I just wan to express how wonderful this whole (pun intended) new world of sex is, and to remind people out there that you never know who is going to come along in your life, or how your sex life may change because of them!
She and I have been dating for about five weeks, and have taken the relationship really fast (super stereotypical of lesbians, I know!). There are a lot of things about our relationship that are really complicated. However, I wanted to make this post about being open to new experiences, and not closing yourself off to things because of labels or expectations, weather from others or from yourself.
I have identified as a lesbian since I ever started dating or sleeping with anyone, at 16 yrs. old. Since then, I have had sexual experiences with men and women, but way more women than men. I decided years ago that I didn’t want to have sex with men any more, unless it was to get pregnant.
10 years went by where I didn’t date or have sex with anyone. Then I met my current girlfriend, who is a trans woman. She takes hormones to aid in her transition, and is going to have bottom surgery by October. Right now, she has a penis that doesn’t do much for her in the way of sexual satisfaction– the hormones make her penis way less sensitive than “normal.”
I have never been at all interested in anal sex– either giving or receiving. In the rare moment that someone has gone anywhere near my asshole, I have quickly redirected them. When my girl and I got together, I told her as much. She agreed to no “butt stuff,” but I had no idea that she was just trying not to scare me away.
Fortunately, I am a giver. It was really important to me that I find a way to satisfy her sexually. For the first few weeks, I would easily get off just messing around and eventually rubbing against her. She would get hard, and I will definitely admit that it made me feel proud to cause her to get an erection, especially knowing that it was rare for her. I kept asking what I could do for her. FINALLY!! She told me that she really wanted me to peg her. I was overjoyed!
I didn’t even really feel nervous, but I did know that I would be a newby. We shopped for a strap-on together online, and decided on one that had a vibrator that would be against my body. It turned out that we were SO excited, that we drove all the way to a city near our little town just to buy a similar strap-on and some other things (I learned what poppers are, and we got lube and cleaner) because we couldn’t wait for the other toy to come in the mail!!
Our first time was amazing. I know I was awkward, but she was so good at helping me. She loves being a “bottom,” but she also recognizes that I am new to this and she has to help me learn.
I got off just using the strap-on with her. She did not orgasm, but assured me that she felt very satisfied. Our second time, I fucked up and went in at a wrong angle at one point and we had to stop. We ended up just going to sleep. I felt SO bad. But it’s all a part of learning. Since then, I am getting better, and she is a wonderful teacher. We also got a butt plug that I can control the vibrations with my phone! I have always been into the idea of public sex or other public sex acts, so the thought of controlling the plug while she is, say, at work, is a huge turn on.
The point of this long post is this; I never considered dating a trans woman. I never considered getting into pegging or any kind of anal sex. But here I am (pun intended), at 36, totally in love and sexually excited in a way I never could have imagined. I am not even with her tonight, but I just think about her all the time.
TL;DR I am open to new experiences with my trans girlfriend. I hope you keep your mind and body open too!!
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r/sex I just wan to express how wonderful this whole (pun intended) new world of sex is, and to remind people out there that you never know who is going to come along in your life, or how your sex life may change because of them! She and I have been dating for about five weeks, and have taken the relationship really fast (super stereotypical of lesbians, I know!). There are a lot of things about our relationship that are really complicated. However, I wanted to make this post about being open to new experiences, and not closing yourself off to things because of labels or expectations, weather from others or from yourself. I have identified as a lesbian since I ever started dating or sleeping with anyone, at 16 yrs. old. Since then, I have had sexual experiences with men and women, but way more women than men. I decided years ago that I didn’t want to have sex with men any more, unless it was to get pregnant. 10 years went by where I didn’t date or have sex with anyone. Then I met my current girlfriend, who is a trans woman. She takes hormones to aid in her transition, and is going to have bottom surgery by October. Right now, she has a penis that doesn’t do much for her in the way of sexual satisfaction– the hormones make her penis way less sensitive than “normal.” I have never been at all interested in anal sex– either giving or receiving. In the rare moment that someone has gone anywhere near my asshole, I have quickly redirected them. When my girl and I got together, I told her as much. She agreed to no “butt stuff,” but I had no idea that she was just trying not to scare me away. Fortunately, I am a giver. It was really important to me that I find a way to satisfy her sexually. For the first few weeks, I would easily get off just messing around and eventually rubbing against her. She would get hard, and I will definitely admit that it made me feel proud to cause