My boyfriend (27M) and I (25F) have been dating for around 6 months. We have the most amazing sex life and an awesome relationship. This is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and we have been discussing marriage. We live about an hour apart so we spend every weekend together.
Me and my boyfriend are very open and sexual people. Most of the time, we can’t keep our hands off each other. We have had period sex a couple of times before and he was enthusiastic to do it. It felt amazing and I was thrilled that he would want to have sex with me during that time because I knew a lot of guys don’t like doing that. It was sometimes messy, but he never seemed displeased with it at all.
During my last period, I wanted to initiate sex. We had a lot of fun that day, I had given him a blowjob as soon as I got to his house, we cooked an amazing dinner, we were drinking, we watched a movie and then decided to go to bed. I climbed on top of him and we started making out. He asked me what I wanted to do. I said, “I want to have sex.” He said, “which way?” (Context: we had been talking about anal that day) I said that I wanted it vaginally. I felt his tone slightly change and he said something along the lines of, “I don’t want to have sex when you’re on your period, it’s messy and blood gets all over the condom and all over me. We have sex every weekend, do we have to have sex every weekend?”
I felt very insulted and immediately wanted to start crying, but I held it back and stayed silent. I’m fine with him not wanting sex, it’s just the way he said this and the timing that threw me off. I also felt he worded it like if I had said anal, it would’ve been game on right then and there which was very offensive to me (not that I don’t want anal, I do, just didnt want it that day). I laid there in silence trying to find words to say, but my mind was racing. He asked if I wanted to talk about it or if I wanted to wait until tomorrow or if I wanted him to sleep in another room. I told him that it’s not what he said, it’s how he said it that was very off-putting and that I was drunk and just needed to think for a second. He kept asking questions like if I think it’s dumb that he doesn’t want to, and I said it doesn’t matter what I think about it, I don’t want to do anything he doesn’t want to do.
We talked it out and he apologized and explained that he still wants to do stuff with me, just not PIV, except if I was having cramps since he knows sex can help cramps (which is confusing). I told him again, that I really don’t want to do anything he doesn’t want to do even under that circumstance and I cuddled with him until he fell asleep. However, I couldn’t help but roll over and cry. I felt so hurt and rejected, for many reasons. I only get to see him on the weekends, and I crave intimacy with him so much. I’m also way more emotional on my period, but also so much more horny and sensitive. I felt like he was rejecting me for something that is so much a part of me as a woman. I did not tell him I cried and I did not tell him these things because that would feel manipulative to me, if he doesn’t want to do a sex act, I don’t want to do it either.
However, deep inside I still really want and crave having sex during my period. This weekend I got my period before I went over to his house and I was immediately bummed out. I masturbated before I went to his house and this held me over for the first night.
When we woke up the first morning, he let me know he wanted me to touch him. I love doing things to him, but I knew I wasn’t going to get anything in return so I just gave him a lazy handjob. He was very happy and got up and got in the shower to clean himself off. I was very horny and frustrated, partly with his lack of effort, but also frustrated with myself for playing with him when I knew sex is off the table. He came back, got dressed, kissed me, and told me he was going to make us breakfast.
I got out my vibrator and had an amazing orgasm, but I was kind of nervous for him to walk in on me. He doesn’t mind me masturbating, but Ive never masturbated when we’re together bc I’ve never had to. I know an obvious solution would be to have him use the vibrator on me, but it takes me a ridiculous amount of time to orgasm with him since I have to be very focused (most of the time I don’t even want or need to orgasm if we have sex bc it makes me feel completely satisfied). I didn’t want him to walk in on me and feel any type of way for me not telling him I was going to masturbate, and I also didn’t want him to feel bad for not playing with me because I didn’t communicate that I needed that at the time. Sometimes, I do really enjoy doing things to him without anything in return. This was just not one of those times, and I didn’t know how to communicate my needs given that he told me he doesn’t want to have sex on my period.
Then this morning, he again wanted me to touch him. Again, I didn’t deny him. We started making out, he said “I wish we had condoms” (which confused me, but I guess he was so horny that he wanted to have sex regardless of my period). Then he said, “I feel bad when we do things and it’s one sided.” I said, “it’s not one sided if you play with me, I still really like it.” He played with my boobs (but didn’t touch my pussy), I gave him a bj, he came on me, and that was it. I really liked it, but I felt so unfulfilled and also confused bc of the condom comment. It’s perplexing, why will he have period sex when he’s horny or I’m cramping, but not when I want him inside of me so badly?
