed his hand when he walked over to the couch to indicate that I’d like him to just look at me for a second and kiss me, but he said “hold on a sec” and sat down, opened his laptop, and began to watch a YouTube video.

He now has taken his laptop outside on the balcony and is watching the game there. Which I would not have a problem with if he had even just acknowledged my existence this morning. He knows how much I value his time and attention. He knows how much I want his touch and affection in the morning.

And it’s been weeks since we’ve had sex. We used to go at it like crazy. Over time he just stopped. We’ve had struggles with his energy levels bc he only enjoys sex when he’s thrusting, so I can’t give him a break and ride him or he’ll lose his erection. So sex is this arduous task for him, and he just doesn’t want to fuck me anymore. When we do have sex, he can only cum when he has me facing away from him. Last night as we laid on the couch, he got kinda hard and I felt him pressing against me. I grabbed his hand and he let go of me, and told me to watch the movie, and I felt his erection fade.

I am aching for him daily and he just doesn’t want me. I stay clean, smell good, do my hair and he doesn’t notice. I keep the house clean. I ask him questions about his interests, I even help him sort his MTG cards sometimes and enjoy the art of the cards. I just don’t know what else to do.

tl;dr – my boyfriend says fucking me is too tiring but won’t stay hard if I’m on top. He’s rejecting my advances and not noticing when I try to connect with him.