I am not sure if this is how a kink can develop, I assume so but wanted feedback. I was reading another post on this thread and came to this realization!
My ex would take literally forever to cum, to the point of it not being enjoyable at all. No matter what the circumstances, what I would try for him (what worked previously to speed things up or what he says he likes) he would not be able to cum for so long. Towards the end I often would just be laying there trying to be an active participant or be blowing him or jerking him off. But I would be sore and tired! It would be literally that long.
I have a high libido and love sex, especially when with someone I care for! I adapted by using a vibrator or doing what I could to get myself off or enjoy the sex more! I was often trying to initiate, he had said I didn’t enough, but he would almost always turn me down which over time hurt my feelings. But if he wanted sex and I didn’t he would start a fight or beg to just masterbate onto me and sometimes he would do so while I was asleep. would always reassure me he was attracted to me and liked what I was doing to him or for him. He also said he often had this problem, his whole life.
That said he still did not make an effort to pleasure me, he didn’t care to stop when I was sore or clearly not enjoying myself, begging that he was “so close” which would lead to me blowing him for like 30 more minutes until he finally would jerk himself off at the end when I gave up. He also didn’t like wanna snuggle or kiss or anything much in general or after sex. So all around he was in it for him and would make me work so long for him to finish.
I FINALLY LEFT THIS MAN- took me long enough, but I know allot of what he did was wrong and abusive (not just this but other stuff in the relationship, manipulation, anger etc). But now I love when a partner makes me feel desired or tells me how they get turned on from me. I LOVE making out before during and after sex, cant believe I went so long without. And of course a partner making me orgasm is amazing.
But the kink part is I LOVE the sloppy passionate kissing and grabbing and sex like we cant get enough of each other even when they are inside me and as close as possible. And specifically when a guy cums for me, wether it be 2 seconds of penetration or a good length of time. (As they often get me off first at least once or do so after they cum). When a man cums for me and because of me with sex or head or whatever I just think its so hot. I can almost cum just from that, it really drives me wild!
Does this make sense? The new kinks or wants for sex?
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r/sex I am not sure if this is how a kink can develop, I assume so but wanted feedback. I was reading another post on this thread and came to this realization! My ex would take literally forever to cum, to the point of it not being enjoyable at all. No matter what the circumstances, what I would try for him (what worked previously to speed things up or what he says he likes) he would not be able to cum for so long. Towards the end I often would just be laying there trying to be an active participant or be blowing him or jerking him off. But I would be sore and tired! It would be literally that long. I have a high libido and love sex, especially when with someone I care for! I adapted by using a vibrator or doing what I could to get myself off or enjoy the sex more! I was often trying to initiate, he had said I didn’t enough, but he would almost always turn me down which over time hurt my feelings. But if he wanted sex and I didn’t he would start a fight or beg to just masterbate onto me and sometimes he would do so while I was asleep. would always reassure me he was attracted to me and liked what I was doing to him or for him. He also said he often had this problem, his whole life. That said he still did not make an effort to pleasure me, he didn’t care to stop when I was sore or clearly not enjoying myself, begging that he was “so close” which would lead to me blowing him for like 30 more minutes until he finally would jerk himself off at the end when I gave up. He also didn’t like wanna snuggle or kiss or anything much in general or after sex. So all around he was in it for him and would make me work so long for him to finish. I FINALLY LEFT THIS MAN- took me long enough, but I know allot of what he did was wrong and abusive (not just this but other stuff in the relationship, manipulation, anger etc). But now I love when a partner makes me feel desired or tells me how they get turned on from me. I LOVE making out before during and after sex, cant believe I went so long without. And of course a partner making me orgasm is amazing. But the kink part is I LOVE the sloppy passionate kissing and grabbing and sex like we cant get enough of each other even when they are inside me and as close as possible. And specifically when a guy cums for me, wether it be 2 seconds of penetration or a good length of time. (As they often get me off first at least once or do so after they cum). When a man cums for me and because of me with sex or head or whatever I just think its so hot. I can almost cum just from that, it really drives me wild! Does this make sense? The new kinks or wants for sex? submitted by /u/Aspiring2Bsumthing11 [link] [comments]
I am not sure if this is how a kink can develop, I assume so but wanted feedback. I was reading another post on this thread and came to this realization!
My ex would take literally forever to cum, to the point of it not being enjoyable at all. No matter what the circumstances, what I would try for him (what worked previously to speed things up or what he says he likes) he would not be able to cum for so long. Towards the end I often would just be laying there trying to be an active participant or be blowing him or jerking him off. But I would be sore and tired! It would be literally that long.
I have a high libido and love sex, especially when with someone I care for! I adapted by using a vibrator or doing what I could to get myself off or enjoy the sex more! I was often trying to initiate, he had said I didn’t enough, but he would almost always turn me down which over time hurt my feelings. But if he wanted sex and I didn’t he would start a fight or beg to just masterbate onto me and sometimes he would do so while I was asleep. would always reassure me he was attracted to me and liked what I was doing to him or for him. He also said he often had this problem, his whole life.
That said he still did not make an effort to pleasure me, he didn’t care to stop when I was sore or clearly not enjoying myself, begging that he was “so close” which would lead to me blowing him for like 30 more minutes until he finally would jerk himself off at the end when I gave up. He also didn’t like wanna snuggle or kiss or anything much in general or after sex. So all around he was in it for him and would make me work so long for him to finish.
I FINALLY LEFT THIS MAN- took me long enough, but I know allot of what he did was wrong and abusive (not just this but other stuff in the relationship, manipulation, anger etc). But now I love when a partner makes me feel desired or tells me how they get turned on from me. I LOVE making out before during and after sex, cant believe I went so long without. And of course a partner making me orgasm is amazing.
But the kink part is I LOVE the sloppy passionate kissing and grabbing and sex like we cant get enough of each other even when they are inside me and as close as possible. And specifically when a guy cums for me, wether it be 2 seconds of penetration or a good length of time. (As they often get me off first at least once or do so after they cum). When a man cums for me and because of me with sex or head or whatever I just think its so hot. I can almost cum just from that, it really drives me wild!
Does this make sense? The new kinks or wants for sex?
submitted by /u/Aspiring2Bsumthing11
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