I know this is very weird and basic but how do we actually enjoy sex? /u/Commercial_Custard64 Sex

26 Female, been a virgin by whole life till recently I got a boyfriend and he’s also been a virgin before me, so we both are beginner and still experimenting.

My problem is that he doesn’t like to have sex as much as I do although he says that he’s horny all the time (he had a porn/masturbation addiction so masturbating is “easier” for him as he says, also sometimes he says it’s because he’s lazy, and other times he’s waiting to take his ED medication too have sex)

Another problem is when we do actually have sex I don’t really enjoy it? This includes a lot of factors; my sex drives largely stems from feeling “desired” and although my bf is very cuddly/kissy, tells me he loves me all the time, tells me how beautiful I am, he doesn’t actually initiate anything sexual except rarely. Another thing is that when we get at it I feel like he loses focus of me and all he thinks about is cumming. We’ve tried fingering which I didn’t like, I can’t seem to know how to teach him how to go down on me (he’s tried a couple of times) mostly because I’m embarrassed and feel uncomfortable that it’ll take a huge amount of time.

I enjoy penetration but I like it quick paced and hard while he likes it slow paced. We don’t talk during sex, he doesn’t moan, sometimes I feel like his dick loses 50% of it’s erection inside me so I don’t feel it that much although he has a big and girthy dick.

I guess I’m frustrated at best and I can’t say I don’t enjoy sex at all (I enjoy him touching me and stroking me, also I enjoy the first few strokes at the beginning of penetration because I feel so “filled”, I enjoy seeing him overwhelmed before cumming.)

In short I need a detailed guide of what to do for both of us 🙁

26 Female, been a virgin by whole life till recently I got a boyfriend and he’s also been a virgin before me, so we both are beginner and still experimenting.

My problem is that he doesn’t like to have sex as much as I do although he says that he’s horny all the time (he had a porn/masturbation addiction so masturbating is “easier” for him as he says, also sometimes he says it’s because he’s lazy, and other times he’s waiting to take his ED medication too have sex)

Another problem is when we do actually have sex I don’t really enjoy it? This includes a lot of factors; my sex drives largely stems from feeling “desired” and although my bf is very cuddly/kissy, tells me he loves me all the time, tells me how beautiful I am, he doesn’t actually initiate anything sexual except rarely. Another thing is that when we get at it I feel like he loses focus of me and all he thinks about is cumming. We’ve tried fingering which I didn’t like, I can’t seem to know how to teach him how to go down on me (he’s tried a couple of times) mostly because I’m embarrassed and feel uncomfortable that it’ll take a huge amount of time.

I enjoy penetration but I like it quick paced and hard while he likes it slow paced. We don’t talk during sex, he doesn’t moan, sometimes I feel like his dick loses 50% of it’s erection inside me so I don’t feel it that much although he has a big and girthy dick.

I guess I’m frustrated at best and I can’t say I don’t enjoy sex at all (I enjoy him touching me and stroking me, also I enjoy the first few strokes at the beginning of penetration because I feel so “filled”, I enjoy seeing him overwhelmed before cumming.)

In short I need a detailed guide of what to do for both of us 🙁