I can’t satisfy my wife’s sex drive. /u/Parvullus Sex

Hi, we’ve been married 10+ years, are both late 30s and our kids are no longer small.

We now have a bit more spare time for each other.

Our sex life has been very up and down over the past year or two due to a few reasons, however things have started to improve lately.

When we do have sex I don’t usually last that long, a few weeks ago we used a condom even though we don’t need to anymore and had a pretty intense, slightly rough session of about 10-15 minutes.

It was the first time in ages we’d had such an intense session, multiple positions, hair pulling etc.

We had sex another time about a week after that, due to life and just general busyness I thought this was ok.

After a lengthy talk little did I know that my wife wants / needs sex 3 times a week minimum, maybe more, she also says she could often go twice in one night and some weeks could happily fuck every day.

She told me she wanted to go again after the above 15 min session.

We discussed oral which she definitely enjoys and brings her to orgasm, but the bottom line is she just wants to be fucked a lot.

We are both in agreement that she has probably always had a higher sex drive than I have, however now the gulf seems to be bigger.

We discussed maybe buying some toys to help but she doesn’t seem to fussed, she just wants as much penetration with an actual dick as she can get.

So we are going to try and have more sex, it’s not like I don’t have a sex drive.

I asked her if she thought I could satisfy her need for penetration as regularly as she wants, she joked and said ‘of course you can’ before ultimately saying, probably not.

Here’s me thinking a couple of times a week would be enough not realising she would happily go 10+ times if it was on offer.

Oral she confirmed she enjoys however only after penetration as it makes her too wet and she can’t feel me, I’m 4.9inches hard.

She told me she has been unsatisfied for quite some time due to lack of activity, she hasn’t sought out sex with anyone else but said if it had been on a plate infront of her she would probably have caved.

So we’re going to try increasing the frequency but not sure where we go if she’s craving her 8th session of the week and I just can’t give her what she wants.

She told me most times after we finish she wants to go again within a few minutes.

She has a couple of friends who have random hookups and I’m pretty sure she is a bit jealous or at least interested in their no strings attached sex.

I feel like we’re a small step away from her wanting someone else to fuck her brains out several times a week in addition to what I can give her.

Anyone been in a similar situation?

Maybe she will come around to toys and that will help fill the gap, but I don’t think it will when she ultimately just wants fucking a lot.

Thanks.

Hi, we’ve been married 10+ years, are both late 30s and our kids are no longer small.

We now have a bit more spare time for each other.

Our sex life has been very up and down over the past year or two due to a few reasons, however things have started to improve lately.

When we do have sex I don’t usually last that long, a few weeks ago we used a condom even though we don’t need to anymore and had a pretty intense, slightly rough session of about 10-15 minutes.

It was the first time in ages we’d had such an intense session, multiple positions, hair pulling etc.

We had sex another time about a week after that, due to life and just general busyness I thought this was ok.

After a lengthy talk little did I know that my wife wants / needs sex 3 times a week minimum, maybe more, she also says she could often go twice in one night and some weeks could happily fuck every day.

She told me she wanted to go again after the above 15 min session.

We discussed oral which she definitely enjoys and brings her to orgasm, but the bottom line is she just wants to be fucked a lot.

We are both in agreement that she has probably always had a higher sex drive than I have, however now the gulf seems to be bigger.

We discussed maybe buying some toys to help but she doesn’t seem to fussed, she just wants as much penetration with an actual dick as she can get.

So we are going to try and have more sex, it’s not like I don’t have a sex drive.

I asked her if she thought I could satisfy her need for penetration as regularly as she wants, she joked and said ‘of course you can’ before ultimately saying, probably not.

Here’s me thinking a couple of times a week would be enough not realising she would happily go 10+ times if it was on offer.

Oral she confirmed she enjoys however only after penetration as it makes her too wet and she can’t feel me, I’m 4.9inches hard.

She told me she has been unsatisfied for quite some time due to lack of activity, she hasn’t sought out sex with anyone else but said if it had been on a plate infront of her she would probably have caved.

So we’re going to try increasing the frequency but not sure where we go if she’s craving her 8th session of the week and I just can’t give her what she wants.

She told me most times after we finish she wants to go again within a few minutes.

She has a couple of friends who have random hookups and I’m pretty sure she is a bit jealous or at least interested in their no strings attached sex.

I feel like we’re a small step away from her wanting someone else to fuck her brains out several times a week in addition to what I can give her.

Anyone been in a similar situation?

Maybe she will come around to toys and that will help fill the gap, but I don’t think it will when she ultimately just wants fucking a lot.

Thanks.