My character is constantly talked down to and it feels personal. /u/Ok-Project3596 DnD: Roll for Initiative!

I don’t really know how to go about this, I’ve been playing in a home brew campaign for a couple months now. I’m really enjoying the DM and the game. But the last few sessions I’ve been leaving the table feeling frustrated.

One of the first sessions I played with the group, our characters came across bandits that tried to mug us. And we tried to talk them down and intimidate them, but they wouldn’t budge. So my character and two others took care of the bandits, our characters believed they wouldn’t let us go alive. Long story short we killed the bandits and found a journal where one of the bandits was raising money for his sick sister.

And this third player I’ll call A hasn’t let it go since. That session was back in August I think, or early September. And they bring it up every single session and lecture about it every single time we go to fight something. At first it was fun because it’s cool sometimes to roleplay morality disagreements between party members. But really now it’s such a drag to listen to.

A’s character talks down to mine constantly, which is fine and funny at times. Our characters got into a pretty heated argument last session about the bandit incident, where A’s character tried to lecture mine about his morality. My character is a grave cleric that worships kellemvor, and is a devout follower. And A’s character made a point to try and pick apart his beliefs and call them stupid and pointless and not based in reality. It got pretty heated. It ended with A’s character saying and I quote “if this is the real version of you, then you’re not worth knowing.” And it really affected me personally outside of game.

Which you know can make great roleplay, party members don’t have to be best friends all the time. It was right at the end of our session before we break for the holidays, and I’ve given myself some time, the whole experience just feels like it was meant to be personal. My character absolute would not stand for someone claiming to be his friend calling his beliefs stupid and mocking his faith. His religion is all he has given his back ground.

I really want to talk to the DM about this, but I’m dreading the conversation because technically speaking I’m the “new” player. And A’s character is baked into the main story. I had to audition for this spot in this campaign and I really want to see it through, but I don’t know if i can stand it going through 17 more levels of this. Personally my character would absolutely leave the group if one of his friends said something like that to him. Usually roleplay doesn’t affect me this bad, but I’m dreading how much worse it’s gonna get. We’re barely level 3 now. I doubt those bandits are gonna be the only “innocent” people we have to kill. The campaign was marketed as a dark realism morally grey campaign.

I really need advice on how to talk about this with the DM or the other player. Because at this point I’m really debating just dropping the campaign and going back to just playing BG3 again till I find another that seems like a better fit.

I don’t really know how to go about this, I’ve been playing in a home brew campaign for a couple months now. I’m really enjoying the DM and the game. But the last few sessions I’ve been leaving the table feeling frustrated.

One of the first sessions I played with the group, our characters came across bandits that tried to mug us. And we tried to talk them down and intimidate them, but they wouldn’t budge. So my character and two others took care of the bandits, our characters believed they wouldn’t let us go alive. Long story short we killed the bandits and found a journal where one of the bandits was raising money for his sick sister.

And this third player I’ll call A hasn’t let it go since. That session was back in August I think, or early September. And they bring it up every single session and lecture about it every single time we go to fight something. At first it was fun because it’s cool sometimes to roleplay morality disagreements between party members. But really now it’s such a drag to listen to.

A’s character talks down to mine constantly, which is fine and funny at times. Our characters got into a pretty heated argument last session about the bandit incident, where A’s character tried to lecture mine about his morality. My character is a grave cleric that worships kellemvor, and is a devout follower. And A’s character made a point to try and pick apart his beliefs and call them stupid and pointless and not based in reality. It got pretty heated. It ended with A’s character saying and I quote “if this is the real version of you, then you’re not worth knowing.” And it really affected me personally outside of game.

Which you know can make great roleplay, party members don’t have to be best friends all the time. It was right at the end of our session before we break for the holidays, and I’ve given myself some time, the whole experience just feels like it was meant to be personal. My character absolute would not stand for someone claiming to be his friend calling his beliefs stupid and mocking his faith. His religion is all he has given his back ground.

I really want to talk to the DM about this, but I’m dreading the conversation because technically speaking I’m the “new” player. And A’s character is baked into the main story. I had to audition for this spot in this campaign and I really want to see it through, but I don’t know if i can stand it going through 17 more levels of this. Personally my character would absolutely leave the group if one of his friends said something like that to him. Usually roleplay doesn’t affect me this bad, but I’m dreading how much worse it’s gonna get. We’re barely level 3 now. I doubt those bandits are gonna be the only “innocent” people we have to kill. The campaign was marketed as a dark realism morally grey campaign.

I really need advice on how to talk about this with the DM or the other player. Because at this point I’m really debating just dropping the campaign and going back to just playing BG3 again till I find another that seems like a better fit.