Okay so here’s some background. My girlfriend (hopefully soon to upgrade that status) and I have been together for about two years. Overall our relationship is great, we rarely ever have disagreements, when we do we talk it out and settle it, very similar personalities and interests, we even work in the same profession (not together though). All around relationship is great…..except when it comes to sex. First year of our relationship our sex lives were as great as the hunnymoon phase, both of us have said it’s the best sex of our lives. We were at it hot and heavy, almost every day, were adventurous with it, all sorts of fun. Randomly one night we are on vacation in Florida, we both decide to take basically male and female viagra in some form or another. Foreplay is getting up there and right when it’s about to happen she seems disconnected and not into it, so I ask if everything is okay, she agrees but still seems not into it, so I stop and say let’s not do this tonight, proceed to take all of her lingerie off and get her a pair of underwear and one of my t-shirts, we proceed to not have any “action” the rest of the trip…..it’s been about a full year now and our sex life has diminished to nothing, first it was maybe sex once or twice a month for the first few months back, then once a month with me giving her oral here and there, then about once every two months and most recently we are onto three months. We’ve had multiple conversations about it and my frustrations and hers as well, always with the same outcome as to what’s going on, she just says “I’m broken”. She still masturbates just never wants sex, and says she’s frustrated because she wants sex but can never get herself to the point of pulling the trigger on having it. I’ve still tried to keep the romance alive, grand gestures, cleaning the whole house, taking her on nice dates, making smooth moves etc, even have tried working on myself and my physique….no change. Tonight was my breaking point I expressed to her a few days ago regarding my frustration, today/tomorrow we are celebrating Valentine’s Day since we both worked and tonight she straight out said she doesn’t want sex. Then proceeds to get sad and says things like “I’m sorry I’m a let down” “I feel bad because you do so much for me and I don’t put out or anything” I reassured her that it’s okay and we’ll eventually figure it out. She then proceeds to pull out her vibrator, get herself off and then continue on like it didn’t happen. I was obviously upset, it felt like a slap in the face. While doing it she said “I’m sorry, it’s not that I’m even horny, I just need to scratch that itch you know?” So I straight up asked her, “are you sure it’s not me” which she like always swears up and down it’s not. I’ve tried everything to curve the sexual frustration, masturbating, not masturbating, bought a flesh light, I’m trying it all to stay strong and not get frustrated but I feel like I’m failing more than I’m succeeding and masturating now feels like a chore or degrading………please help.
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r/sex Okay so here’s some background. My girlfriend (hopefully soon to upgrade that status) and I have been together for about two years. Overall our relationship is great, we rarely ever have disagreements, when we do we talk it out and settle it, very similar personalities and interests, we even work in the same profession (not together though). All around relationship is great…..except when it comes to sex. First year of our relationship our sex lives were as great as the hunnymoon phase, both of us have said it’s the best sex of our lives. We were at it hot and heavy, almost every day, were adventurous with it, all sorts of fun. Randomly one night we are on vacation in Florida, we both decide to take basically male and female viagra in some form or another. Foreplay is getting up there and right when it’s about to happen she seems disconnected and not into it, so I ask if everything is okay, she agrees but still seems not into it, so I stop and say let’s not do this tonight, proceed to take all of her lingerie off and get her a pair of underwear and one of my t-shirts, we proceed to not have any “action” the rest of the trip…..it’s been about a full year now and our sex life has diminished to nothing, first it was maybe sex once or twice a month for the first few months back, then once a month with me giving her oral here and there, then about once every two months and most recently we are onto three months. We’ve had multiple conversations about it and my frustrations and hers as well, always with the same outcome as to what’s going on, she just says “I’m broken”. She still masturbates just never wants sex, and says she’s frustrated because she wants sex but can never get herself to the point of pulling the trigger on having it. I’ve still tried to keep the romance alive, grand gestures, cleaning the whole house, taking her on nice dates, making smooth moves etc, even have tried working on myself and my physique….no change. Tonight was my breaking point I expressed to her a few days ago regarding my frustration, today/tomorrow we are celebrating Valentine’s Day since we both worked and tonight she straight out said she doesn’t want sex. Then proceeds to get sad and says things like “I’m sorry I’m a let down” “I feel bad because you do so much for me and I don’t put out or anything” I reassured her that it’s okay and we’ll eventually figure it out. She then proceeds to pull out her vibrator, get herself off and then continue on like it didn’t happen. I was obviously upset, it felt like a slap in the face. While doing it she said “I’m sorry, it’s not that I’m even horny, I just need to scratch that itch you know?” So I straight up asked her, “are you sure it’s not me” which she like always swears up and down it’s not. I’ve tried everything to curve the sexual frustration, masturbating, not masturbating, bought a flesh light, I’m trying it all to stay strong and not get frustrated but I feel like I’m failing more than I’m succeeding and masturating now feels like a chore or degrading………please help. submitted by /u/Pristine_Wind7931 [link] [comments]
Okay so here’s some background. My girlfriend (hopefully soon to upgrade that status) and I have been together for about two years. Overall our relationship is great, we rarely ever have disagreements, when we do we talk it out and settle it, very similar personalities and interests, we even work in the same profession (not together though). All around relationship is great…..except when it comes to sex. First year of our relationship our sex lives were as great as the hunnymoon phase, both of us have said it’s the best sex of our lives. We were at it hot and heavy, almost every day, were adventurous with it, all sorts of fun. Randomly one night we are on vacation in Florida, we both decide to take basically male and female viagra in some form or another. Foreplay is getting up there and right when it’s about to happen she seems disconnected and not into it, so I ask if everything is okay, she agrees but still seems not into it, so I stop and say let’s not do this tonight, proceed to take all of her lingerie off and get her a pair of underwear and one of my t-shirts, we proceed to not have any “action” the rest of the trip…..it’s been about a full year now and our sex life has diminished to nothing, first it was maybe sex once or twice a month for the first few months back, then once a month with me giving her oral here and there, then about once every two months and most recently we are onto three months. We’ve had multiple conversations about it and my frustrations and hers as well, always with the same outcome as to what’s going on, she just says “I’m broken”. She still masturbates just never wants sex, and says she’s frustrated because she wants sex but can never get herself to the point of pulling the trigger on having it. I’ve still tried to keep the romance alive, grand gestures, cleaning the whole house, taking her on nice dates, making smooth moves etc, even have tried working on myself and my physique….no change. Tonight was my breaking point I expressed to her a few days ago regarding my frustration, today/tomorrow we are celebrating Valentine’s Day since we both worked and tonight she straight out said she doesn’t want sex. Then proceeds to get sad and says things like “I’m sorry I’m a let down” “I feel bad because you do so much for me and I don’t put out or anything” I reassured her that it’s okay and we’ll eventually figure it out. She then proceeds to pull out her vibrator, get herself off and then continue on like it didn’t happen. I was obviously upset, it felt like a slap in the face. While doing it she said “I’m sorry, it’s not that I’m even horny, I just need to scratch that itch you know?” So I straight up asked her, “are you sure it’s not me” which she like always swears up and down it’s not. I’ve tried everything to curve the sexual frustration, masturbating, not masturbating, bought a flesh light, I’m trying it all to stay strong and not get frustrated but I feel like I’m failing more than I’m succeeding and masturating now feels like a chore or degrading………please help.
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