I (22M) have been trying out oral sex and hand jobs with my boyfriend, but I still feel a little anxious about it. I had a tiny bit of experience prior to this, but not enough to figure out what my expectations are.
I haven’t been able to get an orgasm from it though, so it makes me even more anxious after and I feel a little guilty because of it. I feel like I’m enjoying it, but I just can’t really get all the way there. I’m worried that this is a bad sign, I keep telling myself it’s not a big deal but I can’t help but to keep worrying about it. I’ve told him a little bit about this, but I held back some because I didn’t want him to worry about it too
In general I sort of feel inadequate in terms of initiating most physical contact, like I’m not going to give him a good experience. He told me just to do what makes me feel good and not to worry about him/he’ll tell me if he doesn’t like something, but I don’t really know what to do about that
He’s always checking to make sure I’m feeling good and to make sure I’m comfortable, and I couldn’t ask for anything more that way, so I know it’s just a me thing with the anxiety, but I just don’t know what to do to make myself more comfortable or find out what I like
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r/sex I (22M) have been trying out oral sex and hand jobs with my boyfriend, but I still feel a little anxious about it. I had a tiny bit of experience prior to this, but not enough to figure out what my expectations are. I haven’t been able to get an orgasm from it though, so it makes me even more anxious after and I feel a little guilty because of it. I feel like I’m enjoying it, but I just can’t really get all the way there. I’m worried that this is a bad sign, I keep telling myself it’s not a big deal but I can’t help but to keep worrying about it. I’ve told him a little bit about this, but I held back some because I didn’t want him to worry about it too In general I sort of feel inadequate in terms of initiating most physical contact, like I’m not going to give him a good experience. He told me just to do what makes me feel good and not to worry about him/he’ll tell me if he doesn’t like something, but I don’t really know what to do about that He’s always checking to make sure I’m feeling good and to make sure I’m comfortable, and I couldn’t ask for anything more that way, so I know it’s just a me thing with the anxiety, but I just don’t know what to do to make myself more comfortable or find out what I like submitted by /u/eternoble [link] [comments]
I (22M) have been trying out oral sex and hand jobs with my boyfriend, but I still feel a little anxious about it. I had a tiny bit of experience prior to this, but not enough to figure out what my expectations are.
I haven’t been able to get an orgasm from it though, so it makes me even more anxious after and I feel a little guilty because of it. I feel like I’m enjoying it, but I just can’t really get all the way there. I’m worried that this is a bad sign, I keep telling myself it’s not a big deal but I can’t help but to keep worrying about it. I’ve told him a little bit about this, but I held back some because I didn’t want him to worry about it too
In general I sort of feel inadequate in terms of initiating most physical contact, like I’m not going to give him a good experience. He told me just to do what makes me feel good and not to worry about him/he’ll tell me if he doesn’t like something, but I don’t really know what to do about that
He’s always checking to make sure I’m feeling good and to make sure I’m comfortable, and I couldn’t ask for anything more that way, so I know it’s just a me thing with the anxiety, but I just don’t know what to do to make myself more comfortable or find out what I like
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