Boyfriend’s secret kinks? /u/WarLow2331 Sex

My boyfriend (m22) and I (f23) have been together for 2 years.

~I~ am naturally a kinkier person, my boyfriend knows this, nothing out of the ordinary, he even doesn’t know the extent to my fantasies, we normally practice vanilla sex.

I can’t help but notice, even after he has told me he’s not into anything, that there may be some underlying fantasies he has… and it turns me on knowing he might be secretly dirtier than he’s letting on. I want opinions from you all on whether these are kinks he may have or if I’m just imagining things (partly because I want to bring this up and have a conversation about exploring things.)

A couple of times his friends have been over and slept in the living room. Our bedroom is right up the stairs and we’ve had sex while they’re down there getting ready to sleep. He always without a doubt will say “we have to be quiet… so friends name won’t hear us.” But he only will start talking like this until he’s in me, and it makes him harder when I play into it.

Another one – which hasn’t happened during sex – is perhaps a BBC (?) kink?? He has asked me or more so, insinuates that I have slept with black guys (I haven’t and told him the first time he brought it up)… it’s not in a jealous way the way he words it. I can’t recall how he says it but it’s basically him saying I’ve slept with a black guy, and in some way liked it? It’s not inherently sexual when he says it (this has happened maybe 3 times) but it seems that might be a kink (a more taboo one so that’s maybe why he’s not as forward).

And of course, he likes to have me tell him I’m his slut only and he can do whatever he wants to me (pretty plain kink).

I guess my questions is, are my suspicions correct? What are ways I can play into these alleged kinks for him (if you have these yourself). What ways can I open up a conversation about doing dirtier things? I’m turned on just thinking about us talking about our fantasies.

Thanks!

My boyfriend (m22) and I (f23) have been together for 2 years.

~I~ am naturally a kinkier person, my boyfriend knows this, nothing out of the ordinary, he even doesn’t know the extent to my fantasies, we normally practice vanilla sex.

I can’t help but notice, even after he has told me he’s not into anything, that there may be some underlying fantasies he has… and it turns me on knowing he might be secretly dirtier than he’s letting on. I want opinions from you all on whether these are kinks he may have or if I’m just imagining things (partly because I want to bring this up and have a conversation about exploring things.)

A couple of times his friends have been over and slept in the living room. Our bedroom is right up the stairs and we’ve had sex while they’re down there getting ready to sleep. He always without a doubt will say “we have to be quiet… so friends name won’t hear us.” But he only will start talking like this until he’s in me, and it makes him harder when I play into it.

Another one – which hasn’t happened during sex – is perhaps a BBC (?) kink?? He has asked me or more so, insinuates that I have slept with black guys (I haven’t and told him the first time he brought it up)… it’s not in a jealous way the way he words it. I can’t recall how he says it but it’s basically him saying I’ve slept with a black guy, and in some way liked it? It’s not inherently sexual when he says it (this has happened maybe 3 times) but it seems that might be a kink (a more taboo one so that’s maybe why he’s not as forward).

And of course, he likes to have me tell him I’m his slut only and he can do whatever he wants to me (pretty plain kink).

I guess my questions is, are my suspicions correct? What are ways I can play into these alleged kinks for him (if you have these yourself). What ways can I open up a conversation about doing dirtier things? I’m turned on just thinking about us talking about our fantasies.

Thanks!