Am I wrong for wanting more sexually? /u/sponiglecop Sex

So I (17m) and my gf (16) have been together for almost a year now. We love each other so much and are each others firsts and she’s just so amazing. I just always feel bad asking for sexual things. In the beginning she was the one who advanced things sexually- very forward too.

I love giving and making her feel great, which I do, a lot. However I notice a distinct lack of reciprocity. Today was kind of the tipping point. We spent the night the other day and had sex. The next morning no one was home to drive me back or for us to do anything so it’s just tons of cuddling and rubbing bodies and me waiting while she sleeps. I make comments about how im aroused but not forcefully but just letting her know. I asked what she wants to do she says idk and she asks I say the same. I wait while she’s sleeping til 4:30pm and being very patient until I outright say I would like a handjob. I NEVER ask for anything sexually because it’s always on her terms, everytime I initiate I get shut down until she wants it. Right now she’s finally awake and has been for 15 mins. Her reaction is annoyance and “I’ll do it, but I don’t want to”. I IMMEDIATELY backed out. No way Im making her do something she doesn’t want. But it left me feel hurt. This isn’t there first time I’m denied. I May not always be in the biggest sexy mood but when she asks if i want to wash my hanfd (code for rubbing fingering) i always say yes. Now that I’m on a tangent I should mentioned I get NO blowjobs. It’s her choice but if I’m going to town eating her out, fingering, rubbing, then the least I could get is a handjob. Recently it was my birthday and we didn’t get around to sex on my actual birthday so recently when we did have sex, before she asked if there was anything I wanted which I couldn’t respond to because I wanted a bj. She read my mind and went to to town and actually started. For 10 seconds and then stopped and asked what else I want. I don’t want a handjob. not for consolation for a bj too. We wrapped up fine with normal sex.

TLDR; I give a lot sexually but see very little individual attention for myself and when I ask for it , it’s always shut down. I can’t remember a single time any sort of intimacy was initiated by me that was accepted. Am I wrong for wanting more individual attention?

So I (17m) and my gf (16) have been together for almost a year now. We love each other so much and are each others firsts and she’s just so amazing. I just always feel bad asking for sexual things. In the beginning she was the one who advanced things sexually- very forward too.

I love giving and making her feel great, which I do, a lot. However I notice a distinct lack of reciprocity. Today was kind of the tipping point. We spent the night the other day and had sex. The next morning no one was home to drive me back or for us to do anything so it’s just tons of cuddling and rubbing bodies and me waiting while she sleeps. I make comments about how im aroused but not forcefully but just letting her know. I asked what she wants to do she says idk and she asks I say the same. I wait while she’s sleeping til 4:30pm and being very patient until I outright say I would like a handjob. I NEVER ask for anything sexually because it’s always on her terms, everytime I initiate I get shut down until she wants it. Right now she’s finally awake and has been for 15 mins. Her reaction is annoyance and “I’ll do it, but I don’t want to”. I IMMEDIATELY backed out. No way Im making her do something she doesn’t want. But it left me feel hurt. This isn’t there first time I’m denied. I May not always be in the biggest sexy mood but when she asks if i want to wash my hanfd (code for rubbing fingering) i always say yes. Now that I’m on a tangent I should mentioned I get NO blowjobs. It’s her choice but if I’m going to town eating her out, fingering, rubbing, then the least I could get is a handjob. Recently it was my birthday and we didn’t get around to sex on my actual birthday so recently when we did have sex, before she asked if there was anything I wanted which I couldn’t respond to because I wanted a bj. She read my mind and went to to town and actually started. For 10 seconds and then stopped and asked what else I want. I don’t want a handjob. not for consolation for a bj too. We wrapped up fine with normal sex.

TLDR; I give a lot sexually but see very little individual attention for myself and when I ask for it , it’s always shut down. I can’t remember a single time any sort of intimacy was initiated by me that was accepted. Am I wrong for wanting more individual attention?