I have this unsettled feeling that something is going on and that my boyfriend [M31] is hiding something from me [F27].
So a few things have happened after I addressed his low sex drive towards me, regularly going 2 weeks without physical intimacy.
This all happened over a course of the last 5 weeks.
I was away for work, and addressed with him that our physical intimacy is a concern because he leaves me 2 – 3 weeks on end without anything but would constantly tease me. And I’ve found our that he leaves me hanging but relieves himself to porn which hurt me.
When I got back from my trip he suddenly had a higher drive and we had sex almost every second day for about 2 weeks. Note that this was my last business trip, I used to travel one week a month, but it stopped completely since.
After the 2 weeks of increased physical intimacy it decreased significantly again. He used to always do lots of foreplay, and since, when we have sex, there is barely any foreplay, it feels like he just wants to get it over and done with. And when there is foreplay his erection goes away. Also one time, I caught him starting at the wall, bluntly with almost no emotion or expression, as if he wasn’t enjoying it at all. His erections are also not really hard anymore, he is much more flacid (soft), and he has struggled to finish off sometimes, and about 3 times has not finished off at all. Sometimes he is not fully erect when we start having sex. Sometimes he will completely lose his erection while we are busy having sex.
He has previously asked me if I have watched porn with someone while being intimate, I said no, and that I am open to doing it with him and it sounds exciting, but nothing came from that. After that, I have found that he had relieved himself to porn twice while leaving me deprived when he knew I was sexually frustrated due to him teasing me.
I never check his phone, as I respect his privacy. But he has always been one to clear his browsing history after every search, no matter what the search. The one day he was on Social Media and on suggested videos there were many videos popping up relating to only fans, and sexual content. This was very strange to me as it’s never been the case previously. And I know there is an algorithm based on browsing history. He acted surprised and said this is so weird, but as he scrolled the same suggested content kept popping up. And I mentioned to him it might be an algorithm based on his browsing history. I felt very unsettled about this, and we were on our way out, so I never mentioned it because he gets an aggressive tone when I discuss sex related things. He kept asking me if I’m okay, and he can sense something is bothering and kept asking if he had done something wrong. He has also not really watched suggested videos ons social media after this.
The other day I raised a conversation on porn, after a male friend shared with me that porn caused him issues in terms of getting an erection and performing during sex. And that my male friend says it affected his sex life negatively. When I raised this, my boyfriend started defending porn in an aggressive tone saying that it is actually great for increasing sex drive and for increasing testosterone and that it has many benefits. So I asked why someone would rather watch porn when they have someone at home who really wants to have sex with them regularly. His tone was still aggressive and he responded that it is very controlling if a man can’t watch porn because his girlfriend wants to have sex. And that he doesn’t need to have sex when he is horny because sometimes they might be more in the mood for porn as opposed to having sex.
I’ve at times entered the room and then he very suddenly tilts and locks his phone, or at least so it looked from my view.
About a week and a half ago when I got home from work, we were laying next to each other and he told me I smelt funny, and I said that’s weird as I was wearing perfume and the smell normally stays all day. He went on about it saying I smell like dick. That sweaty type smell. I was very surprised because I don’t even hug my male colleagues and he just said that’s weird.
He has also recently started making funny comments when I say oh do you remember this, then he says no it’s probably your other boyfriend in a jokey manner. And I’ve told him that I’m not too fond of those jokes because it’s not my character to do something like that. But he keeps making them.
Is he hiding something? Am I overthinking it? I really need insight on what could be going on. I constantly have this unsettled feeling in my stomach and feel like he is hiding something from me.
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r/sex I have this unsettled feeling that something is going on and that my boyfriend [M31] is hiding something from me [F27]. So a few things have happened after I addressed his low sex drive towards me, regularly going 2 weeks without physical intimacy. This all happened over a course of the last 5 weeks. I was away for work, and addressed with him that our physical intimacy is a concern because he leaves me 2 – 3 weeks on end without anything but would constantly tease me. And I’ve found our that he leaves me hanging but relieves himself to porn which hurt me. When I got back from my trip he suddenly had a higher drive and we had sex almost every second day for about 2 weeks. Note that this was my last business trip, I used to travel one week a month, but it stopped completely since. After the 2 weeks of increased physical intimacy it decreased significantly again. He used to always do lots of foreplay, and since, when we have sex, there is barely any foreplay, it feels like he just wants to get it over and done with. And when there is foreplay his erection goes away. Also one time, I caught him starting at the wall, bluntly with almost no emotion or expression, as if he wasn’t enjoying it at all. His erections are also not really hard anymore, he is much more flacid (soft), and he has struggled to finish off sometimes, and about 3 times has not finished off at all. Sometimes he is not fully erect when we start having sex. Sometimes he will completely lose his erection while we are busy having sex. He has previously asked me if I have watched porn with someone while being intimate, I said no, and that I am open to doing it with him and it sounds exciting, but nothing came from that. After that, I have found that he had relieved himself to porn twice while leaving me deprived when he knew I was sexually frustrated due to him teasing me. I never check his phone, as I respect his privacy. But he has always been one to clear his browsing history after every search, no matter what the search. The one day he was on Social Media and on suggested videos there were many videos popping up relating to only fans, and sexual content. This was very strange to me as it’s never been the case previously. And I know there is an algorithm based on browsing history. He acted surprised and said this is so weird, but as he scrolled