Me and my bf (F&M both mid 30s) have been together for close to 3 years. Since we moved in together about 2 years ago our sex life decreased drastically, from every other day to once every 2 weeks. I talked to him a lot about it, to the point that I think constantly talking about it is part of the problem. It has made it a bit of a chore, or nagging. Makes it sound like I’m complaining or calling out something he isn’t doing. Basically adding pressure.
He has mentioned that he thinks it’s because we see each other all the time at home and also because his sleep patterns are not great and he needs me to stop worrying about it. But I can tell that there is a lack of excitement in sex in general. He isn’t really masturbating because I can tell he feels guilty that his sexual attention is not focused on us.
I don’t think it’s a lack of attraction once we are in the bedroom it’s pretty great, it’s maybe that lack of excitement and building up desire.
We are very close, and have tons of affection, so it’s not like he lost interest in me. I think it’s the so called “spark” that is missing. I will sometimes send a flirty text when he is at work or try to say something dirty but I get an uncomfortable “haha yeah” response every time followed by a change of subject.
What are ways I can spice up our relationship and reignite the excitement?
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r/sex Me and my bf (F&M both mid 30s) have been together for close to 3 years. Since we moved in together about 2 years ago our sex life decreased drastically, from every other day to once every 2 weeks. I talked to him a lot about it, to the point that I think constantly talking about it is part of the problem. It has made it a bit of a chore, or nagging. Makes it sound like I’m complaining or calling out something he isn’t doing. Basically adding pressure. He has mentioned that he thinks it’s because we see each other all the time at home and also because his sleep patterns are not great and he needs me to stop worrying about it. But I can tell that there is a lack of excitement in sex in general. He isn’t really masturbating because I can tell he feels guilty that his sexual attention is not focused on us. I don’t think it’s a lack of attraction once we are in the bedroom it’s pretty great, it’s maybe that lack of excitement and building up desire. We are very close, and have tons of affection, so it’s not like he lost interest in me. I think it’s the so called “spark” that is missing. I will sometimes send a flirty text when he is at work or try to say something dirty but I get an uncomfortable “haha yeah” response every time followed by a change of subject. What are ways I can spice up our relationship and reignite the excitement? submitted by /u/Plastic-Tap3334 [link] [comments]
Me and my bf (F&M both mid 30s) have been together for close to 3 years. Since we moved in together about 2 years ago our sex life decreased drastically, from every other day to once every 2 weeks. I talked to him a lot about it, to the point that I think constantly talking about it is part of the problem. It has made it a bit of a chore, or nagging. Makes it sound like I’m complaining or calling out something he isn’t doing. Basically adding pressure.
He has mentioned that he thinks it’s because we see each other all the time at home and also because his sleep patterns are not great and he needs me to stop worrying about it. But I can tell that there is a lack of excitement in sex in general. He isn’t really masturbating because I can tell he feels guilty that his sexual attention is not focused on us.
I don’t think it’s a lack of attraction once we are in the bedroom it’s pretty great, it’s maybe that lack of excitement and building up desire.
We are very close, and have tons of affection, so it’s not like he lost interest in me. I think it’s the so called “spark” that is missing. I will sometimes send a flirty text when he is at work or try to say something dirty but I get an uncomfortable “haha yeah” response every time followed by a change of subject.
What are ways I can spice up our relationship and reignite the excitement?
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