so I feel like it’s pretty commonplace to agree that if a girl doesn’t want to give bj’s that’s totally ok but when a guy doesn’t want to give a girl oral it becomes a problem and he doesn’t care about her pleasure ect. While I don’t necessarily agree it’s a societal double standard I’ve noticed.
My boyfriend (M27) has only eaten me out once despite knowing it’s my favourite ever. We’ve been together for 1.5 years. I give him oral constantly, not because I feel obligated but because I know how much he loves it. It makes me sad that he won’t do the same for me but should I respect his dislike for it? He complains that he can’t breathe but I’ve had sex with many women of all sizes and haven’t run into that issue to be honest. So it kinda feels like bullshit. And I know I don’t smell bad because other casual partners have eaten me out (we’re poly). But he’s my primary partner and it just makes me kinda sad that he makes no effort to even try! I ask him constantly and have tried to give him pointers and advice but he never does. He’s amazing otherwise but I feel like our sex life is suffering. We’ve talked about it extensively and he knows how much pleasure it gives me but he can’t come up with a legitimate reason other than “I don’t like it” and I obviously would never want to coerce someone into doing a sexual act they aren’t comfortable with, but I’m kind of at a loss here. Feels kinda unfair that I give him oral often but I don’t want to play the tit for tat game.
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r/sex so I feel like it’s pretty commonplace to agree that if a girl doesn’t want to give bj’s that’s totally ok but when a guy doesn’t want to give a girl oral it becomes a problem and he doesn’t care about her pleasure ect. While I don’t necessarily agree it’s a societal double standard I’ve noticed. My boyfriend (M27) has only eaten me out once despite knowing it’s my favourite ever. We’ve been together for 1.5 years. I give him oral constantly, not because I feel obligated but because I know how much he loves it. It makes me sad that he won’t do the same for me but should I respect his dislike for it? He complains that he can’t breathe but I’ve had sex with many women of all sizes and haven’t run into that issue to be honest. So it kinda feels like bullshit. And I know I don’t smell bad because other casual partners have eaten me out (we’re poly). But he’s my primary partner and it just makes me kinda sad that he makes no effort to even try! I ask him constantly and have tried to give him pointers and advice but he never does. He’s amazing otherwise but I feel like our sex life is suffering. We’ve talked about it extensively and he knows how much pleasure it gives me but he can’t come up with a legitimate reason other than “I don’t like it” and I obviously would never want to coerce someone into doing a sexual act they aren’t comfortable with, but I’m kind of at a loss here. Feels kinda unfair that I give him oral often but I don’t want to play the tit for tat game. submitted by /u/Puzzleheaded-Oven313 [link] [comments]
so I feel like it’s pretty commonplace to agree that if a girl doesn’t want to give bj’s that’s totally ok but when a guy doesn’t want to give a girl oral it becomes a problem and he doesn’t care about her pleasure ect. While I don’t necessarily agree it’s a societal double standard I’ve noticed.
My boyfriend (M27) has only eaten me out once despite knowing it’s my favourite ever. We’ve been together for 1.5 years. I give him oral constantly, not because I feel obligated but because I know how much he loves it. It makes me sad that he won’t do the same for me but should I respect his dislike for it? He complains that he can’t breathe but I’ve had sex with many women of all sizes and haven’t run into that issue to be honest. So it kinda feels like bullshit. And I know I don’t smell bad because other casual partners have eaten me out (we’re poly). But he’s my primary partner and it just makes me kinda sad that he makes no effort to even try! I ask him constantly and have tried to give him pointers and advice but he never does. He’s amazing otherwise but I feel like our sex life is suffering. We’ve talked about it extensively and he knows how much pleasure it gives me but he can’t come up with a legitimate reason other than “I don’t like it” and I obviously would never want to coerce someone into doing a sexual act they aren’t comfortable with, but I’m kind of at a loss here. Feels kinda unfair that I give him oral often but I don’t want to play the tit for tat game.
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