My partner [33,M] and I [25, F] have had a healthy norma sex life. He’s very kind and gentle. And he understands. I told him about my sexual trauma as a child. One thing I always regretted or fet ashamed of is that I never have had my first anything because of what had happened. I never got to be innocent. I never got to experience the first kiss, my first sex. Someone telling me it hurts when it’s your first and comforting me through it. I regret not having had that experience.
I want to talk to my partner to help me with that. I want to pretend and experience that for once.
The dilemma is, I don’t know if it’s fair to him. To dump my childhood trauma on him and expect him to help me through it. It’s a lot and I don’t know if it’s right.
Should I tell him? And rewrite my experiences with him? Or is that too much to ask?
Ive been struggling. And I need to find a way to escape if that makes any sense.
Should I? Or should I bury it, like I always have?
Id appreciate your thoughts please.
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r/sex My partner [33,M] and I [25, F] have had a healthy norma sex life. He’s very kind and gentle. And he understands. I told him about my sexual trauma as a child. One thing I always regretted or fet ashamed of is that I never have had my first anything because of what had happened. I never got to be innocent. I never got to experience the first kiss, my first sex. Someone telling me it hurts when it’s your first and comforting me through it. I regret not having had that experience. I want to talk to my partner to help me with that. I want to pretend and experience that for once. The dilemma is, I don’t know if it’s fair to him. To dump my childhood trauma on him and expect him to help me through it. It’s a lot and I don’t know if it’s right. Should I tell him? And rewrite my experiences with him? Or is that too much to ask? Ive been struggling. And I need to find a way to escape if that makes any sense. Should I? Or should I bury it, like I always have? Id appreciate your thoughts please. submitted by /u/alwayshangryandneedy [link] [comments]
My partner [33,M] and I [25, F] have had a healthy norma sex life. He’s very kind and gentle. And he understands. I told him about my sexual trauma as a child. One thing I always regretted or fet ashamed of is that I never have had my first anything because of what had happened. I never got to be innocent. I never got to experience the first kiss, my first sex. Someone telling me it hurts when it’s your first and comforting me through it. I regret not having had that experience.
I want to talk to my partner to help me with that. I want to pretend and experience that for once.
The dilemma is, I don’t know if it’s fair to him. To dump my childhood trauma on him and expect him to help me through it. It’s a lot and I don’t know if it’s right.
Should I tell him? And rewrite my experiences with him? Or is that too much to ask?
Ive been struggling. And I need to find a way to escape if that makes any sense.
Should I? Or should I bury it, like I always have?
Id appreciate your thoughts please.
submitted by /u/alwayshangryandneedy
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