Sex with the wife has gone down hill /u/metrocane Sex

Hi everyone

It’s taken sometime to write this because I was unsure of how to tackle it.

I have been with my (M39) wife (F36) for 8 years now. We have a little one as well (17 months), and life is great having a beautiful family.

But our sex life isn’t the same. I’m thinking of just having the one child because I don’t feel like I’m loved in the household by my wife. There is no appreciation what’s so ever. I clean the house, and I look after our little one quite a bit ( I’m not saying I hate doing that because I love my child)

Sex has really been bad. It’s just kiss her, get down on her, give her an orgasm & I go on top and then finish. It’s been like this for about 2 years now & I don’t even get I love you . Those 3 words have been absent for a while now. And I wouldn’t know how to act if she told me

From amazing sex (3 years ago) to just its so boring & I’m the one starting the whole sex process.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m thinking of just not even bothering to even have a sex life with my wife because I dont think it’s worth it anymore.

I asked her about what changed, and she told me when we met that “i did it to impress you!” That lasted for for 5-6 years. She used to squirt and do everything and open to new things.

I feel like I’ve been lied to about that person I’m going to spend my life with

I need some insight on what’s going on, if it would change & should I seek help from a professional (sex therapist), or it’s just me being silly about the situation

Hi everyone

It’s taken sometime to write this because I was unsure of how to tackle it.

I have been with my (M39) wife (F36) for 8 years now. We have a little one as well (17 months), and life is great having a beautiful family.

But our sex life isn’t the same. I’m thinking of just having the one child because I don’t feel like I’m loved in the household by my wife. There is no appreciation what’s so ever. I clean the house, and I look after our little one quite a bit ( I’m not saying I hate doing that because I love my child)

Sex has really been bad. It’s just kiss her, get down on her, give her an orgasm & I go on top and then finish. It’s been like this for about 2 years now & I don’t even get I love you . Those 3 words have been absent for a while now. And I wouldn’t know how to act if she told me

From amazing sex (3 years ago) to just its so boring & I’m the one starting the whole sex process.

I just don’t know what to do anymore. I’m thinking of just not even bothering to even have a sex life with my wife because I dont think it’s worth it anymore.

I asked her about what changed, and she told me when we met that “i did it to impress you!” That lasted for for 5-6 years. She used to squirt and do everything and open to new things.

I feel like I’ve been lied to about that person I’m going to spend my life with

I need some insight on what’s going on, if it would change & should I seek help from a professional (sex therapist), or it’s just me being silly about the situation