my bf only wants sex when im in lingere and dirty talks about having sex with others /u/EastGovernment3361 Sex

My bf (26m) and i (25f) have been together for two years.

Our relationship is good as well as our sex life. But there are some things that bother me during sex, which i tried to communicate to him but i dont think he likes/ gets what i am trying to say.

He 99% of the time asks me to wear something from my sexy wardrobe. I like to wear it, but i also like to have sex withouth these clothes at least some times (lets say every 4th time or so). Or just have sex with my pijamas or something like that. It makes me feel like he doesnt want me the way i am normally, just the fantasy he has.

We both like dirty talk. But the last few months he always talks about either me having sex with other guys/girls or him having sex with other girls. The thing is that that turns me on, but its becoming too often. He always talks about this. I am not really sure anymore if this is really just dirty talk or if he does actually want to have sex with those girls.

I cant remember the last time we were in any other porition than doggy. I like doggy and want to finish in this position, but there is no intimacy in this. We do it and than thats it. No cuddling afterwards or kissing. Again, i like it but every now or then i would like to be in a more intimate position.

I talked to him about point 1 and 3. He says ok and than never changes things up to make it more intimate. Even when i try to do it in other positions or without the sexy clothes, he ALWAYS asks me to wear it or go into doggy.

I know i could communicate it better but i also think that he should want me as me and in a more intimate way.

Otherwise hes a good and caring bf. We cuddle during the day and kiss good night and that stuff. Its just in the actual sex act that i feel like im just not good enough the way i am.

My bf (26m) and i (25f) have been together for two years.

Our relationship is good as well as our sex life. But there are some things that bother me during sex, which i tried to communicate to him but i dont think he likes/ gets what i am trying to say.

He 99% of the time asks me to wear something from my sexy wardrobe. I like to wear it, but i also like to have sex withouth these clothes at least some times (lets say every 4th time or so). Or just have sex with my pijamas or something like that. It makes me feel like he doesnt want me the way i am normally, just the fantasy he has.

We both like dirty talk. But the last few months he always talks about either me having sex with other guys/girls or him having sex with other girls. The thing is that that turns me on, but its becoming too often. He always talks about this. I am not really sure anymore if this is really just dirty talk or if he does actually want to have sex with those girls.

I cant remember the last time we were in any other porition than doggy. I like doggy and want to finish in this position, but there is no intimacy in this. We do it and than thats it. No cuddling afterwards or kissing. Again, i like it but every now or then i would like to be in a more intimate position.

I talked to him about point 1 and 3. He says ok and than never changes things up to make it more intimate. Even when i try to do it in other positions or without the sexy clothes, he ALWAYS asks me to wear it or go into doggy.

I know i could communicate it better but i also think that he should want me as me and in a more intimate way.

Otherwise hes a good and caring bf. We cuddle during the day and kiss good night and that stuff. Its just in the actual sex act that i feel like im just not good enough the way i am.