In the last few months, my boyfriend has been fixated on having a threesome with another man. Initially, he wondered if he might be bisexual and wanted to explore that with me, but that notion shifted towards him just wanting to watch me engage in sexual activities with someone else, as I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of watching him in a similar situation.
I felt hesitant about the whole concept and oscillated between outright refusal and tentative agreement pending the right circumstances. Eventually, I agreed to it once just to put an end to the discussion, asking not to hear about it again. On several occasions, he stated he wanted to focus on our relationship and potentially marry me, but would bring up the threesome idea shortly after.
Over the weekend, we were drinking with one of his friends. Though I had expressed reluctance regarding anything intimate with this friend, prior to that night, my stance had softened to a one-time occurrence. We all got drunk, and it ended up with me having sex with his friend. As a result, I felt worse as time went on, despite feeling okay in the immediate aftermath. My partner seemed content about the situation, but I struggled with it.
Last night, he noticed a change in my behavior and asked if everything was okay. I expressed my need for a break from sexual encounters with him. I’ve been grappling with feelings of disgust and objectification. While I hold myself accountable for my actions, I recognize that agreeing to the threesome resulted from my partner’s persistent pressure, which I regret. He struggles to comprehend my current feelings, assuming they stem from a dislike of him or dissatisfaction with our relationship. I’ve tried to convey that it’s more about my own self-perception than our relationship, but there seems to be a disconnect.
How should I communicate to him that I just need a break from sex? And that its not that i’m not attracted to him?
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r/sex In the last few months, my boyfriend has been fixated on having a threesome with another man. Initially, he wondered if he might be bisexual and wanted to explore that with me, but that notion shifted towards him just wanting to watch me engage in sexual activities with someone else, as I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of watching him in a similar situation. I felt hesitant about the whole concept and oscillated between outright refusal and tentative agreement pending the right circumstances. Eventually, I agreed to it once just to put an end to the discussion, asking not to hear about it again. On several occasions, he stated he wanted to focus on our relationship and potentially marry me, but would bring up the threesome idea shortly after. Over the weekend, we were drinking with one of his friends. Though I had expressed reluctance regarding anything intimate with this friend, prior to that night, my stance had softened to a one-time occurrence. We all got drunk, and it ended up with me having sex with his friend. As a result, I felt worse as time went on, despite feeling okay in the immediate aftermath. My partner seemed content about the situation, but I struggled with it. Last night, he noticed a change in my behavior and asked if everything was okay. I expressed my need for a break from sexual encounters with him. I’ve been grappling with feelings of disgust and objectification. While I hold myself accountable for my actions, I recognize that agreeing to the threesome resulted from my partner’s persistent pressure, which I regret. He struggles to comprehend my current feelings, assuming they stem from a dislike of him or dissatisfaction with our relationship. I’ve tried to convey that it’s more about my own self-perception than our relationship, but there seems to be a disconnect. How should I communicate to him that I just need a break from sex? And that its not that i’m not attracted to him? submitted by /u/JuicyKitKat75 [link] [comments]
In the last few months, my boyfriend has been fixated on having a threesome with another man. Initially, he wondered if he might be bisexual and wanted to explore that with me, but that notion shifted towards him just wanting to watch me engage in sexual activities with someone else, as I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of watching him in a similar situation.
I felt hesitant about the whole concept and oscillated between outright refusal and tentative agreement pending the right circumstances. Eventually, I agreed to it once just to put an end to the discussion, asking not to hear about it again. On several occasions, he stated he wanted to focus on our relationship and potentially marry me, but would bring up the threesome idea shortly after.
Over the weekend, we were drinking with one of his friends. Though I had expressed reluctance regarding anything intimate with this friend, prior to that night, my stance had softened to a one-time occurrence. We all got drunk, and it ended up with me having sex with his friend. As a result, I felt worse as time went on, despite feeling okay in the immediate aftermath. My partner seemed content about the situation, but I struggled with it.
Last night, he noticed a change in my behavior and asked if everything was okay. I expressed my need for a break from sexual encounters with him. I’ve been grappling with feelings of disgust and objectification. While I hold myself accountable for my actions, I recognize that agreeing to the threesome resulted from my partner’s persistent pressure, which I regret. He struggles to comprehend my current feelings, assuming they stem from a dislike of him or dissatisfaction with our relationship. I’ve tried to convey that it’s more about my own self-perception than our relationship, but there seems to be a disconnect.
How should I communicate to him that I just need a break from sex? And that its not that i’m not attracted to him?
submitted by /u/JuicyKitKat75
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