He’s right, it does feel one sided. I just love pleasuring him and I get so turned on when I’m with him that I don’t even think about rejecting him. We both know I want sex, every other time we see each other we have sex like 3 or 4 times in a weekend. I was way less sexual and touchy than I normally am this weekend because I kept reminding myself that he doesn’t want sex with me at this time. I can’t help but still want it very badly. I feel like I can’t communicate this to him, and I also am now completely turned off by the idea of him coming anywhere near my vagina now when I’m menstruating.
I don’t want to be upset, but I can’t really help it. I don’t really know what to feel. I wish I could get over it, I feel silly for feeling this way about not doing a specific sex act for one weekend. I love him so much and I can forgo period sex, but I feel rejected deep down inside. I want to have the deep, passionate sex we normally have and I feel very unfulfilled that it didn’t happen. I know he still loves me and wants to give me pleasure, but I just don’t know why I have this sense of rejection. I also don’t want to question why it’s fine for him to have period sex if he wants it or if I’m cramping, but not when I want it. I’ll respect any boundaries he has, even if I find them incredibly confusing. I partly needed to vent, but I’m very much open to any advice or opinions if you have it 🙂
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r/sex My boyfriend (27M) and I (25F) have been dating for around 6 months. We have the most amazing sex life and an awesome relationship. This is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and we have been discussing marriage. We live about an hour apart so we spend every weekend together. Me and my boyfriend are very open and sexual people. Most of the time, we can’t keep our hands off each other. We have had period sex a couple of times before and he was enthusiastic to do it. It felt amazing and I was thrilled that he would want to have sex with me during that time because I knew a lot of guys don’t like doing that. It was sometimes messy, but he never seemed displeased with it at all. During my last period, I wanted to initiate sex. We had a lot of fun that day, I had given him a blowjob as soon as I got to his house, we cooked an amazing dinner, we were drinking, we watched a movie and then decided to go to bed. I climbed on top of him and we started making out. He asked me what I wanted to do. I said, “I want to have sex.” He said, “which way?” (Context: we had been talking about anal that day) I said that I wanted it vaginally. I felt his tone slightly change and he said something along the lines of, “I don’t want to have sex when you’re on your period, it’s messy and blood gets all over the condom and all over me. We have sex every weekend, do we have to have sex every weekend?” I felt very insulted and immediately wanted to start crying, but I held it back and stayed silent. I’m fine with him not wanting sex, it’s just the way he said this and the timing that threw me off. I also felt he worded it like if I had said anal, it would’ve been game on right then and there which was very offensive to me (not that I don’t want anal, I do, just didnt want it that day). I laid there in silence trying to find words to say, but my mind was racing. He asked if I wanted to talk about it or if I wanted to wait until tomorrow or if I wanted him to sleep in another room. I told him that it’s not what he said, it’s how he said it that was very off-putting and that I was drunk and just needed to think for a second. He kept asking questions like if I think it’s dumb that he doesn’t want to, and I said it doesn’t matter what I think about it, I don’t want to do anything he doesn’t want to do. We talked it out and he apologized and explained that he still wants to do stuff with me, just not PIV, except if I was having cramps since he knows sex can help cramps (which is confusing). I told him again, that I really don’t want to do anything he doesn’t want to do even under that circumstance and I cuddled with him until he fell asleep. However, I couldn’t help but roll over and cry. I felt so hurt and rejected, for many reasons. I only get to see him on the weekends, and I crave intimacy with him so much. I’m also way more emotional on my period, but also so much more horny and sensitive. I felt like he was rejecting me for something that is so much a part of me as a woman. I did not tell him I cried and I did not tell him these things because that would feel manipulative to me, if he doesn’t want to do a sex act, I don’t want to do it either. However, deep inside I still really want and crave having sex during my period. This weekend I got my period before I went over to his house and I was immediately bummed out. I masturbated before I went to his house and this held me over for the first night. When we woke up the first morning, he let me know