My girlfriend [25F] and I [23M] have been dating for about a year and a half. Before we started dating she told me she was demisexual. I am not her first boyfriend, but I am the first boyfriend she has had sex with. However, she just told me that she has realized that she is completely asexual, she has no experience of sexual attraction towards me (and supposedly anyone else).
I can’t shake the feeling however that I am the problem as her sample size of having sex is just one (me). I also saw she posted on reddit that she doesn’t enjoy sex, it feels like nothing to her, and she just does it to cater to my needs. I have a small penis and to me this seems like the exact nightmare scenario I have always envisioned. I just keep thinking that maybe she thinks shes asexual but only because I am sexually unattractive and unable to make sex enjoyable for her. I know our relationship is over, there is no possible way to make this work in a way that makes us both happy. But how do I recover any scrap of self-esteem after learning that my girlfriend of a year and a half is not sexually attracted to me, has rarely if ever enjoyed having sex with me, and basically has sex with me just as a favor to me?
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r/sex My girlfriend [25F] and I [23M] have been dating for about a year and a half. Before we started dating she told me she was demisexual. I am not her first boyfriend, but I am the first boyfriend she has had sex with. However, she just told me that she has realized that she is completely asexual, she has no experience of sexual attraction towards me (and supposedly anyone else). I can’t shake the feeling however that I am the problem as her sample size of having sex is just one (me). I also saw she posted on reddit that she doesn’t enjoy sex, it feels like nothing to her, and she just does it to cater to my needs. I have a small penis and to me this seems like the exact nightmare scenario I have always envisioned. I just keep thinking that maybe she thinks shes asexual but only because I am sexually unattractive and unable to make sex enjoyable for her. I know our relationship is over, there is no possible way to make this work in a way that makes us both happy. But how do I recover any scrap of self-esteem after learning that my girlfriend of a year and a half is not sexually attracted to me, has rarely if ever enjoyed having sex with me, and basically has sex with me just as a favor to me? submitted by /u/Careless-Nothing-653 [link] [comments]
My girlfriend [25F] and I [23M] have been dating for about a year and a half. Before we started dating she told me she was demisexual. I am not her first boyfriend, but I am the first boyfriend she has had sex with. However, she just told me that she has realized that she is completely asexual, she has no experience of sexual attraction towards me (and supposedly anyone else).
I can’t shake the feeling however that I am the problem as her sample size of having sex is just one (me). I also saw she posted on reddit that she doesn’t enjoy sex, it feels like nothing to her, and she just does it to cater to my needs. I have a small penis and to me this seems like the exact nightmare scenario I have always envisioned. I just keep thinking that maybe she thinks shes asexual but only because I am sexually unattractive and unable to make sex enjoyable for her. I know our relationship is over, there is no possible way to make this work in a way that makes us both happy. But how do I recover any scrap of self-esteem after learning that my girlfriend of a year and a half is not sexually attracted to me, has rarely if ever enjoyed having sex with me, and basically has sex with me just as a favor to me?
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