GF doesn’t want me to “finish the job” after I cum /u/Witty_Yeti Sex

I’ve never been able to control my own orgasms much. In some cases, especially when I’m tired or it’s been a long time without sex, I cum way too fast after penetration. In other cases I last up to, idk, 15 minutes? of uninterrupted penetration. I’ve read about it and tried a couple things to control this, but I really can’t. In any case, this is is another issue.

Now – what have I done previously with other women to compensate for this?

I engage in all kinds of other sexual activity for as long as needed, from just kissing to fingering, oral sex, etc. I really enjoy all of this so I don’t really mind “waiting” before penetration and building up my partner’s orgasm I ‘”pull out” before cumming, rest a bit while doing some of the stuff above and then continue If I finally cum before my partner has an orgasm, I just continue doing the stuff in the 1st bullet point after I’m done This has usually been highly appreciated, even if it didn’t always lead to an orgasm from them

Here’s the issue:

My current gf has shared that she needs penetration to have an orgasm. This is uncommon as far as I know, but I guess it can happen – stimulating the clitoris is just not enough for her, as pleasant as it may be We do engage in the long foreplay, but at some point she just begs me to “go in” She hates that I pull out in the middle of penetration, it kills the mood for her If I cum, she doesn’t want me to continue doing any other stuff. It’s too little for her right after penetration so she prefers to leave it there when it happens

Happily enough, she does have orgasms sometimes when I last longer, maybe around every 3 times? Approximately

However, I still feel disappointed that I can’t fully satisfy her. She keeps saying that it’s fine, that women “enjoy the journey” more than men and she doesn’t always need to have an orgasm. I can’t help but thinking she only says this to avoid hurting my feelings / confidence.

Any thoughts / advice? Has anyone gone through a similar situation?

I’ve never been able to control my own orgasms much. In some cases, especially when I’m tired or it’s been a long time without sex, I cum way too fast after penetration. In other cases I last up to, idk, 15 minutes? of uninterrupted penetration. I’ve read about it and tried a couple things to control this, but I really can’t. In any case, this is is another issue.

Now – what have I done previously with other women to compensate for this?

I engage in all kinds of other sexual activity for as long as needed, from just kissing to fingering, oral sex, etc. I really enjoy all of this so I don’t really mind “waiting” before penetration and building up my partner’s orgasm I ‘”pull out” before cumming, rest a bit while doing some of the stuff above and then continue If I finally cum before my partner has an orgasm, I just continue doing the stuff in the 1st bullet point after I’m done This has usually been highly appreciated, even if it didn’t always lead to an orgasm from them

Here’s the issue:

My current gf has shared that she needs penetration to have an orgasm. This is uncommon as far as I know, but I guess it can happen – stimulating the clitoris is just not enough for her, as pleasant as it may be We do engage in the long foreplay, but at some point she just begs me to “go in” She hates that I pull out in the middle of penetration, it kills the mood for her If I cum, she doesn’t want me to continue doing any other stuff. It’s too little for her right after penetration so she prefers to leave it there when it happens

Happily enough, she does have orgasms sometimes when I last longer, maybe around every 3 times? Approximately

However, I still feel disappointed that I can’t fully satisfy her. She keeps saying that it’s fine, that women “enjoy the journey” more than men and she doesn’t always need to have an orgasm. I can’t help but thinking she only says this to avoid hurting my feelings / confidence.

Any thoughts / advice? Has anyone gone through a similar situation?