I (26m) was with a girl (21f) last night and had no clue it was her first time until after the fact. She was fine until afterwards and was really distraught. We’d never met before that (met her on OLD), and she just moved here from another country, so the language is still new to her.
I tried my best to comfort her, but she was so bothered. She was the one who came onto me, and the whole time, I made it very clear we didn’t have to do anything she was uncomfortable with. After she showered I came to check on her and found her on the floor all balled up and upset. I hugged her and told her it was gonna be okay and that I was there for her, but that wasn’t enough from a complete stranger she just gave it to.
I wish I knew better what to do in this situation. I feel for her, and if I knew that was her first time I would’ve tried to take things slower, actually date etc. My first time was with a stranger too so I tried to empathize with her, but she was just so cold and silent on the drive back home to drop her off. She blocked and removed me. I just wanted to make sure she was okay. She doesn’t really have much of a support system here. :/
Idk if there’s anything else I could have or should have done, but feel like I let the poor girl down…
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r/sex I (26m) was with a girl (21f) last night and had no clue it was her first time until after the fact. She was fine until afterwards and was really distraught. We’d never met before that (met her on OLD), and she just moved here from another country, so the language is still new to her. I tried my best to comfort her, but she was so bothered. She was the one who came onto me, and the whole time, I made it very clear we didn’t have to do anything she was uncomfortable with. After she showered I came to check on her and found her on the floor all balled up and upset. I hugged her and told her it was gonna be okay and that I was there for her, but that wasn’t enough from a complete stranger she just gave it to. I wish I knew better what to do in this situation. I feel for her, and if I knew that was her first time I would’ve tried to take things slower, actually date etc. My first time was with a stranger too so I tried to empathize with her, but she was just so cold and silent on the drive back home to drop her off. She blocked and removed me. I just wanted to make sure she was okay. She doesn’t really have much of a support system here. :/ Idk if there’s anything else I could have or should have done, but feel like I let the poor girl down… submitted by /u/Tbone_the_one [link] [comments]
I (26m) was with a girl (21f) last night and had no clue it was her first time until after the fact. She was fine until afterwards and was really distraught. We’d never met before that (met her on OLD), and she just moved here from another country, so the language is still new to her.
I tried my best to comfort her, but she was so bothered. She was the one who came onto me, and the whole time, I made it very clear we didn’t have to do anything she was uncomfortable with. After she showered I came to check on her and found her on the floor all balled up and upset. I hugged her and told her it was gonna be okay and that I was there for her, but that wasn’t enough from a complete stranger she just gave it to.
I wish I knew better what to do in this situation. I feel for her, and if I knew that was her first time I would’ve tried to take things slower, actually date etc. My first time was with a stranger too so I tried to empathize with her, but she was just so cold and silent on the drive back home to drop her off. She blocked and removed me. I just wanted to make sure she was okay. She doesn’t really have much of a support system here. :/
Idk if there’s anything else I could have or should have done, but feel like I let the poor girl down…
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