It’s a very long story I won’t bore you with but I’m F48 and have never had an orgasm. It’s got to the point where I’m feeling quite miserable and fed up about it. I have begun to really hate my body for it. Rightly or wrongly it’s just never happened for me and our married sex life has had many peaks and valleys. Mostly nice and lovely but we’ve had a number of droughts due to life pressures were we lose our mojo and our skills get really rusty. I feel there is something inside of me from a young age, a very tightly coiled tension that I just can’t let go of. Letting go to enjoy it fully and mindfully has been incredibly hard, turning off that internal chatter that comes with being a women and a Mother.
I have often reached a point of stopping my partner at the point of INTENSE sensations because I panic at the intensity. It is physically too much. I’m afraid of it.
Recently in the last few years the G-spot finally showed up after a second childbirth and subsequent repair operation. So the double sensations when I’m in the mood have been rather good. Partner has been getting much better at the two handed tricky business. All credit that is not easy!
I realised quite recently I need to vocalise quite a bit and without restraint. So my husband found a place in the country, no kids, a nice big bed…………with lots of foreplay, the right music, every ounce of my concentration and mindfulness………….I squirted on two occasions! But no orgasm, I think. Like hitting a padded wall at speed and then sitting in a puddle. A relief but not a release.
My question is should we continue the stimulation past the wet stuff? Will that result in an orgasm?
Husband was pretty chuffed with the water works, but I’m just thinking of sheets that need washing after everything it took within me to even get past my inbuilt panic. I swear if I hit menopause before I get an orgasm I’m turning into one of those little old ladies that runs into your shins with a shopping trolley.
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r/sex It’s a very long story I won’t bore you with but I’m F48 and have never had an orgasm. It’s got to the point where I’m feeling quite miserable and fed up about it. I have begun to really hate my body for it. Rightly or wrongly it’s just never happened for me and our married sex life has had many peaks and valleys. Mostly nice and lovely but we’ve had a number of droughts due to life pressures were we lose our mojo and our skills get really rusty. I feel there is something inside of me from a young age, a very tightly coiled tension that I just can’t let go of. Letting go to enjoy it fully and mindfully has been incredibly hard, turning off that internal chatter that comes with being a women and a Mother. I have often reached a point of stopping my partner at the point of INTENSE sensations because I panic at the intensity. It is physically too much. I’m afraid of it. Recently in the last few years the G-spot finally showed up after a second childbirth and subsequent repair operation. So the double sensations when I’m in the mood have been rather good. Partner has been getting much better at the two handed tricky business. All credit that is not easy! I realised quite recently I need to vocalise quite a bit and without restraint. So my husband found a place in the country, no kids, a nice big bed…………with lots of foreplay, the right music, every ounce of my concentration and mindfulness………….I squirted on two occasions! But no orgasm, I think. Like hitting a padded wall at speed and then sitting in a puddle. A relief but not a release. My question is should we continue the stimulation past the wet stuff? Will that result in an orgasm? Husband was pretty chuffed with the water works, but I’m just thinking of sheets that need washing after everything it took within me to even get past my inbuilt panic. I swear if I hit menopause before I get an orgasm I’m turning into one of those little old ladies that runs into your shins with a shopping trolley. submitted by /u/tyungun [link] [comments]
It’s a very long story I won’t bore you with but I’m F48 and have never had an orgasm. It’s got to the point where I’m feeling quite miserable and fed up about it. I have begun to really hate my body for it. Rightly or wrongly it’s just never happened for me and our married sex life has had many peaks and valleys. Mostly nice and lovely but we’ve had a number of droughts due to life pressures were we lose our mojo and our skills get really rusty. I feel there is something inside of me from a young age, a very tightly coiled tension that I just can’t let go of. Letting go to enjoy it fully and mindfully has been incredibly hard, turning off that internal chatter that comes with being a women and a Mother.
I have often reached a point of stopping my partner at the point of INTENSE sensations because I panic at the intensity. It is physically too much. I’m afraid of it.
Recently in the last few years the G-spot finally showed up after a second childbirth and subsequent repair operation. So the double sensations when I’m in the mood have been rather good. Partner has been getting much better at the two handed tricky business. All credit that is not easy!
I realised quite recently I need to vocalise quite a bit and without restraint. So my husband found a place in the country, no kids, a nice big bed…………with lots of foreplay, the right music, every ounce of my concentration and mindfulness………….I squirted on two occasions! But no orgasm, I think. Like hitting a padded wall at speed and then sitting in a puddle. A relief but not a release.
My question is should we continue the stimulation past the wet stuff? Will that result in an orgasm?
Husband was pretty chuffed with the water works, but I’m just thinking of sheets that need washing after everything it took within me to even get past my inbuilt panic. I swear if I hit menopause before I get an orgasm I’m turning into one of those little old ladies that runs into your shins with a shopping trolley.
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