I want to ask my DM if next session can be cancelled but I don’t want to ruin it for everyone else /u/Rango12117 DnD: Roll for Initiative!

At my table, we have a common rule that if 1 person (out of the 5 players) are missing, we keep playing the session. Any more and we cancel. Our next session is Dec 21 while I leave on the 20th until the 30th.

I won’t even be in my home contient as I’m on vacation with my family for the firs ttime in a very long time.

Now I should mention that the reason I wanna ask for a cancel is because the current “arc” we are on has a decent amount to do with my character. It isn’t the full focus, but its like 50% another PC, 30% me, the rest everything else.

I should mention that this is because this is my backup character. My first character died in combat in the second “arc” and we really never went into his backstory (as everyone seemed really uninterested about it and there was not much to go off of (think Zuko from ATLA. Almost a Copy and Paste, just instead of fire, it was an underwater Shark)).

I’ve spoken to our DM as if I wasn’t going to ask to cancel and I’ve been told that my character might be “driven” by our DM and fellow PCs for checks and combat (as my character, a paladin, is the only person with strength and charisma above 14). I’m really worried about this as well as the area we are in right now is the homebrew version of the 9 Hells.

Each session we’ve played here, we’ve had INSANE combats, no rests, and a lot of checks.

I’m worried I’m going to wake up on vacation with my family saying “yo, ur PC died” or we’re going to finish the arc and kill the dude my character (Vengenace Oath) has been hunting down

I’ve also spoken with another PC, a close friend of mine, who thinks I’m overreacting and being a little crazy for wanting to cancel and what not. I’m worried I’m being selfish and rude, but at the same time, I want to keep my character.

Another rule we have is our DMs will “pokeball” missing PCs but this can’t happen this time as we’re in Hell, so there isn’t a valid excuse, and, as mentioned above, there are checks only my character might have a chance of passing.

What would y’all do and how would y’all do it?

At my table, we have a common rule that if 1 person (out of the 5 players) are missing, we keep playing the session. Any more and we cancel. Our next session is Dec 21 while I leave on the 20th until the 30th.

I won’t even be in my home contient as I’m on vacation with my family for the firs ttime in a very long time.

Now I should mention that the reason I wanna ask for a cancel is because the current “arc” we are on has a decent amount to do with my character. It isn’t the full focus, but its like 50% another PC, 30% me, the rest everything else.

I should mention that this is because this is my backup character. My first character died in combat in the second “arc” and we really never went into his backstory (as everyone seemed really uninterested about it and there was not much to go off of (think Zuko from ATLA. Almost a Copy and Paste, just instead of fire, it was an underwater Shark)).

I’ve spoken to our DM as if I wasn’t going to ask to cancel and I’ve been told that my character might be “driven” by our DM and fellow PCs for checks and combat (as my character, a paladin, is the only person with strength and charisma above 14). I’m really worried about this as well as the area we are in right now is the homebrew version of the 9 Hells.

Each session we’ve played here, we’ve had INSANE combats, no rests, and a lot of checks.

I’m worried I’m going to wake up on vacation with my family saying “yo, ur PC died” or we’re going to finish the arc and kill the dude my character (Vengenace Oath) has been hunting down

I’ve also spoken with another PC, a close friend of mine, who thinks I’m overreacting and being a little crazy for wanting to cancel and what not. I’m worried I’m being selfish and rude, but at the same time, I want to keep my character.

Another rule we have is our DMs will “pokeball” missing PCs but this can’t happen this time as we’re in Hell, so there isn’t a valid excuse, and, as mentioned above, there are checks only my character might have a chance of passing.

What would y’all do and how would y’all do it?