he wanted me to touch him. I love doing things to him, but I knew I wasn’t going to get anything in return so I just gave him a lazy handjob. He was very happy and got up and got in the shower to clean himself off. I was very horny and frustrated, partly with his lack of effort, but also frustrated with myself for playing with him when I knew sex is off the table. He came back, got dressed, kissed me, and told me he was going to make us breakfast. I got out my vibrator and had an amazing orgasm, but I was kind of nervous for him to walk in on me. He doesn’t mind me masturbating, but Ive never masturbated when we’re together bc I’ve never had to. I know an obvious solution would be to have him use the vibrator on me, but it takes me a ridiculous amount of time to orgasm with him since I have to be very focused (most of the time I don’t even want or need to orgasm if we have sex bc it makes me feel completely satisfied). I didn’t want him to walk in on me and feel any type of way for me not telling him I was going to masturbate, and I also didn’t want him to feel bad for not playing with me because I didn’t communicate that I needed that at the time. Sometimes, I do really enjoy doing things to him without anything in return. This was just not one of those times, and I didn’t know how to communicate my needs given that he told me he doesn’t want to have sex on my period. Then this morning, he again wanted me to touch him. Again, I didn’t deny him. We started making out, he said “I wish we had condoms” (which confused me, but I guess he was so horny that he wanted to have sex regardless of my period). Then he said, “I feel bad when we do things and it’s one sided.” I said, “it’s not one sided if you play with me, I still really like it.” He played with my boobs (but didn’t touch my pussy), I gave him a bj, he came on me, and that was it. I really liked it, but I felt so unfulfilled and also confused bc of the condom comment. It’s perplexing, why will he have period sex when he’s horny or I’m cramping, but not when I want him inside of me so badly? He’s right, it does feel one sided. I just love pleasuring him and I get so turned on when I’m with him that I don’t even think about rejecting him. We both know I want sex, every other time we see each other we have sex like 3 or 4 times in a weekend. I was way less sexual and touchy than I normally am this weekend because I kept reminding myself that he doesn’t want sex with me at this time. I can’t help but still want it very badly. I feel like I can’t communicate this to him, and I also am now completely turned off by the idea of him coming anywhere near my vagina now when I’m menstruating. I don’t want to be upset, but I can’t really help it. I don’t really know what to feel. I wish I could get over it, I feel silly for feeling this way about not doing a specific sex act for one weekend. I love him so much and I can forgo period sex, but I feel rejected deep down inside. I want to have the deep, passionate sex we normally have and I feel very unfulfilled that it didn’t happen. I know he still loves me and wants to give me pleasure, but I just don’t know why I have this sense of rejection. I also don’t want to question why it’s fine for him to have period sex if he wants it or if I’m cramping, but not when I want it. I’ll respect any boundaries he has, even if I find them incredibly confusing. I partly needed to vent, but I’m very much open to any advice or opinions if you have it 🙂 submitted by /u/Soggy_Letterhead3400 [link] [comments]
My boyfriend (27M) and I (25F) have been dating for around 6 months. We have the most amazing sex life and an awesome relationship. This is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with and we have been discussing marriage. We live about an hour apart so we spend every weekend together.
Me and my boyfriend are very open and sexual people. Most of the time, we can’t keep our hands off each other. We have had period sex a couple of times before and he was enthusiastic to do it. It felt amazing and I was thrilled that he would want to have sex with me during that time because I knew a lot of guys don’t like doing that. It was sometimes messy, but he never seemed displeased with it at all.
During my last period, I wanted to initiate sex. We had a lot of fun that day, I had given him a blowjob as soon as I got to his house, we cooked an amazing dinner, we were drinking, we watched a movie and then decided to go to bed. I climbed on top of him and we started making out. He asked me what I wanted to do. I said, “I want to have sex.” He said, “which way?” (Context: we had been talking about anal that day) I said that I wanted it vaginally. I felt his tone slightly change and he said something along the lines of, “I don’t want to have sex when you’re on your period, it’s messy and blood gets all over the condom and all over me. We have sex every weekend, do we have to have sex every weekend?”
