my fiancè has Asexual tendencies /u/OH_Mav-Rik_8794 Sex

Me (29M) her (25F) June will make 3 years together, we both came from toxic relationships and found each other from working together at the same hardware store. She believes in the extra titles and descriptions of who she is, so if you ever ask her what she is she’ll tell you a Starbucks order, me I just tell people I’m a straight dude who is a believer of the original terms and love life and has a high sex drive shell say something like (example) non binary demi sexual bi sexual female with pan sexual and asexual tendencies. <— “Starbucks order”

We’ve had sex multiple times at my old place, twice at her old place and once at our place that we moved into about 4 months ago. We’ve dated for 2 ½ years before 💍 I popped the question, I’m a comedian so when I popped the question it was with a RingPOP ☺️ she enjoyed my as she calls it “adorable goofiness” and we haven’t made it official to her family or mine because we haven’t gotten a physical ring, (she ate her engagement ring 😂) .

Since we moved into our new place we’ve only had sex once, and due to a lot of surgeries I’ve had and been popped with some many drugs I currently have a severely high Testosterone? Problem? Issue? Not sure but let’s just say my morning wood is pornstar wood (STAYS stiff) and my sex drive is sparked by just small intimate things . We have the rule “consent is sexy!” With a pinky lock handshake .. due to her Ex forcing her at times she never wanted it.

Hopefully I didn’t lose you here but I hope you now are aware of us both before I start my questions. My last ex I had to Beg for sex only because all she’d want from me was to just eat her out, but never would give me a HJ,BJ, or sex unless she wanted it but would always want to me to eat her out and not return the favor.. so when me and my fiance met there was a Spark and it was a big spark new positions, new feelings , more intimate sex and not just “sex” (hopefully someone understands that kind of sex) not to tell all my stories but one time My fiance was being bratty and I said if you don’t quit whining I’ll put this dick in your mouth and it will be your pacifier, she stuck her tongue out and I face fucked her ((first time ever doing that) and it was different and pleasurable

Fast forward to today, sorry if that ☝️ was TMI we had a conversation one day I asked her if she wanted to have some romantic time, she didn’t agree or deny the offer she just said Idk , I reminded her that I wouldn’t want her to feel forced, and reminded her about our agreement with a pinky shake Consent is sexy! And told her if not tonight let’s try this weekend, I’m patient with her because she’s been so loyal to me and women like that are rare in my experience.

Well the weekend came and we started slow kissing and I asked you wanna try? And she advised me there was too much going on in her head for her to focus on it. I said ok and she got depressed.. which I didn’t and still don’t understand, but after awhile it got more frequent, and one day she asked if I’d be open to having a open relationship and I felt offended, then she explained that I could find someone to be able to give me what I wanted in sex, and I told her no cause I didn’t want conflict or even jealousy to open in our relationship..

Recently I’ve been craving her, I’m a pleaser so I’d rather eat you out and please you before I get off, cause it takes me a good minute to get there , and she told me her Asexual tendencies are kicking in. And every time since then that we try she just doesn’t pursue going through with sex and she always feels like she disappoints me, I love her a lot and I always reassure her it’s ok and it is , I just feel personally I did something to have her loose that spark and I even asked her do I still do it for you? She said yes But and then she grabs her head and apparently her brain yells at her…

It’s been 3 months, and the last time we did it she read some MHA smut on Twitter and was laying ontop of me and I just remember playing with her hips and then falling asleep next thing I remember was waking up to her still on top and she started kissing me and Boom.

Porn isn’t doing it anymore

Masterbation is making me have friction burns on my shaft

And every now and then I think about fucking other woman (I would never do it , promise that been cheated on enough to know the feeling of betrayal) even dreams

I’m scared I’ll lose her, she’s scared she’ll lose me, I’m currently horny been for days, she’s been contempt..