the same suggested content kept popping up. And I mentioned to him it might be an algorithm based on his browsing history. I felt very unsettled about this, and we were on our way out, so I never mentioned it because he gets an aggressive tone when I discuss sex related things. He kept asking me if I’m okay, and he can sense something is bothering and kept asking if he had done something wrong. He has also not really watched suggested videos ons social media after this. The other day I raised a conversation on porn, after a male friend shared with me that porn caused him issues in terms of getting an erection and performing during sex. And that my male friend says it affected his sex life negatively. When I raised this, my boyfriend started defending porn in an aggressive tone saying that it is actually great for increasing sex drive and for increasing testosterone and that it has many benefits. So I asked why someone would rather watch porn when they have someone at home who really wants to have sex with them regularly. His tone was still aggressive and he responded that it is very controlling if a man can’t watch porn because his girlfriend wants to have sex. And that he doesn’t need to have sex when he is horny because sometimes they might be more in the mood for porn as opposed to having sex. I’ve at times entered the room and then he very suddenly tilts and locks his phone, or at least so it looked from my view. About a week and a half ago when I got home from work, we were laying next to each other and he told me I smelt funny, and I said that’s weird as I was wearing perfume and the smell normally stays all day. He went on about it saying I smell like dick. That sweaty type smell. I was very surprised because I don’t even hug my male colleagues and he just said that’s weird. He has also recently started making funny comments when I say oh do you remember this, then he says no it’s probably your other boyfriend in a jokey manner. And I’ve told him that I’m not too fond of those jokes because it’s not my character to do something like that. But he keeps making them. Is he hiding something? Am I overthinking it? I really need insight on what could be going on. I constantly have this unsettled feeling in my stomach and feel like he is hiding something from me. submitted by /u/9462154963 [link] [comments]
I have this unsettled feeling that something is going on and that my boyfriend [M31] is hiding something from me [F27].
So a few things have happened after I addressed his low sex drive towards me, regularly going 2 weeks without physical intimacy.
This all happened over a course of the last 5 weeks.
I was away for work, and addressed with him that our physical intimacy is a concern because he leaves me 2 – 3 weeks on end without anything but would constantly tease me. And I’ve found our that he leaves me hanging but relieves himself to porn which hurt me.
When I got back from my trip he suddenly had a higher drive and we had sex almost every second day for about 2 weeks. Note that this was my last business trip, I used to travel one week a month, but it stopped completely since.
After the 2 weeks of increased physical intimacy it decreased significantly again. He used to always do lots of foreplay, and since, when we have sex, there is barely any foreplay, it feels like he just wants to get it over and done with. And when there is foreplay his erection goes away. Also one time, I caught him starting at the wall, bluntly with almost no emotion or expression, as if he wasn’t enjoying it at all. His erections are also not really hard anymore, he is much more flacid (soft), and he has struggled to finish off sometimes, and about 3 times has not finished off at all. Sometimes he is not fully erect when we start having sex. Sometimes he will completely lose his erection while we are busy having sex.
He has previously asked me if I have watched porn with someone while being intimate, I said no, and that I am open to doing it with him and it sounds exciting, but nothing came from that. After that, I have found that he had relieved himself to porn twice while leaving me deprived when he knew I was sexually frustrated due to him teasing me.
I never check his phone, as I respect his privacy. But he has always been one to clear his browsing history after every search, no matter what the search. The one day he was on Social Media and on suggested videos there were many videos popping up relating to only fans, and sexual content. This was very strange to me as it’s never been the case previously. And I know there is an algorithm based on browsing history. He acted surprised and said this is so weird, but as he scrolled the same suggested content kept popping up. And I mentioned to him it might be an algorithm based on his browsing history. I felt very unsettled about this, and we were on our way out, so I never mentioned it because he gets an aggressive tone when I discuss sex related things. He kept asking me if I’m okay, and he can sense something is bothering and kept asking if he had done something wrong. He has also not really watched suggested videos ons social media after this.
The other day I raised a conversation on porn, after a male friend shared with me that porn caused him issues in terms of getting an erection and performing during sex. And that my male friend says it affected his sex life negatively. When I raised this, my boyfriend started defending porn in an aggressive tone saying that it is actually great for increasing sex drive and for increasing testosterone and that it has many benefits. So I asked why someone would rather watch porn when they have someone at home who really wants to have sex with them regularly. His tone was still aggressive and he responded that it is very controlling if a man can’t watch porn because his girlfriend wants to have sex. And that he doesn’t need to have sex when he is horny because sometimes they might be more in the mood for porn as opposed to having sex.
I’ve at times entered the room and then he very suddenly tilts and locks his phone, or at least so it looked from my view.
About a week and a half ago when I got home from work, we were laying next to each other and he told me I smelt funny, and I said that’s weird as I was wearing perfume and the smell normally stays all day. He went on about it saying I smell like dick. That sweaty type smell. I was very surprised because I don’t even hug my male colleagues and he just said that’s weird.
He has also recently started making funny comments when I say oh do you remember this, then he says no it’s probably your other boyfriend in a jokey manner. And I’ve told him that I’m not too fond of those jokes because it’s not my character to do something like that. But he keeps making them.
Is he hiding something? Am I overthinking it? I really need insight on what could be going on. I constantly have this unsettled feeling in my stomach and feel like he is hiding something from me.
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