I tried to have sex but couldn’t get it in /u/joepbeving Sex

(i’ve never posted on reddit before i just made an acc to post this so sorry if i write this wrong)

For a bit of context i’m asexual and a virgin, and up until recently i have had absolutely no desire for sex.

Alr i’m just gonna cut to the chase a couple days ago i (18f) and this guy i’m seeing (21m) decided we were gonna have sex bc we’re both virgins and we rlly like each other, it felt like the right time.

I wasn’t rlly expecting this since i’ve been aware of my asexuality for years and fully planned on dying a virgin, but i just feel such a connection w him that even tho i’m not turned on by the idea of sex i wanted it w him.

Anyway, long story short he can’t get it in. Like he was definitely hard and i was definitely wet but it physically couldn’t go in past the tip, it was like pushing it against something solid rather than a hole (yes i checked he was definitely aiming for the hole). We tried a few different positions and angles to see if that was the issue but it just wasn’t working, and eventually when it did go in a little further it was so painful i had to stop (i know losing ur virginity as a woman is supposed to hurt but i don’t think it should have been that bad). After like an hour of trying i just gave him a thigh job (which i somehow came from doing? yippee ig) then jerked him off for about an hour but by that time he said his balls were sore from being hard for so long and he wouldn’t be able to come so we just gave up.

He was so nice abt it but i feel rlly bad that i couldn’t make him cum especially since i did (women in male dominated fields lmao), but the main question i have is why couldn’t he get it in? I’ve put in tampons before so i know it’s not my hymen – am i just like… too tight?? I need help i don’t wanna disappoint him next time 😭😭

thanks in advance 😀

tl;dr: two virgins tried to have sex, couldn’t get the dick in the v

(i’ve never posted on reddit before i just made an acc to post this so sorry if i write this wrong)

For a bit of context i’m asexual and a virgin, and up until recently i have had absolutely no desire for sex.

Alr i’m just gonna cut to the chase a couple days ago i (18f) and this guy i’m seeing (21m) decided we were gonna have sex bc we’re both virgins and we rlly like each other, it felt like the right time.

I wasn’t rlly expecting this since i’ve been aware of my asexuality for years and fully planned on dying a virgin, but i just feel such a connection w him that even tho i’m not turned on by the idea of sex i wanted it w him.

Anyway, long story short he can’t get it in. Like he was definitely hard and i was definitely wet but it physically couldn’t go in past the tip, it was like pushing it against something solid rather than a hole (yes i checked he was definitely aiming for the hole). We tried a few different positions and angles to see if that was the issue but it just wasn’t working, and eventually when it did go in a little further it was so painful i had to stop (i know losing ur virginity as a woman is supposed to hurt but i don’t think it should have been that bad). After like an hour of trying i just gave him a thigh job (which i somehow came from doing? yippee ig) then jerked him off for about an hour but by that time he said his balls were sore from being hard for so long and he wouldn’t be able to come so we just gave up.

He was so nice abt it but i feel rlly bad that i couldn’t make him cum especially since i did (women in male dominated fields lmao), but the main question i have is why couldn’t he get it in? I’ve put in tampons before so i know it’s not my hymen – am i just like… too tight?? I need help i don’t wanna disappoint him next time 😭😭

thanks in advance 😀

tl;dr: two virgins tried to have sex, couldn’t get the dick in the v