I just to know this

Are we going to be ok

Is there ways I can make a move that would help her get in the mood

Is it me

And

4 masterbation is getting old what should I do

Thanks in advance, I want to help us both by helping her get more intimate and feeling sexy and also helping myself when I get horny and she’s not

Me (29M) her (25F) June will make 3 years together, we both came from toxic relationships and found each other from working together at the same hardware store. She believes in the extra titles and descriptions of who she is, so if you ever ask her what she is she’ll tell you a Starbucks order, me I just tell people I’m a straight dude who is a believer of the original terms and love life and has a high sex drive shell say something like (example) non binary demi sexual bi sexual female with pan sexual and asexual tendencies. <— “Starbucks order”

We’ve had sex multiple times at my old place, twice at her old place and once at our place that we moved into about 4 months ago. We’ve dated for 2 ½ years before 💍 I popped the question, I’m a comedian so when I popped the question it was with a RingPOP ☺️ she enjoyed my as she calls it “adorable goofiness” and we haven’t made it official to her family or mine because we haven’t gotten a physical ring, (she ate her engagement ring 😂) .

Since we moved into our new place we’ve only had sex once, and due to a lot of surgeries I’ve had and been popped with some many drugs I currently have a severely high Testosterone? Problem? Issue? Not sure but let’s just say my morning wood is pornstar wood (STAYS stiff) and my sex drive is sparked by just small intimate things . We have the rule “consent is sexy!” With a pinky lock handshake .. due to her Ex forcing her at times she never wanted it.

Hopefully I didn’t lose you here but I hope you now are aware of us both before I start my questions. My last ex I had to Beg for sex only because all she’d want from me was to just eat her out, but never would give me a HJ,BJ, or sex unless she wanted it but would always want to me to eat her out and not return the favor.. so when me and my fiance met there was a Spark and it was a big spark new positions, new feelings , more intimate sex and not just “sex” (hopefully someone understands that kind of sex) not to tell all my stories but one time My fiance was being bratty and I said if you don’t quit whining I’ll put this dick in your mouth and it will be your pacifier, she stuck her tongue out and I face fucked her ((first time ever doing that) and it was different and pleasurable

Fast forward to today, sorry if that ☝️ was TMI we had a conversation one day I asked her if she wanted to have some romantic time, she didn’t agree or deny the offer she just said Idk , I reminded her that I wouldn’t want her to feel forced, and reminded her about our agreement with a pinky shake Consent is sexy! And told her if not tonight let’s try this weekend, I’m patient with her because she’s been so loyal to me and women like that are rare in my experience.

Well the weekend came and we started slow kissing and I asked you wanna try? And she advised me there was too much going on in her head for her to focus on it. I said ok and she got depressed.. which I didn’t and still don’t understand, but after awhile it got more frequent, and one day she asked if I’d be open to having a open relationship and I felt offended, then she explained that I could find someone to be able to give me what I wanted in sex, and I told her no cause I didn’t want conflict or even jealousy to open in our relationship..

Recently I’ve been craving her, I’m a pleaser so I’d rather eat you out and please you before I get off, cause it takes me a good minute to get there , and she told me her Asexual tendencies are kicking in. And every time since then that we try she just doesn’t pursue going through with sex and she always feels like she disappoints me, I love her a lot and I always reassure her it’s ok and it is , I just feel personally I did something to have her loose that spark and I even asked her do I still do it for you? She said yes But and then she grabs her head and apparently her brain yells at her…

It’s been 3 months, and the last time we did it she read some MHA smut on Twitter and was laying ontop of me and I just remember playing with her hips and then falling asleep next thing I remember was waking up to her still on top and she started kissing me and Boom.

Porn isn’t doing it anymore

Masterbation is making me have friction burns on my shaft

And every now and then I think about fucking other woman (I would never do it , promise that been cheated on enough to know the feeling of betrayal) even dreams

I’m scared I’ll lose her, she’s scared she’ll lose me, I’m currently horny been for days, she’s been contempt..

I just to know this

Are we going to be ok

Is there ways I can make a move that would help her get in the mood

Is it me

And

4 masterbation is getting old what should I do

Thanks in advance, I want to help us both by helping her get more intimate and feeling sexy and also helping myself when I get horny and she’s not