I’m writing this post out of some sort combination of desperation and frustration. I have been with my girlfriend for eight years. She is the most important thing in the world to me and I am beyond lucky to have her. I truly am. We get along great, almost NEVER argue (maybe once a year and if that happens we resolve it right then in there. No lingering feelings or resentments anything like that). Did I mention I’m lucky? My only issue I have is in the bedroom! I know what you’re thinking, omg here we go, right? My “issue” is this: my girlfriend NEVER takes initiative. Like ever. I have to initiate everything. The foreplay is always centered around her and her pleasure. The focus of the sex is always on her and getting her to orgasm (fortunately no issues there, thankfully). I’m a people pleaser, so I don’t really mind but for once it would feel nice if some of the attention were placed on MY needs. I feel selfish even writing this. I just don’t feel like my needs are a priority or that they’re important at all. I just feel so ignored and neglected and her actions make me feel unwanted / undesirable. Like “don’t you want me to feel good?” I do everything I can to make her feel as amazing as possible and really make it an awesome experience for her…and I get nothing in return. That’s not why I do it mind you, but just once it would be nice to be treated the same why. Like making me feel good matters. As I’ve mentioned earlier, we’ve been together for eight years and during that time (TMI incoming) she’s made me finish once. I wish I were exaggerating. I make her orgasm several times per session and I get one in eight years! I’m not looking to keep score or play victim. I’m just looking for some insights on what to do. I’ve tried talking to her and she says she’s sorry and that she understands but nothing ever changes. I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do. Any thoughts or suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read
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r/sex I’m writing this post out of some sort combination of desperation and frustration. I have been with my girlfriend for eight years. She is the most important thing in the world to me and I am beyond lucky to have her. I truly am. We get along great, almost NEVER argue (maybe once a year and if that happens we resolve it right then in there. No lingering feelings or resentments anything like that). Did I mention I’m lucky? My only issue I have is in the bedroom! I know what you’re thinking, omg here we go, right? My “issue” is this: my girlfriend NEVER takes initiative. Like ever. I have to initiate everything. The foreplay is always centered around her and her pleasure. The focus of the sex is always on her and getting her to orgasm (fortunately no issues there, thankfully). I’m a people pleaser, so I don’t really mind but for once it would feel nice if some of the attention were placed on MY needs. I feel selfish even writing this. I just don’t feel like my needs are a priority or that they’re important at all. I just feel so ignored and neglected and her actions make me feel unwanted / undesirable. Like “don’t you want me to feel good?” I do everything I can to make her feel as amazing as possible and really make it an awesome experience for her…and I get nothing in return. That’s not why I do it mind you, but just once it would be nice to be treated the same why. Like making me feel good matters. As I’ve mentioned earlier, we’ve been together for eight years and during that time (TMI incoming) she’s made me finish once. I wish I were exaggerating. I make her orgasm several times per session and I get one in eight years! I’m not looking to keep score or play victim. I’m just looking for some insights on what to do. I’ve tried talking to her and she says she’s sorry and that she understands but nothing ever changes. I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do. Any thoughts or suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read submitted by /u/guywhoruns8 [link] [comments]
I’m writing this post out of some sort combination of desperation and frustration. I have been with my girlfriend for eight years. She is the most important thing in the world to me and I am beyond lucky to have her. I truly am. We get along great, almost NEVER argue (maybe once a year and if that happens we resolve it right then in there. No lingering feelings or resentments anything like that). Did I mention I’m lucky? My only issue I have is in the bedroom! I know what you’re thinking, omg here we go, right? My “issue” is this: my girlfriend NEVER takes initiative. Like ever. I have to initiate everything. The foreplay is always centered around her and her pleasure. The focus of the sex is always on her and getting her to orgasm (fortunately no issues there, thankfully). I’m a people pleaser, so I don’t really mind but for once it would feel nice if some of the attention were placed on MY needs. I feel selfish even writing this. I just don’t feel like my needs are a priority or that they’re important at all. I just feel so ignored and neglected and her actions make me feel unwanted / undesirable. Like “don’t you want me to feel good?” I do everything I can to make her feel as amazing as possible and really make it an awesome experience for her…and I get nothing in return. That’s not why I do it mind you, but just once it would be nice to be treated the same why. Like making me feel good matters. As I’ve mentioned earlier, we’ve been together for eight years and during that time (TMI incoming) she’s made me finish once. I wish I were exaggerating. I make her orgasm several times per session and I get one in eight years! I’m not looking to keep score or play victim. I’m just looking for some insights on what to do. I’ve tried talking to her and she says she’s sorry and that she understands but nothing ever changes. I’m at a loss and don’t know what to do. Any thoughts or suggestions are greatly appreciated. Thank you so much for taking the time to read
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