This happened like 2 hours ago, I only just got home and I’m still reeling and wincing every time I recall it. I’ve been dating this guy for 4 months, we have sex every couple weeks normally. I have a lot of trouble getting into the mood with him, mostly because I just don’t really find the sex enjoyable and he doesn’t make much attempt to put me in the mood (he was a virgin before he met me so understandable). I’ve never had an orgasm with him or even come close to it, but sex has never been a big deal for me so it doesn’t exactly ruin the relationship. Anyway, today he was being playful and flirting and asked if I was up for it, I said sure, so totally consensual. We moved to his bed and to get me in the mood he wanted to try spanking. We’d done it before and I didn’t mind it so I said sure, but he wanted to use a belt. I must’ve blocked these memories out of my childhood because I forgot just how unbelievably painful being whipped full strength on the ass with a belt is. My vagina was like the saharan desert, I just wanted to rub my ass and feel sorry for myself. So we move to sex, and he spends about 3 or so minutes trying to get his dick in, wincing, and pulling out. He had lost the lube I bought for him and after looking for it for about a minute decided we didn’t need it and that brute force would save the day. It didn’t. He just kind of shoved it in and immediately yelped and pulled out, saying how it really really hurt. We turned the light on and he looked at his dick. “Oh dude, I think you’re on your period.” “What?” So I check, there’s a little blood on the outside of my thighs but none near my vagina. I’m very clearly not bleeding. I look over at him and see a concerning amount of blood pouring from his dick and dripping onto the floor. He realises what happened and ran to take a shower. I sort of just stood there naked in shock and embarrassment. He came out of the shower and we barely mentioned it to each other. He thinks I should see a doctor.
How do I tell him this is just what happens when you try to have sex and your partners not turned on? I don’t want to break the news to him and completely ruin his confidence. He seems to think I have something wrong with me, like vaginismus. It feels like it’s easier to pretend that’s what it is than confront him.
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r/sex This happened like 2 hours ago, I only just got home and I’m still reeling and wincing every time I recall it. I’ve been dating this guy for 4 months, we have sex every couple weeks normally. I have a lot of trouble getting into the mood with him, mostly because I just don’t really find the sex enjoyable and he doesn’t make much attempt to put me in the mood (he was a virgin before he met me so understandable). I’ve never had an orgasm with him or even come close to it, but sex has never been a big deal for me so it doesn’t exactly ruin the relationship. Anyway, today he was being playful and flirting and asked if I was up for it, I said sure, so totally consensual. We moved to his bed and to get me in the mood he wanted to try spanking. We’d done it before and I didn’t mind it so I said sure, but he wanted to use a belt. I must’ve blocked these memories out of my childhood because I forgot just how unbelievably painful being whipped full strength on the ass with a belt is. My vagina was like the saharan desert, I just wanted to rub my ass and feel sorry for myself. So we move to sex, and he spends about 3 or so minutes trying to get his dick in, wincing, and pulling out. He had lost the lube I bought for him and after looking for it for about a minute decided we didn’t need it and that brute force would save the day. It didn’t. He just kind of shoved it in and immediately yelped and pulled out, saying how it really really hurt. We turned the light on and he looked at his dick. “Oh dude, I think you’re on your period.” “What?” So I check, there’s a little blood on the outside of my thighs but none near my vagina. I’m very clearly not bleeding. I look over at him and see a concerning amount of blood pouring from his dick and dripping onto the floor. He realises what happened and ran to take a shower. I sort of just stood there naked in shock and embarrassment. He came out of the shower and we barely mentioned it to each other. He thinks I should see a doctor. How do I tell him this is just what happens when you try to have sex and your partners not turned on? I don’t want to break the news to him and completely ruin his confidence. He seems to think I have something wrong with me, like vaginismus. It feels like it’s easier to pretend that’s what it is than confront him. submitted by /u/itchwing [link] [comments]
This happened like 2 hours ago, I only just got home and I’m still reeling and wincing every time I recall it. I’ve been dating this guy for 4 months, we have sex every couple weeks normally. I have a lot of trouble getting into the mood with him, mostly because I just don’t really find the sex enjoyable and he doesn’t make much attempt to put me in the mood (he was a virgin before he met me so understandable). I’ve never had an orgasm with him or even come close to it, but sex has never been a big deal for me so it doesn’t exactly ruin the relationship. Anyway, today he was being playful and flirting and asked if I was up for it, I said sure, so totally consensual. We moved to his bed and to get me in the mood he wanted to try spanking. We’d done it before and I didn’t mind it so I said sure, but he wanted to use a belt. I must’ve blocked these memories out of my childhood because I forgot just how unbelievably painful being whipped full strength on the ass with a belt is. My vagina was like the saharan desert, I just wanted to rub my ass and feel sorry for myself. So we move to sex, and he spends about 3 or so minutes trying to get his dick in, wincing, and pulling out. He had lost the lube I bought for him and after looking for it for about a minute decided we didn’t need it and that brute force would save the day. It didn’t. He just kind of shoved it in and immediately yelped and pulled out, saying how it really really hurt. We turned the light on and he looked at his dick. “Oh dude, I think you’re on your period.” “What?” So I check, there’s a little blood on the outside of my thighs but none near my vagina. I’m very clearly not bleeding. I look over at him and see a concerning amount of blood pouring from his dick and dripping onto the floor. He realises what happened and ran to take a shower. I sort of just stood there naked in shock and embarrassment. He came out of the shower and we barely mentioned it to each other. He thinks I should see a doctor.
How do I tell him this is just what happens when you try to have sex and your partners not turned on? I don’t want to break the news to him and completely ruin his confidence. He seems to think I have something wrong with me, like vaginismus. It feels like it’s easier to pretend that’s what it is than confront him.
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