Just for a little context: My bf (25) and I(26) have been dating for essentially 5 years (dated for 4, broke up for a little and got back together about a year ago). When we first stated dating he was practically a virgin, and was watching porn every day before we started going out, so he had experienced some ED when we first started getting intimate. It was a mental thing more than anything else and we got through it fairly quickly, to the point that it became a non issue and we forgot about it. I always felt desired by him. Sometimes even feeling like my sex drive couldn’t keep up with his because of things like depression and the meds I was taking.
But flash forward to now, and the issues we had in the very beginning of our relationship have come back. Ive been trying to be patient about it because I know (or thought) it’s a mental thing and the more we stress about it the worse it’ll get; but the last two times we tried have really bummed me out. Ive experienced him going flaccid while he’s in my mouth.. and going flaccid after switching positions from eating me out to going in for doggy. It makes me feel like I’m unappealing to him or something. I can understand not having the drive to even initiate, but if we’ve initiated and I’m bent over naked on your bed, I can’t help but feel some type of way when your dick goes soft. He’s mentioned maybe we should use toys or something to spice things up but that makes me feel even worse when he says that . I have never needed toys for him to get me off, his dick has been enough for me, honestly. I cum 9/10 times we have sex from his dick alone. But am I not enough for him just on my own? Is it because we’ve been together for so long he’s getting bored of the same old stuff? I try to look good for him and be sexy for him. I’m in shape, have some nice curves at that. But feeling like that’s not enough for him has been bumming me out pretty bad. Is this normal?
TDLR: my bf has trouble keeping it up during sex and it’s shattering my ego because I feel like I’m boring to him after all our years of dating
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r/sex Just for a little context: My bf (25) and I(26) have been dating for essentially 5 years (dated for 4, broke up for a little and got back together about a year ago). When we first stated dating he was practically a virgin, and was watching porn every day before we started going out, so he had experienced some ED when we first started getting intimate. It was a mental thing more than anything else and we got through it fairly quickly, to the point that it became a non issue and we forgot about it. I always felt desired by him. Sometimes even feeling like my sex drive couldn’t keep up with his because of things like depression and the meds I was taking. But flash forward to now, and the issues we had in the very beginning of our relationship have come back. Ive been trying to be patient about it because I know (or thought) it’s a mental thing and the more we stress about it the worse it’ll get; but the last two times we tried have really bummed me out. Ive experienced him going flaccid while he’s in my mouth.. and going flaccid after switching positions from eating me out to going in for doggy. It makes me feel like I’m unappealing to him or something. I can understand not having the drive to even initiate, but if we’ve initiated and I’m bent over naked on your bed, I can’t help but feel some type of way when your dick goes soft. He’s mentioned maybe we should use toys or something to spice things up but that makes me feel even worse when he says that . I have never needed toys for him to get me off, his dick has been enough for me, honestly. I cum 9/10 times we have sex from his dick alone. But am I not enough for him just on my own? Is it because we’ve been together for so long he’s getting bored of the same old stuff? I try to look good for him and be sexy for him. I’m in shape, have some nice curves at that. But feeling like that’s not enough for him has been bumming me out pretty bad. Is this normal? TDLR: my bf has trouble keeping it up during sex and it’s shattering my ego because I feel like I’m boring to him after all our years of dating submitted by /u/Hmariie [link] [comments]
Just for a little context: My bf (25) and I(26) have been dating for essentially 5 years (dated for 4, broke up for a little and got back together about a year ago). When we first stated dating he was practically a virgin, and was watching porn every day before we started going out, so he had experienced some ED when we first started getting intimate. It was a mental thing more than anything else and we got through it fairly quickly, to the point that it became a non issue and we forgot about it. I always felt desired by him. Sometimes even feeling like my sex drive couldn’t keep up with his because of things like depression and the meds I was taking.
But flash forward to now, and the issues we had in the very beginning of our relationship have come back. Ive been trying to be patient about it because I know (or thought) it’s a mental thing and the more we stress about it the worse it’ll get; but the last two times we tried have really bummed me out. Ive experienced him going flaccid while he’s in my mouth.. and going flaccid after switching positions from eating me out to going in for doggy. It makes me feel like I’m unappealing to him or something. I can understand not having the drive to even initiate, but if we’ve initiated and I’m bent over naked on your bed, I can’t help but feel some type of way when your dick goes soft. He’s mentioned maybe we should use toys or something to spice things up but that makes me feel even worse when he says that . I have never needed toys for him to get me off, his dick has been enough for me, honestly. I cum 9/10 times we have sex from his dick alone. But am I not enough for him just on my own? Is it because we’ve been together for so long he’s getting bored of the same old stuff? I try to look good for him and be sexy for him. I’m in shape, have some nice curves at that. But feeling like that’s not enough for him has been bumming me out pretty bad. Is this normal?
TDLR: my bf has trouble keeping it up during sex and it’s shattering my ego because I feel like I’m boring to him after all our years of dating
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