Me (F25) and my bf (M25) have been together for a year. I noticed that for months now he barely initiates sex anymore. I decide to speak to him about this and he says that he’s been stressed from work. Tried to understand him, and asked him if there’s anything I can do to help him with his stress. He says nothing and reassures me it has nothing to with me (I let him know how it made me feel, I felt like since I’ve gained a lot of weight maybe he just isn’t sexually attracted to me anymore). Well fast forward a few months later. Still barely any sex. I noticed he will only have sex with me if I was drunk or at odd times/random days like every Sunday once he gets off work. We had an argument recently because a coworker had called him late at night on a Tuesday and he told me he has been letting a coworker confide in him and vent to him about her relationship. Confronted him and asked why? He says she’s just a friend and they talk about their relationship together. So I asked to see his phone and saw that he was watching OF. I ask him why and he says that when I’m not here he gets horny sometimes (we live together…we are together like 90% of the time). Told him I felt like there’s something he’s not telling me because I’ve told him how I felt about our sex life and he has told me he rarely gets horny so something’s just not adding up.
Anyways, we’re in a really rough spot right now and we are giving each other space to think about this relationship but I just want to know if any guys have experienced this? Is he possibly telling the truth or is there something deeper going on? I apologize if this is all over the place and I might’ve left some details out because frankly It’s a lot but if anyone has any questions I am happy to answer them.
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r/sex Me (F25) and my bf (M25) have been together for a year. I noticed that for months now he barely initiates sex anymore. I decide to speak to him about this and he says that he’s been stressed from work. Tried to understand him, and asked him if there’s anything I can do to help him with his stress. He says nothing and reassures me it has nothing to with me (I let him know how it made me feel, I felt like since I’ve gained a lot of weight maybe he just isn’t sexually attracted to me anymore). Well fast forward a few months later. Still barely any sex. I noticed he will only have sex with me if I was drunk or at odd times/random days like every Sunday once he gets off work. We had an argument recently because a coworker had called him late at night on a Tuesday and he told me he has been letting a coworker confide in him and vent to him about her relationship. Confronted him and asked why? He says she’s just a friend and they talk about their relationship together. So I asked to see his phone and saw that he was watching OF. I ask him why and he says that when I’m not here he gets horny sometimes (we live together…we are together like 90% of the time). Told him I felt like there’s something he’s not telling me because I’ve told him how I felt about our sex life and he has told me he rarely gets horny so something’s just not adding up. Anyways, we’re in a really rough spot right now and we are giving each other space to think about this relationship but I just want to know if any guys have experienced this? Is he possibly telling the truth or is there something deeper going on? I apologize if this is all over the place and I might’ve left some details out because frankly It’s a lot but if anyone has any questions I am happy to answer them. submitted by /u/cjork [link] [comments]
Me (F25) and my bf (M25) have been together for a year. I noticed that for months now he barely initiates sex anymore. I decide to speak to him about this and he says that he’s been stressed from work. Tried to understand him, and asked him if there’s anything I can do to help him with his stress. He says nothing and reassures me it has nothing to with me (I let him know how it made me feel, I felt like since I’ve gained a lot of weight maybe he just isn’t sexually attracted to me anymore). Well fast forward a few months later. Still barely any sex. I noticed he will only have sex with me if I was drunk or at odd times/random days like every Sunday once he gets off work. We had an argument recently because a coworker had called him late at night on a Tuesday and he told me he has been letting a coworker confide in him and vent to him about her relationship. Confronted him and asked why? He says she’s just a friend and they talk about their relationship together. So I asked to see his phone and saw that he was watching OF. I ask him why and he says that when I’m not here he gets horny sometimes (we live together…we are together like 90% of the time). Told him I felt like there’s something he’s not telling me because I’ve told him how I felt about our sex life and he has told me he rarely gets horny so something’s just not adding up.
Anyways, we’re in a really rough spot right now and we are giving each other space to think about this relationship but I just want to know if any guys have experienced this? Is he possibly telling the truth or is there something deeper going on? I apologize if this is all over the place and I might’ve left some details out because frankly It’s a lot but if anyone has any questions I am happy to answer them.
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