The dirty talk/threats… pushing the limits /u/rooomatethaw Sex

I’m (35f) love being dominated by my husband (36m). The way he holds me down, cuffs me and talks dirty to me always pushes me over the edge in a way that no man ever could. He’s always respected my boundaries, but it’s obvious that pushing my boundaries is what turns me on so much. Example – we’ve never had anal, I’m not interested. But when he fucks me he threats to, and it’s really exciting. He makes it so believable – but part of the aftercare process is assuring me that he respects my boundaries. It’s slightly self-defeating, as I know the next time – he escalates the threat to make it more real. So far, he’s managed to pace it to not run out of steam (realistic threat), but at some point… I just won’t believe him and I won’t have the threat/arousal anymore.

I’m sure I’m not the only person to have lived this. Any ideas to make this sustainable. Is there an end to these games? Does it always end badly.

I’m (35f) love being dominated by my husband (36m). The way he holds me down, cuffs me and talks dirty to me always pushes me over the edge in a way that no man ever could. He’s always respected my boundaries, but it’s obvious that pushing my boundaries is what turns me on so much. Example – we’ve never had anal, I’m not interested. But when he fucks me he threats to, and it’s really exciting. He makes it so believable – but part of the aftercare process is assuring me that he respects my boundaries. It’s slightly self-defeating, as I know the next time – he escalates the threat to make it more real. So far, he’s managed to pace it to not run out of steam (realistic threat), but at some point… I just won’t believe him and I won’t have the threat/arousal anymore.

I’m sure I’m not the only person to have lived this. Any ideas to make this sustainable. Is there an end to these games? Does it always end badly.