Wife told me she cheated on me /u/the_mr_sanders Sex

Married for 12 years, together for 17. In the first year of and very much a couple and really good sex life, wife then girlfriend at the time had a date and then we both went out with her friends afterwards. Having a really good night and I have to leave earlier than them because I had to work the next morning. Check with the girlfriend to make sure she will be ok and she was because she was with her friends and go home. Come round next day I see her and she hugs me crying saying she was attacked and raped, I question her and she tells me she was attacked walking to her car in the dark and the attacker runs off once he is done and she couldn’t tell who it was. I comfort her and do everything a good boyfriend would do at the time and question her friends who were with her and try to help the best I can. Over the years I sympathise and check in on her when ever the subject comes up and make sure she’s ok. 12 years of marriage and 3 children later, we get talking late one night and I ask her if she remembers anything else that happened at the time that may have led up to it and she tells me that there isn’t anything that she could remember but will try to and let me know if she does. Couple nights later we are sitting on the lounge and she is quieter than usual. I ask “you’ve remembered something haven’t you?” She starts crying and tells me that night her friends got her really drunk and she went home with a guy who worked in a shop close to hers and they fucked all night and she walked to a friends house after. When she saw me the next day she panicked and came up with the rape story and had blocked the night out of her mind and made herself believe the story. I asked if that was the only time and she swears it is and that is why she never gets drunk anymore. I tell her that I forgive her because all this time she has been an amazing wife and mother.

Ever since she told me months ago it has dug in my mind and don’t know what to feel. I feel myself being less attracted to her and sex isn’t the same. I already knew she had a past before we dated but it’s different on this. I don’t know if I should bring it up again because it was yesterday’s issue not today or tomorrow’s, or what I want out of talking about it. I don’t want to leave, our marriage is still really good but there is still a lot of anger there.

Married for 12 years, together for 17. In the first year of and very much a couple and really good sex life, wife then girlfriend at the time had a date and then we both went out with her friends afterwards. Having a really good night and I have to leave earlier than them because I had to work the next morning. Check with the girlfriend to make sure she will be ok and she was because she was with her friends and go home. Come round next day I see her and she hugs me crying saying she was attacked and raped, I question her and she tells me she was attacked walking to her car in the dark and the attacker runs off once he is done and she couldn’t tell who it was. I comfort her and do everything a good boyfriend would do at the time and question her friends who were with her and try to help the best I can. Over the years I sympathise and check in on her when ever the subject comes up and make sure she’s ok. 12 years of marriage and 3 children later, we get talking late one night and I ask her if she remembers anything else that happened at the time that may have led up to it and she tells me that there isn’t anything that she could remember but will try to and let me know if she does. Couple nights later we are sitting on the lounge and she is quieter than usual. I ask “you’ve remembered something haven’t you?” She starts crying and tells me that night her friends got her really drunk and she went home with a guy who worked in a shop close to hers and they fucked all night and she walked to a friends house after. When she saw me the next day she panicked and came up with the rape story and had blocked the night out of her mind and made herself believe the story. I asked if that was the only time and she swears it is and that is why she never gets drunk anymore. I tell her that I forgive her because all this time she has been an amazing wife and mother.

Ever since she told me months ago it has dug in my mind and don’t know what to feel. I feel myself being less attracted to her and sex isn’t the same. I already knew she had a past before we dated but it’s different on this. I don’t know if I should bring it up again because it was yesterday’s issue not today or tomorrow’s, or what I want out of talking about it. I don’t want to leave, our marriage is still really good but there is still a lot of anger there.