Me (19F) and my partner (18M), have been in a relationship for some good months. Our sex life is great and very active.
Some weeks ago we had a very massive fight on the topic of sex toys. I told him that the idea of DP is interesting to me and I would like to try it in the future and because we are a monogamous couple I told him we could make use of a dildo. He got very angry and told me things like “Wouldn’t my hands be enough? So I am not enough?? My penis isn’t good enough for you?” I told him that I would like to experiment DP and HE ISN’T GENETICALLY MUTATED TO HAVE TWO PENISES.
After that I told him that I can’t reach orgasm without stimulating my clitoris and asked what does he think of a vibrator. He got upset and said “Am I not eating it good? Am I not doing a good job when I stimulate it myself?”. He stimulates it only during foreplay and when he eats me out, I do it myself when we have penetrative sex, he sometimes does too, but not for long enough to get me finish. To all of his questions I replied that I love him and that he is enough for me. I only want to incorporate sex toys in our intimate life to increase our fun, even suggested he can get his own, never to replace his touch or because I’m unsatisfied.
He got very deffensive, suggested stuff like my pussy would go numb because I would abuse the vibrator, I would come to preffer the toy more than I preffer him, and because it feels fake for us to use toys and it would affect the ‘authenticity’ of sex. He says I would get addicted to it and beg for more.
I told him that he does not care about how I feel and he said that I don’t even take into the account that my vibrator would touch him when we would be doing it, thus claiming that I am being selfish.
I think he is deeply insecure and I just wish to help him see that these toys could never replace him in any way. My question is, regarding his reaction how can I convince him that sex toys should be seen as team mates rather than enemies?
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r/sex Me (19F) and my partner (18M), have been in a relationship for some good months. Our sex life is great and very active. Some weeks ago we had a very massive fight on the topic of sex toys. I told him that the idea of DP is interesting to me and I would like to try it in the future and because we are a monogamous couple I told him we could make use of a dildo. He got very angry and told me things like “Wouldn’t my hands be enough? So I am not enough?? My penis isn’t good enough for you?” I told him that I would like to experiment DP and HE ISN’T GENETICALLY MUTATED TO HAVE TWO PENISES. After that I told him that I can’t reach orgasm without stimulating my clitoris and asked what does he think of a vibrator. He got upset and said “Am I not eating it good? Am I not doing a good job when I stimulate it myself?”. He stimulates it only during foreplay and when he eats me out, I do it myself when we have penetrative sex, he sometimes does too, but not for long enough to get me finish. To all of his questions I replied that I love him and that he is enough for me. I only want to incorporate sex toys in our intimate life to increase our fun, even suggested he can get his own, never to replace his touch or because I’m unsatisfied. He got very deffensive, suggested stuff like my pussy would go numb because I would abuse the vibrator, I would come to preffer the toy more than I preffer him, and because it feels fake for us to use toys and it would affect the ‘authenticity’ of sex. He says I would get addicted to it and beg for more. I told him that he does not care about how I feel and he said that I don’t even take into the account that my vibrator would touch him when we would be doing it, thus claiming that I am being selfish. I think he is deeply insecure and I just wish to help him see that these toys could never replace him in any way. My question is, regarding his reaction how can I convince him that sex toys should be seen as team mates rather than enemies? submitted by /u/Nicole11037 [link] [comments]
Me (19F) and my partner (18M), have been in a relationship for some good months. Our sex life is great and very active.
Some weeks ago we had a very massive fight on the topic of sex toys. I told him that the idea of DP is interesting to me and I would like to try it in the future and because we are a monogamous couple I told him we could make use of a dildo. He got very angry and told me things like “Wouldn’t my hands be enough? So I am not enough?? My penis isn’t good enough for you?” I told him that I would like to experiment DP and HE ISN’T GENETICALLY MUTATED TO HAVE TWO PENISES.
After that I told him that I can’t reach orgasm without stimulating my clitoris and asked what does he think of a vibrator. He got upset and said “Am I not eating it good? Am I not doing a good job when I stimulate it myself?”. He stimulates it only during foreplay and when he eats me out, I do it myself when we have penetrative sex, he sometimes does too, but not for long enough to get me finish. To all of his questions I replied that I love him and that he is enough for me. I only want to incorporate sex toys in our intimate life to increase our fun, even suggested he can get his own, never to replace his touch or because I’m unsatisfied.
He got very deffensive, suggested stuff like my pussy would go numb because I would abuse the vibrator, I would come to preffer the toy more than I preffer him, and because it feels fake for us to use toys and it would affect the ‘authenticity’ of sex. He says I would get addicted to it and beg for more.
I told him that he does not care about how I feel and he said that I don’t even take into the account that my vibrator would touch him when we would be doing it, thus claiming that I am being selfish.
I think he is deeply insecure and I just wish to help him see that these toys could never replace him in any way. My question is, regarding his reaction how can I convince him that sex toys should be seen as team mates rather than enemies?
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