I’m turning 23 in a few months and I’m still a virgin. I feel awful about it, I feel behind and truly like a loser. I have deep issues with intimacy and affection, all I really want is to reverse things.
I will get 5-8 matches a month on Bumble and on campus or in classes girls will approach me or start sitting next to me in the middle of the semester. Just generally while I’m at the gym or on campus women will just be nice, like in an outward kind of way. Even co-workers will give me their Instagram while on break.
For whatever reason I really struggle with returning this kind of attention and worry instead of being revealed as a fraud to any of these girls. I’m scared of intimacy, on an almost subconscious level. I want it and crave it, but I also feel uneasy about putting myself in such a vulnerable position.
Is exposure the answer here I just have to try and fail over and over until it feels natural. I asked out a coworker two months ago and thought it was going to be a huge emotional hit for her to say no, but it went over way easier than I thought. Also, I felt much better for trying than anything.
Is it just my mind running to conclusions that might not really be there?
I might have a date lined up later this week, so wish me luck.
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r/sex I’m turning 23 in a few months and I’m still a virgin. I feel awful about it, I feel behind and truly like a loser. I have deep issues with intimacy and affection, all I really want is to reverse things. I will get 5-8 matches a month on Bumble and on campus or in classes girls will approach me or start sitting next to me in the middle of the semester. Just generally while I’m at the gym or on campus women will just be nice, like in an outward kind of way. Even co-workers will give me their Instagram while on break. For whatever reason I really struggle with returning this kind of attention and worry instead of being revealed as a fraud to any of these girls. I’m scared of intimacy, on an almost subconscious level. I want it and crave it, but I also feel uneasy about putting myself in such a vulnerable position. Is exposure the answer here I just have to try and fail over and over until it feels natural. I asked out a coworker two months ago and thought it was going to be a huge emotional hit for her to say no, but it went over way easier than I thought. Also, I felt much better for trying than anything. Is it just my mind running to conclusions that might not really be there? I might have a date lined up later this week, so wish me luck. submitted by /u/SwitchFearless8941 [link] [comments]
I’m turning 23 in a few months and I’m still a virgin. I feel awful about it, I feel behind and truly like a loser. I have deep issues with intimacy and affection, all I really want is to reverse things.
I will get 5-8 matches a month on Bumble and on campus or in classes girls will approach me or start sitting next to me in the middle of the semester. Just generally while I’m at the gym or on campus women will just be nice, like in an outward kind of way. Even co-workers will give me their Instagram while on break.
For whatever reason I really struggle with returning this kind of attention and worry instead of being revealed as a fraud to any of these girls. I’m scared of intimacy, on an almost subconscious level. I want it and crave it, but I also feel uneasy about putting myself in such a vulnerable position.
Is exposure the answer here I just have to try and fail over and over until it feels natural. I asked out a coworker two months ago and thought it was going to be a huge emotional hit for her to say no, but it went over way easier than I thought. Also, I felt much better for trying than anything.
Is it just my mind running to conclusions that might not really be there?
I might have a date lined up later this week, so wish me luck.
submitted by /u/SwitchFearless8941
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