her to get an erection, especially knowing that it was rare for her. I kept asking what I could do for her. FINALLY!! She told me that she really wanted me to peg her. I was overjoyed! I didn’t even really feel nervous, but I did know that I would be a newby. We shopped for a strap-on together online, and decided on one that had a vibrator that would be against my body. It turned out that we were SO excited, that we drove all the way to a city near our little town just to buy a similar strap-on and some other things (I learned what poppers are, and we got lube and cleaner) because we couldn’t wait for the other toy to come in the mail!! Our first time was amazing. I know I was awkward, but she was so good at helping me. She loves being a “bottom,” but she also recognizes that I am new to this and she has to help me learn. I got off just using the strap-on with her. She did not orgasm, but assured me that she felt very satisfied. Our second time, I fucked up and went in at a wrong angle at one point and we had to stop. We ended up just going to sleep. I felt SO bad. But it’s all a part of learning. Since then, I am getting better, and she is a wonderful teacher. We also got a butt plug that I can control the vibrations with my phone! I have always been into the idea of public sex or other public sex acts, so the thought of controlling the plug while she is, say, at work, is a huge turn on. The point of this long post is this; I never considered dating a trans woman. I never considered getting into pegging or any kind of anal sex. But here I am (pun intended), at 36, totally in love and sexually excited in a way I never could have imagined. I am not even with her tonight, but I just think about her all the time. TL;DR I am open to new experiences with my trans girlfriend. I hope you keep your mind and body open too!! submitted by /u/SpudSomething [link] [comments]
I just wan to express how wonderful this whole (pun intended) new world of sex is, and to remind people out there that you never know who is going to come along in your life, or how your sex life may change because of them!
She and I have been dating for about five weeks, and have taken the relationship really fast (super stereotypical of lesbians, I know!). There are a lot of things about our relationship that are really complicated. However, I wanted to make this post about being open to new experiences, and not closing yourself off to things because of labels or expectations, weather from others or from yourself.
I have identified as a lesbian since I ever started dating or sleeping with anyone, at 16 yrs. old. Since then, I have had sexual experiences with men and women, but way more women than men. I decided years ago that I didn’t want to have sex with men any more, unless it was to get pregnant.
10 years went by where I didn’t date or have sex with anyone. Then I met my current girlfriend, who is a trans woman. She takes hormones to aid in her transition, and is going to have bottom surgery by October. Right now, she has a penis that doesn’t do much for her in the way of sexual satisfaction– the hormones make her penis way less sensitive than “normal.”
I have never been at all interested in anal sex– either giving or receiving. In the rare moment that someone has gone anywhere near my asshole, I have quickly redirected them. When my girl and I got together, I told her as much. She agreed to no “butt stuff,” but I had no idea that she was just trying not to scare me away.
Fortunately, I am a giver. It was really important to me that I find a way to satisfy her sexually. For the first few weeks, I would easily get off just messing around and eventually rubbing against her. She would get hard, and I will definitely admit that it made me feel proud to cause her to get an erection, especially knowing that it was rare for her. I kept asking what I could do for her. FINALLY!! She told me that she really wanted me to peg her. I was overjoyed!
I didn’t even really feel nervous, but I did know that I would be a newby. We shopped for a strap-on together online, and decided on one that had a vibrator that would be against my body. It turned out that we were SO excited, that we drove all the way to a city near our little town just to buy a similar strap-on and some other things (I learned what poppers are, and we got lube and cleaner) because we couldn’t wait for the other toy to come in the mail!!
Our first time was amazing. I know I was awkward, but she was so good at helping me. She loves being a “bottom,” but she also recognizes that I am new to this and she has to help me learn.
I got off just using the strap-on with her. She did not orgasm, but assured me that she felt very satisfied. Our second time, I fucked up and went in at a wrong angle at one point and we had to stop. We ended up just going to sleep. I felt SO bad. But it’s all a part of learning. Since then, I am getting better, and she is a wonderful teacher. We also got a butt plug that I can control the vibrations with my phone! I have always been into the idea of public sex or other public sex acts, so the thought of controlling the plug while she is, say, at work, is a huge turn on.
The point of this long post is this; I never considered dating a trans woman. I never considered getting into pegging or any kind of anal sex. But here I am (pun intended), at 36, totally in love and sexually excited in a way I never could have imagined. I am not even with her tonight, but I just think about her all the time.
TL;DR I am open to new experiences with my trans girlfriend. I hope you keep your mind and body open too!!
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