I felt very insulted and immediately wanted to start crying, but I held it back and stayed silent. I’m fine with him not wanting sex, it’s just the way he said this and the timing that threw me off. I also felt he worded it like if I had said anal, it would’ve been game on right then and there which was very offensive to me (not that I don’t want anal, I do, just didnt want it that day). I laid there in silence trying to find words to say, but my mind was racing. He asked if I wanted to talk about it or if I wanted to wait until tomorrow or if I wanted him to sleep in another room. I told him that it’s not what he said, it’s how he said it that was very off-putting and that I was drunk and just needed to think for a second. He kept asking questions like if I think it’s dumb that he doesn’t want to, and I said it doesn’t matter what I think about it, I don’t want to do anything he doesn’t want to do.
We talked it out and he apologized and explained that he still wants to do stuff with me, just not PIV, except if I was having cramps since he knows sex can help cramps (which is confusing). I told him again, that I really don’t want to do anything he doesn’t want to do even under that circumstance and I cuddled with him until he fell asleep. However, I couldn’t help but roll over and cry. I felt so hurt and rejected, for many reasons. I only get to see him on the weekends, and I crave intimacy with him so much. I’m also way more emotional on my period, but also so much more horny and sensitive. I felt like he was rejecting me for something that is so much a part of me as a woman. I did not tell him I cried and I did not tell him these things because that would feel manipulative to me, if he doesn’t want to do a sex act, I don’t want to do it either.
However, deep inside I still really want and crave having sex during my period. This weekend I got my period before I went over to his house and I was immediately bummed out. I masturbated before I went to his house and this held me over for the first night.
When we woke up the first morning, he let me know he wanted me to touch him. I love doing things to him, but I knew I wasn’t going to get anything in return so I just gave him a lazy handjob. He was very happy and got up and got in the shower to clean himself off. I was very horny and frustrated, partly with his lack of effort, but also frustrated with myself for playing with him when I knew sex is off the table. He came back, got dressed, kissed me, and told me he was going to make us breakfast.
I got out my vibrator and had an amazing orgasm, but I was kind of nervous for him to walk in on me. He doesn’t mind me masturbating, but Ive never masturbated when we’re together bc I’ve never had to. I know an obvious solution would be to have him use the vibrator on me, but it takes me a ridiculous amount of time to orgasm with him since I have to be very focused (most of the time I don’t even want or need to orgasm if we have sex bc it makes me feel completely satisfied). I didn’t want him to walk in on me and feel any type of way for me not telling him I was going to masturbate, and I also didn’t want him to feel bad for not playing with me because I didn’t communicate that I needed that at the time. Sometimes, I do really enjoy doing things to him without anything in return. This was just not one of those times, and I didn’t know how to communicate my needs given that he told me he doesn’t want to have sex on my period.
Then this morning, he again wanted me to touch him. Again, I didn’t deny him. We started making out, he said “I wish we had condoms” (which confused me, but I guess he was so horny that he wanted to have sex regardless of my period). Then he said, “I feel bad when we do things and it’s one sided.” I said, “it’s not one sided if you play with me, I still really like it.” He played with my boobs (but didn’t touch my pussy), I gave him a bj, he came on me, and that was it. I really liked it, but I felt so unfulfilled and also confused bc of the condom comment. It’s perplexing, why will he have period sex when he’s horny or I’m cramping, but not when I want him inside of me so badly?
He’s right, it does feel one sided. I just love pleasuring him and I get so turned on when I’m with him that I don’t even think about rejecting him. We both know I want sex, every other time we see each other we have sex like 3 or 4 times in a weekend. I was way less sexual and touchy than I normally am this weekend because I kept reminding myself that he doesn’t want sex with me at this time. I can’t help but still want it very badly. I feel like I can’t communicate this to him, and I also am now completely turned off by the idea of him coming anywhere near my vagina now when I’m menstruating.
I don’t want to be upset, but I can’t really help it. I don’t really know what to feel. I wish I could get over it, I feel silly for feeling this way about not doing a specific sex act for one weekend. I love him so much and I can forgo period sex, but I feel rejected deep down inside. I want to have the deep, passionate sex we normally have and I feel very unfulfilled that it didn’t happen. I know he still loves me and wants to give me pleasure, but I just don’t know why I have this sense of rejection. I also don’t want to question why it’s fine for him to have period sex if he wants it or if I’m cramping, but not when I want it. I’ll respect any boundaries he has, even if I find them incredibly confusing. I partly needed to vent, but I’m very much open to any advice or opinions if you have it 🙂
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