I really need some good advice /u/Funforus694 Sex

For the record I have a cheating wife,cuck,sph kink.

My wife and I have been together for almost 4 years now. In the beginning the sex was different, but fun. She was really slutty before we were married so she would walk outside while I was mowing the lawn in a skirt showing off her pussy to me. Needless to say things were great sexually. Then all of a sudden the sex went from 100% to 0%. We were so excited to get into new sex acts like adding her ex to come and fuck her. She was always so on board because my penis is very small. But she loved the ideas we had and was all for it. But like I said like a light switch she doesn’t want anything from me sexually basically. I have settled and tried to just sext with her and she never wants to. Matter of fact the “same” woman that walked out showing her pussy gets so hush hush when I make any sexual reference, even as a joke. She gets mad at me and gets so disgusted like I’m some terrible man who wants intimacy with his wife. She is so prude now. I have tried to talk with her about this but she never wants to. I may get sex once or twice a year now. She did say that she is dealing with some trauma from her past, which Totally respect that, but why now, why all of a sudden did this trauma now cause issues? So much that she doesn’t want anything to do with me sexually. I have never been a rough man during sex. I’m very sensual, so I can’t imagine me being a trigger to something in her past. I have asked her if I am and she says absolutely not, but that she hates planning out sex. Now we are both adults with lives so a little planning sometimes happens, such as, hey afterwork maybe we be intimate. Apparently if I even hint to that it’s an instant no. Only times We ever do is when the planets align and it’s so spur of the moment she wants to have sex that I have to be up and ready in a seconds notice. Like sometimes I like to shower beforehand. Point being, masturbation has become my sex. And I miss even just going down on her. So what do I do?

For the record I have a cheating wife,cuck,sph kink.

My wife and I have been together for almost 4 years now. In the beginning the sex was different, but fun. She was really slutty before we were married so she would walk outside while I was mowing the lawn in a skirt showing off her pussy to me. Needless to say things were great sexually. Then all of a sudden the sex went from 100% to 0%. We were so excited to get into new sex acts like adding her ex to come and fuck her. She was always so on board because my penis is very small. But she loved the ideas we had and was all for it. But like I said like a light switch she doesn’t want anything from me sexually basically. I have settled and tried to just sext with her and she never wants to. Matter of fact the “same” woman that walked out showing her pussy gets so hush hush when I make any sexual reference, even as a joke. She gets mad at me and gets so disgusted like I’m some terrible man who wants intimacy with his wife. She is so prude now. I have tried to talk with her about this but she never wants to. I may get sex once or twice a year now. She did say that she is dealing with some trauma from her past, which Totally respect that, but why now, why all of a sudden did this trauma now cause issues? So much that she doesn’t want anything to do with me sexually. I have never been a rough man during sex. I’m very sensual, so I can’t imagine me being a trigger to something in her past. I have asked her if I am and she says absolutely not, but that she hates planning out sex. Now we are both adults with lives so a little planning sometimes happens, such as, hey afterwork maybe we be intimate. Apparently if I even hint to that it’s an instant no. Only times We ever do is when the planets align and it’s so spur of the moment she wants to have sex that I have to be up and ready in a seconds notice. Like sometimes I like to shower beforehand. Point being, masturbation has become my sex. And I miss even just going down on her. So what do I do?