How do I get my boyfriend to stimulate my entire body during sex more? /u/Little_Jemmy Sex

Me and my boyfriend have a great sex life, but sometimes he can forget that sex is a “full body experience”, especially for me. For instance I like getting scratched, hair pulled, jaw/neck grabbed, biting, and generally stuff that stimulates the rest of my body.

I’m looking to solve this issue both in our vanilla sex and in our kinky sex in which he’s my dom. As one can expect, me telling my dom what to do isn’t very subby, and honestly I don’t like having to tell him “hey do this” during sex because it takes the mood away if I have to do it more than once so he’ll continue doing it. Honestly I’m getting to the point where I’m about to shout at him to just do something during sex!

And before anyone asks, I do all these things. If he tells me he likes something or has a good reaction I’ll continue doing whatever it was that he’s into. And it’s not like during sex I’m going through a checklist of what he likes that I can do, it just comes naturally because I want to he an active participant.

I know bringing it up during sex probably isn’t the best way to communicate, even if I do it repeatedly, and telling him after sex is definitely a bad idea because nobody likes a performance review. I’ve also tried giving positive reinforcement by telling him after how I liked when he did xyz. So how do I bring this up in a way that doesn’t make him feel that I’m pointing out how he’s lacking/not doing enough?

Me and my boyfriend have a great sex life, but sometimes he can forget that sex is a “full body experience”, especially for me. For instance I like getting scratched, hair pulled, jaw/neck grabbed, biting, and generally stuff that stimulates the rest of my body.

I’m looking to solve this issue both in our vanilla sex and in our kinky sex in which he’s my dom. As one can expect, me telling my dom what to do isn’t very subby, and honestly I don’t like having to tell him “hey do this” during sex because it takes the mood away if I have to do it more than once so he’ll continue doing it. Honestly I’m getting to the point where I’m about to shout at him to just do something during sex!

And before anyone asks, I do all these things. If he tells me he likes something or has a good reaction I’ll continue doing whatever it was that he’s into. And it’s not like during sex I’m going through a checklist of what he likes that I can do, it just comes naturally because I want to he an active participant.

I know bringing it up during sex probably isn’t the best way to communicate, even if I do it repeatedly, and telling him after sex is definitely a bad idea because nobody likes a performance review. I’ve also tried giving positive reinforcement by telling him after how I liked when he did xyz. So how do I bring this up in a way that doesn’t make him feel that I’m pointing out how he’s lacking/not doing enough?